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thinks about aspirant dane thinks about aspirant dane thinks about aspirant dane

#kaz rambles #kazthropology #fallout #fallout prime #fallout on prime #aspirant dane

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oops! it seems i tripped and dropped several million free books, papers, and other resources

https://annas-archive.org

https://sci-hub.se

https://z-lib.is

https://libgen.is

https://libgen.rs

https://www.pdfdrive.com

https://library.memoryoftheworld.org

https://monoskop.org/Monoskop

https://libcom.org

https://libretexts.org

http://classics.mit.edu

https://librivox.org

https://standardebooks.org

https://www.gutenberg.org

https://core.ac.uk

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sometimes a family is you, your artistic succubus girlfriend, a hob who isn’t always there but makes sure he’s there when he needs to be, your quite rat-kin chef, the bard who’s reinventing music, the old lady across the street, a cryptic old man (who can see the future?), a loitering college student, your old adventuring buddies, the dire-cat that goes where it wants when it wants, and the leader of the mob.

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The way you change your immediate reactions to things is that you catch yourself having an uncharitable/bigoted/overly judgmental thought and you catch it and replace it and then you do that a hundred times a day for your whole life and eventually one day like five years later you realize that you think differently now and you’ll always be working on something but that’s how life goes and that’s fine.

#hopepunk #kaz reblogs #humanity

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if you’re hurting because of something you’ve done that hurt someone, i would like to tell you i’ve been in the wrong, i’ve been mistaken, i’ve been selfish too. and i’m not proud of it either, but you’re not alone in your humanity. there isn’t a single person in this world who hasn’t done or said something harmful, but the difference is how we deal with it and how we learn from it. please, please let go of it. please remember to give yourself as many chances as needed.  

#actively working on this #it’s sos o hard to let myself make mistakes #especially when it’s with someone i love #but im trying and i’ll get there eventually and that’s the important part #reminders #recovery #kaz reblogs

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my beige flag is i want my partner to take a food safety course before we have our own place

#and that’s on contamination ocd/cwh #kaz rambles #kazthropology #adulting

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brainrots over a show that ended 20 years ago

#kaz rambles #kazthropology #btvs #buffy the vampire slayer #tv #tv shows

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Something that really helped me was reframing some of my negative thoughts. While I wasn’t able to go from negative to positive (and it’s so valid if you can’t), I was able to go from negative to neutral.

Some examples:

“It’s my own fault. I should have known better…” could become “I did what I could with the information I had at the time.”

“My problems are nothing compared to other people’s” could become “I can still validate my own feelings. They are still real, regardless of what others experience. Them having it “worse” doesn’t mean I don’t get to have feelings.”

“I’m such an idiot. How could I do that?” could become “I made a mistake. It sucks. But I’m human, not an idiot. I can learn from this.”

#sharing this for whoever needs it #recovery #self acceptance #kaz reblogs

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"boop war" this and "tumblr pvp" that. are we not all bonding? have you not met people you would have never heard of? do you not look at the url of the stranger who booped you and think wow, i just met someone who thought of me, even if its just for a boop, before hitting the boop button on them as well? do you not gain joy from this? even in the heat of battle, our humanity shows itself. we glance into the eyes of an opponent who holds our gaze ever so slightly too long for someone who's supposed to be an unfeeling soldier and we think to ourselves i'll miss you, stranger before we inflict a killing blow. the boops show us we're human

#kaz reblogs #boop

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Ceaseless booper smack your paw upon this wretched thing

#kaz reblogs #boop

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hello tumblr

#kaz reblogs #get booped besties

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normalize nontraditional forms of affection

my partner does little kissy noises instead of kissing me most of the time and its the cutest fucking thing. some people prefer to link arms rather than hold hands, or to squeeze your hand instead of saying i love you. and all of that is Good.

#kazthropology #kaz rambles #humanity #affirmations #affection #love language #physical affection

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I feel bad responding to a very beautiful, poetically written ventpost with prosaic advice, but I'm going to say this:

Resilience is a skill. Being able to shrug things off is a skill. being able to curb your immediate emotional reaction to something, being able to process your feelings in a way that means you can do something with them rather than being consumed by them, and being able to soothe yourself til you can sit down and process those feelings? that's a skill.

It is a skill that you can learn, and it is a skill you can get better at.

unfortunately, like foreign languages, it is a skill that is easier to learn when you are a child. just like you learn a native language from the people around you, you learn from the people around you- usually your parents/guardians- how to react to things that hurt in the moment, how to soothe yourself until you can process them, and how to process them until they don't hurt anymore.

if you're highly reactive, the odds are good that, for whatever reason, you never learnt resilience as a kid. The people who were supposed to teach you how to handle the weight of the world didn't, or couldn't, or wouldn't.

if you try to learn this skill as an adult, you have to convince your brain to do things that it was never taught how to do, after it thinks it does not need to learn this anymore. in the same way that it's goddamn hard for a native adult English speaker to sit down and learn how to speak Russian like a native, if you never learnt how to be resilient when you were a kid? it's going to be a bitch to pick it up.

if you learnt "the world is scary and out to get you and there's nothing you can do about it, you WILL feel EVERYTHING ALL THE TIME" (or "showing your feelings in the moment will get you hurt, you need to bottle everything up until the bottle breaks and you get hurt with fifteen years of feelings at once", or "minor inconveniences are the prelude to The Adult In Your House Who Shouts coming down on you like a load of bricks, if things aren't going perfectly then you're about to suffer", or any number of other things), trying to learn that the world doesn't work like that any more is hard and it hurts. Unless you're really good at figuring out what you're thinking and why, you will probably need to get professional help.

You're not from the wrong planet. You just never learnt something that's as basic a part of being a human as talking or counting. You were failed, and it's cruel and unjust that no one helped you pick up the slack.

....But adults learn Russian every day. Adults teach themselves Russian every day.

You can learn how to do this. You can learn how to get better at dealing with the stuff that hurts you. You can become more resilient and less reactive.

you are not doomed to get hit by everything that happens to you like it's a truck forever.

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what companies who sell you anti aging stuff don't want you to know is that if you're chill about aging, your perception of attractiveness changes as you get older. there is no "wall" where you suddenly become ugly and unfuckable because in my experience what actually happens is you get into your thirties and suddenly realize that people in their thirties are hot as fuck and the "flaws" that the beauty industry wants you to panic about are a feature not a bug, and based on the std statistics in nursing homes I don't really expect that trajectory to change.

#kaz reblogs #aging my beloved

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miles edgeworth is just magistrate astarion

#kazthropology #kaz rambles #video games killed the radio star #video games #phoenix wright #ace attorney #miles edgeworth #astarion ancunin #bg3 #baldur’s gate 3

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to be known is to be loved. watching your partner make their food to see how they like it so you can make it yourself, leaving medicines out if they’re in pain, knowing when to back off if they need more space, specifically telling them that you want to spend time with them or trying to be more physically affectionate because of love language preferences. every little thing adds up

#kaz rambles #kazthropology #humanity #hopepunk #lovecore #domestic love

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no because i don’t think you’re hearing him. sun coming up on a dream come around, one hundred years from the empire now. a century since the civil war and the anglo-irish treaty. a century since the partition. the martyrs of our revolution, their spinnin' caused the earth to shake. the signatories of the proclamation (+ the rebels at large), and how the public revolted at their executions and interment. how support starting pouring in from overseas to fuel the coming resistances. the problem brought its own solution, they power now the world we've made. the partition leading to the troubles, and the horror of the rest of the world when the events of bloody sunday were televised. the decision to drop murder charges on one of the last soldiers involved being overturned in 2022, when hozier probably would’ve begun writing empire now. nicra. the anglo-irish agreement in ‘85. the good friday agreement. how incredibly far the free state has come, largely on the backs of the revolutionaries and visionaries who gave their whole lives and deaths for this to happen one hundred years ago, and all who came before them. the future’s so bright, it’s burning.

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