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conservative homophobia adapted by the liberal feminists/TRA: examples

1. “homosexuals are genitalia obsessed/sex obsessed”

- old homophobic statement, obvious; gay people are perverse and shallow, sinners only obsessed with carnal aspects

2. “penis/vagina fetishism”

- as above. religious homophobes tend to see gay people as someone who has a fetish towards same sex bodies

3. “sex isn’t needed in a relationship”

- aka “but you can have a deep connection without that perverse stuff! why won’t you just be friends?”

4. “it’s shallow to reject someone only because they have a penis!”

- an accusation straight people never face; again, boiling down gay attraction and love to something purely physical and lacking depth

5. “what if you meet [opposite sex person] and fall in love?”

- “what if you meet the right man?”, nowadays changed to “what if you meet a trans girl and fall in love?”. making a point that the person just hasn’t met the “right” someone of the opposite sex yet 

6. “lesbians use strap-ons and dildos, so why don’t they like dick?”

- I heard it in conservative Poland at the age of 10 or so, from teenage boys who thought it meant lesbians actually like dick, or else they wouldn’t want to be penetrated with fake dick. they just hate men. or something. nowadays they hate trans women

7. “it’s a preference”

- again, an old notion that says it’s a choice, matter of personal tastes. “genital preference” currently

8. “homosexuals are reducing people to their genitalia”

- again, the implication that sex based attraction means objectification and reduction, that gay people see their potential partners as walking penises or vulvae and that there’s no depth or personal connection to it

9. “but sex doesn’t have to involve genitalia”

- being in an opposite sex relationship is “better” so you should go through the hassle of finding usually unsatisfying “alternative” methods instead of being with a partner you’d actually like. also a notion used in conversion therapy.

10. “homosexuality results from trauma”

- aka “it’s ok if you had trauma with penis!”. it’s the notion that exclusive same-sex attraction is just ptsd from being assaulted by an opposite sex person

11. “but lesbians like trans men/butches/intersex women” 

- again, the implication that since lesbians like “women who look like men”, it means they actually like men and seek out the closest substitute (also the notion that androgynous women are just imperfect copies of manhood) but won’t go for real men because of personal hangups 

there’s also more examples which I don’t remember in the moment or I don’t want to make this post horribly long. there’s a lot of conversion therapy rhetoric about learning to touch penis/vulva slowly and starting from touching the opposite sex through clothes etc. it’s incredibly disgusting that nobody is allowed to point it out and call out the appropriation of literal conservative sentiments without being accused of bigotry. it’s annoying to me how years and years after I see the same rhetoric I saw and hated as a child hailed as something “progressive” in Western “leftist” spaces. it’s all disgusting

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i hate when i send someone a meme in another language and they're like "uhm... translate? 😒" fucker i sent you a meme where 90% of the words have an english cognate and/or you don't need to know what they're saying to find it funny. can you at least TRY

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Guys, intent isn’t magic. This matters when we talk about males in female spaces regardless of what they are for. I’ve talked about it before, but when I was in my dv survivors group, I had male cofacilitators that led or helped lead the group. I’m sure these men believed they had good intentions. But their actions and their presence had the same result as any other male in female space. It stunted discussions, stunted growth and stunted solidarity. I lost count of how many of us would talk more before and after group than during. So I’m sorry, but I don’t care what a males intentions are or what their thought process is. This is actually still entitlement and males don’t belong in female spaces

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these motherfuckers don’t deserve any pussy. fuck their dumb asses. ladies, when a guy asks you out and suggests a place to go, ALWAYS suggest another place to see if his ass is some lame pua wannabe. fellas, stop being a bunch of insecure pussies. this ISN’T how you prove yourselves to be alphas. smfh. real men know when to flex and when to chill, this was a fucking “chill” moment and he blew trying to be “alpha.” dumbass.

“do not tolerate disagreement” wtf?!?! some of you motherfuckers want a fucking dog NOT a woman. 

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reminder to all lesbians that just because she is a lesbian and attracted to you does not mean she is the one. there are other lesbians out there. I promise. at least 5 of them

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I can't believe I grew up to be the type of person that says MOST therapy is sham pseudo science. I was getting a psych degree before a dropped out of college. I wanted to major in art therapy (I also studied art, big mistake, I am a shit artist) but to think I thought this was valuable in anyway is crazy to me now. The idea that everyone should have a therapist is just narcissistic drivel and coincides with big pharma trying to medicalize all feeling and profit off every person's dysfunction in a malfunctioning society. It may work for a small group of people, but it isn't a cure all prescription for most people.

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at this point, anything that prides itself on having an all-female cast/team/etc should have at least one trans girl if they don’t want to be considered transphobic

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This probably sounds like I'm a hater, but being around hyper feminine women has really damaged my self esteem.

I feel bad because they're just women who've fallen victim to the patriarchy. It almost seems dumb and shallow that I want distance from them.

It's just hard when you want to go out with your friends and they spend an hour doing makeup, while you just spent 20 minutes that morning to get all fresh and ready for the day. Or when you go to a restaurant with them, being one of the few without a flat stomach+thigh gap, and you slurp down your big ramen bowl while they say things like "omg this is so much food, I could swim in this bowl, this is almost too much for even two people. Or when you see them take a ton of selfies with the other feminine women in the group and only a few with you, later you see their "girl's night out" post and you're only in one picture. Or when you're exchanging stories about your sex lives and you say that you don't like doing a common sex act and they shame you and say it's something you have to do. Or when you laugh too loud or say something in a confident tone and they all look at you in silence, as if you're weird.

All these things, make me feel like I'm wrong. Like a woman who wasn't programmed right. I've even fallen back into shaving and dieting because I hate feeling so weird.

This year I'm working on returning to my old radfem ways... Even if it means being a bit lonelier

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“We want women to feel safe”

That’s nice. I want women to be safe.

“We want women to feel listened to”

That’s nice. I want women to be listened to.

“We want women to feel valued”

That’s nice. I want women to be valued.

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it's so cringe how every song on the radio by a woman is about how good she is at having sex. id make a song about being ass at sex. i twist the dick like a pretzel and bite it off that's what id sing

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Remember there is a *huge* difference between the argument "Media will make you violent" and "Media you consume can have an effect on your actions and outlook"

We know that things like right-wing TV or misogynistic podcasts have an effect on the end user over time, even if it may be slight or totally subconscious.

We understand that people can be radicalised by an echo chamber or algorithm. This does not mean it will work on everyone, or that it will work to the same extent!

If a person has a strong understanding of the forces in play, they can reject the information based on their own experiences or beliefs. But younger people are more likely to not have that experience, and are therefore more susceptible to the effects. So when we are discussing children as young as 9 accessing violent pornography, you have to consider that is their only exposure to sex. They have no experience or knowledge that it is wrong or harmful. They cannot reject it easily.

And when you add in the extreme hormone dump from orgasm, that is very, very easy way to train a mental pathway for life.

"Pornography will not suddenly make you a violent sexual criminal!" But it will reinforce pre-concieved notions, it will create a notion where there is a lack of understanding, and it will change your perceptions over time. Especially if it is violent, coercive, and misogynistic.

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radfems reblog this if it’s okay to inbox you for a casual chat sometimes. I need more friends on here, I’ve had a radfem blog for like 6 months but haven’t made any acquaintances really

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Males wouldn't achieve shit if women weren't there for them. And yet, it's women who are considered inherently incapable.

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Postmodern dictionary

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the girls are fightingggggg [readjusts my glasses, squinting] by god… it appears i was mistaken. they're…my goodness…by god

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radfems have like, uterus and ovary pins and stickers but the concept of pregnancy makes them vomit

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I’m just thinking out loud here, but there’s something about women (en masse) responding to patriarchal ideas of womanhood with improvisation-style ‘yes, and…’ rather than ‘no’. Like a sort of hedging positivity, defence without denial.

Patriarchy says ‘women are objects with no interiority, they exist to be looked at, so their value is their beauty’ and women say ‘yes, and all women are beautiful and therefore have value’, not ‘no, women are people and our appearances are irrelevant to our worth’.

Patriarchy says ‘women are unintelligent and animalistic, they have no grasp of logic and rely on emotion’ and women say ‘yes, and women’s intuition can be accurate and therefore has value’, not ‘no, women are intelligent and capable of logic’.

Patriarchy says something terrible and untrue about women, and women say ‘yes, and’ to try and find a positive spin on the negativity, rather than deny or reject it outright. Because patriarchy says ‘men are right and women are wrong’ and we internalise it.