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mr sandman

man me a sand

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#they dont got me frankly but i do listen to their music anyway bc it fucks

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this does not apply if you wear exclusively leggings. Those things tear all the time you need like a million on standby

#well okay. i own more than 6 pairs of pants bc i have loungewear sweatpants + jeans + dress pants #but if we're talking 'pants i wear outside the house on a regular basis' it's just me and my 3 pairs of jeans against the world #but u gotta have formal wear!! and comfy home wear!!

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to be very straightforward about the topic instead of sitting up on euphemism hill i think pedophilia is bad because it is wrong to rape and molest kids, and not for any other reason--and blurring the line between activities that involve the rape and sexual exploitation of children (whether as perpetrator, beneficiary, spectator, or enabler) and ones that don't generally indicates that you care more about what you find Icky rather than the safety of children.

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girl are you sure???????????????

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Hey Jen! I sent an ask a while back, but I think it got buried... I dont think im part of your audience (im ftm and in my mid 20s), but I want to ask.. how does someone know theyre attracted to women? Im not proud to admit ive been dealing with internalized homophobia throughout my life, but there were times where I feel I was also attracted to girls- whether at high school or long distance. Though because of circumstances (rejection, quick crush, or not knowing the person well enough if at all), these crushes never stayed.

Due to some... posts online though, im wondering if maybe it´s just performative on my end, and im just faking the attraction. So I wanted to know how you knew you were a lesbian and attracted to women, if thats alright? I am so sorry for the bother! I hope youre having a lovely day ;o;

I am so sorry I did not respond to your first ask. I am afraid three jobs and life has kept me away from writing as much as I would like to.

In my early teens I was pretty sure I was attracted to girls mostly because boys were just "icky". I mean teen boys can be just gross and it was no surprise to me that I enjoyed the company of girls over them. My mom told me "acting like a boy" was a phase and don't worry about it. To be truthful I was not worried about it until she said that and others backed it up with "why do you wan to be a boy" or "stop trying to look like a boy".

While in college many of my women friends were experimenting with their sexuality. It was the mid 80's and the expectation for college kids in my surroundings was that we would or at least could sleep with men and women to see what suited us. "Try it while we are young" was the motto. I just could not bring myself to date much. I want out with a few men (college boys) and they were okay but the whole time I was just like "how do I get out of this faster". I had dated ONE boy in high school and I was continually stressed when it was time for a date. Mom said it was excitement but it sure felt like dread.

After college I dated a man for two weeks. He was a super nice man but it just felt like I was dating him because I thought that is what I was supposed to do. Date a man. Once that was over, thankfully I just decided to let it all go for a while. To just enjoy drinking with my friends and dating. I started hanging out with people I wanted to hang out with and that was mostly my gay and lesbian and bi friends. I kissed an old college friend whom I had no romantic interest in but she has this sexual energy I could not deny. We never saw each other again but I knew after kissing her that no man could ever feel that nice in my arms.

What opened my eyes was when my first girlfriend and I met at the bar playing pool and she "aggressively" flirted with me. I was scared, nervous but also had this weird tingly excited feeling. My ears burned, I thought about how she might feel if i held her, how soft her lips would be. How she would react if I touched her and even now thinking of that makes me a bit flushed. She wasn't anything more than other women I knew she just had a chemistry that was vibrant to me. I knew it was because I was a lesbian and she was a woman I was attracted to, both physically and mentally. She was witty and funny and a bit pushy. (for the record, we work together, and she still is a bit bossy and I love her for it).

With men I have never thought beyond the idea that i HAD to kiss them to make them happy or because I was supposed to. Not once did my whole body feel like it was on fire in the best way with any man. I had to listen to my body and thoughts outside of the pressures and opinions of others, even my friends. I had to be honest with MYSELF, something many of us are used to not being. We Lie to ourselves to make going through the motions of dating someone we don't want to because we know that is what the world expects and rewards.

It really is okay to date around without giving in to intimacy. It is fine to experiment and get it wrong because that might help you get it right. And it probably won't take many attempt before you realize who (what dates) make you happy and excited and which ones are just dates. Be honest with yourself and remember you don't owe anyone a second, third etc date.

#the dread before going out with men that u think could be excitement... #kissing a girl for the first time and knowing a man would never make u feel that way... #so fucking real. it is such a comfort to see so nany lesbians with a similar experience to mine

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hey cowboy jen! im sure you get this question a lot but do you have any advice for a baby butch looking to present more masculinely? im so much happier when i feel more masculine, but no matter hard i try i feel like i always look too femme for my liking. any tips?

Don't make yourself smaller in the presence of others. We are sometimes conditioned to shrink in and move aside. Stand tall and look people in the eye as you nod hello or acknowledge you see them. Don't pull your shoulders in when passing people or walking in a crown. I am not saying be a "bull in a China shop" in a group of people but don't be the one who pulls your body in. This eventually seems to come naturally to butches once we shake off the need to make ourselves less seen.

Start with boxers or boxer briefs as underwear. It is the weirdest advice I was given from an older butch and she spot on. Shrugging off the bikini underwear with flowers did wonders to make me feel more attractive and confident as a butch.

Shop at farm supply stores or check out old man fashion at estate sales and thrift shops. You can find unique and fun clothing for less until you find a style you love.

Lastly, don't worry about what others think. As a butch you will get perceived as masculine no matter what. While butch is how we are perceived in many aspects it is also how we move in the world and relate to women. So enjoy opening doors, making women smile and feel safe and your butch confidence will get stronger all the time.

#this is so good

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it's so funny how graffiti is like a non issue that effortlessly reveals peoples' reactionary tendencies.

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Being transfem really exposes just how completely full of shit society is about breasts, huh? Like apparently there was some nebulous point sometime after I started E where it stopped being okay to have my tits out in public because....... reasons i guess? Just an arbitrary event horizon of indecency

you don’t think i’m a woman? that’s fine i guess that means i can go topless everywhere now

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Canadians, where do you live?

Ontario

Quebec

Nova Scotia

New Brunswick

Manitoba

British Columbia

Prince Edward Island

Saskatchewan

Alberta

Newfoundland and Labrador

Northwest Territories

Yukon/Nunavut

Had to merge Yukon and Nunavut bc of the 12 option limit :(

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fabian is such a sweetie and he will not convince me otherwise. genuinely there’s no reason for him to make up with gertie bc the rest of them have enough good standing with her to work with her, he fully did that for kristen. the way he approached it too, wasn’t like “oh im gonna get her off my back so we can deal with the honey thing” no it was pure good soul lou wilson shining through fabian going “hey if there’s even a BUMP on this road to love for my friend because of me? i’m repaving the entire fucking street lets go”

#d20 #fhjy spoilers #hes insane but he also loves his friends more than life itself

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my favourite characterisation that's so unnecessary but so real about the bad kids is that fabian is almost never-present in the groupchat

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fabian buying out kroms diner and hiring hudol kids to create the right atmosphere and make himself look good. this is the most insane thing fabian has EVER done. and I'm including the leviathan fight.

#d20 #need to study this boy under a microscope #fhjy spoilers

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my apologies siobhan thompson i was not familiar with your sapphic swag

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hey siobhan? what if i cried?? right in front of you???

#she's sooooo......... ms abernant / o'shaughnessy u are my everything #d20 #fhjy spoilers

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BRIAN MURPHY YOU GOTTA HONOR THE COCK. YOU SIMPLY MUST HONOR THE COCK

#i love that he clearly realizes what he's about to say but still follows through. king #d20

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my figayda crumbs? acquired in the fucking funniest way possible