#a friendly gift

[yourdarlingness]

⸝⸝　SANGUAMARE　⌢⌢⌢　｡✦

　　( SANG · UWAH · MAER )

──　a gender related to being a vampire who likes the idea, daydreams about, or even goes on a date at night with another vampire or other supernatural beings　｡

　🦇　｡　@accessmogai for image ID　︵︵

　DAY 4 of @inhumanic ' s 88+ event !

#🫧 gift for all ┈ ♡ #mogai friendly #mogai pride #mogai gender #pro mogai #mogai flag #mogai coining #mogai safe #mogai #xenogender pride #xenogenders #xeno coining #xenogender #coined gender #coined by me #coining post #gender coining #vampgender

[a-system-of-giving]

A System of Giving 2023

Yes, we're back for another year of filling everyone's lives with more plural fanfiction!

This year we're trying out a prompt meme challenge. This means everyone will submit prompts from whatever fandom or lack thereof you'd like, and you can pick whichever prompts you'd like to write for. Remember that this all needs to have something to do with plurality

If you're plural or a questioning plural and you want to write, go sign up here!

Reminder that this exchange is completely pro-endo

Sign-ups close: November 30th

Assignments due: December 25th

Works revealed: December 31st

#plural system #actuallyplural #plural gift exchange #gift exchange #plural gang #endogenic #endo friendly #pro endo #plural prompt meme #plurality #prompt meme

[sun-e-chips]

It’s Christmas morning and your parents actually got you that 7ft tall robot jester you’ve been raving about and now you have to awkwardly unwrap them in front of the rest of your family.

#this post was inspired by something I read a long long time ago that I couldn’t hunt down if my life depended on it #its really funny to imagine your hyperfixation in real life and your family seeing it with absolutely no context #how would you even begin to explain it #I would also like to think that the daycare attendant would just seamlessly fit into your family for that day and would help with #preparing the Christmas meals and cleaning up all the torn wrappings and ribbons etc #if you have yunger relatives the dca is running around with them playing silly little games while the adults are sipping eggnog catching up #just a really wholesome hypothetical where everything is peaceful and happy and everyone gets along #and no one really questions your big and very friendly sociable gift #anywhooooo it’s October why am I thinking about this #dca #dca Christmas #sb daycare attendant #Christmas #hypotheticals #crunch ramble

[freakkisser]

thinking about sharing an important stuffed animal with your f/o. maybe its a childhood toy of yours and youre giving it to them to comfort them, maybe you bought a new one specially for them, no matter how you came into possession of the stuffed animal you give it to them to show them you care, to help them feel safe when you cant make them feel safe, for them to hold when they cant hold you. its a gift for them to hold onto for however long they need

#thinking about ciel #obviously #i have a toy i love so much and im thinking about giving it to him as a gift when our parents sent me away #ciel never lost it somehow #it’s special to us #♡ canineluvz imagine #self ship #self shipping #selfship #f/o #fictional other #familial f/o #romantic f/o #platonic f/o #proship selfship #proselfship #proship friendly

[haunted-xander]

You ever think about how Ryne probably got a more honest yet closed-off Thancred while Minfilia got a more disingenuine yet open Thancred?

Like, the Thancred Minfilia knew and grew up with was the one we saw in arr, the flirty, teasing and sassy but friendly man who was clearly not very honest seeing as no one- not even Minfilia- noticed how worn out he was from his constant work. Even just by hw he's noticably more prickly and. not quite rude but. more outwardly cynical? He's always been kinda cynical, but in arr his teasing and banter hides it well, which never disappears but is more. natural? genuine? now. Krile directly points out that he's much more brusque than she expected of him based on how Minfilia described him.

And sure, you could attribute that behaviour to his grief and stress (which is certainly a part of it) but considering he acts much the same in ew, when he's finally moved on and come to terms with everything (and is also post-shb character development), I think it's safe to say that this is the most honest we've seen Thancred be.

But this is all Ryne has known him to be. She's never seen Thancred be flirtatious or as social and friendly as he is in arr, she's only seen him be brusque and cynical but still teasing and kind. But he's also far more closed off from her (and others) bc of That Whole Deal going on. Urianger has told her more about Thancred's true feelings than Thancred himself has. and even that's not a lot, for Urianger is not only not a mind reader and doesn't know everything that goes on on Thancred's head, but also is reluctant to share more than is necessary since it's not his place to divulge these things (and also he himself is not free from the folly of emotional self-isolation).

With Minfilia though, he's open enough that she's never doubted that he cared for and loved her even when he couldn't spend much time with her, and she felt comfortable enough to admonish him when he did his usual self-destructive behaviour (you know, becoming an alchoholic at 17 and All That Entails)

Just. food for thought

#theres a lot of these parallels between ryne & minfilia in regards to their relationship with thancred #like. the way things are so similar yet so *different* from each other #same same but opposite ya know #like how thancred blames himself for warburtons death and by extention minfilia being orphaned even tho it was in no way his fault #vs how he knowingly took ryne away from ran'jit bc he knew that whatever other life shed live would be better than what she had #when minfilia first experienced the echo thancred knew wat it was but didnt tell her (for circle of knowing related reasons) #whereas he told ryne everything he could in regards to her powers and circumstances #he gifted minfilia her dagger for self-defense but never taught her how to fight #but ryne was not only gifted daggers by him but also taught how to properly fight and fend for herself with them #and he trusted minfilia in the main care of f'lhaminn while he took a more secondary support role #but he assigned himself the primary caretaker for ryne while the others (read: urianger) became secondary ones #(granted due to rynes situation he kinda had no other choice at the time) #(but im sure he wouldve taken the same role even if he could theoretically have safely handed her over to someone else) #also just to be clear thancred IS genuinely social and friendly even hw & up #just not as extroverted #he spends a lot of time either by himself or with fellow scions/other close companions #rather than with whatever lady hes trynna impress next #anyway. yet another day of being Completelt Normal about this complicated family situation #thancred waters #ryne waters #minfilia warde #final fantasy #final fantasy 14 #final fantasy xiv #ff14 #ffxiv #xander rambles #xander being insane about ryne

[sincerely-sofie]

we dont have enough Ark & Kip interaction

therefore, i would like to suggest them fretting over an injured Twig

#Ark and Kip’s eventual friendship is founded on venting about Twig being reckless and an unending fountain of anxiety #there’s other stuff they talk about #but their shared stress source is the gateway to a friendly relationship #and then an actual friendship later on #the present is a gift au #pmd darkrai #pmd2 partner #pokémon mystery dungeon #pokemon mystery dungeon #pmd explorers #pmd sky #pmd eos #pmd2 #pmd #sofie answers asks #stuff by sofie

[hellenhighwater]

Wait is that actually your ex-boyfriend's hand? What happened to him?

He works with real live dinosaurs so....

Nah, he and are are super good friends--we were before we dated, and remained so after, because the breakup was extremely amicable, and he's one of those people who's a terribly good gift-giver. Most years we still exchange gifts sometime between our respective birthdays and christmas, and he sent me that hand (it's a replica) as a gift one year. I made him the archaeopteryx fossil bowl this year.

Just because this is the OG bone-stealing witch website, I will clearly state that the only real human bones I possess are my own. My animal bones are all either scavenged myself or gifted to me by the people that scavenged them. (I have a sort of energy that consistently makes people go "I saw this dead thing and thought of you!")

I don't have a problem with owning human remains that are ethically sourced, but the reality is that unless you can very precisely trace the origin of human remains to the specific person who clearly and unequivocally stated in life that they're cool with someone keeping and displaying their now-unused crunchy bits, it's...probably not ethical. So if someone has some of their own bones that they're done using that they want to send my way: cool, let's talk, ideally before it's necessary to have the conversation by seance. Otherwise, I will continue to be perfectly happy with my replica remains.

I'd like to will my crunchy bits to someone who will make dramatic monologues to my noggin, but hopefully that's not an issue I'll need to deal with for a while yet.

#is the gift giving secretly a competition? maybe but in a fun way! both of my college ex boyfriends and I are still close #in fact we're all going on a big college buddies camping trip this summer #my third college ex boyfriend no longer exists #because she came out as trans #good for her! #we are also still on friendly terms but we don't keep in touch as much #anyways truly genuinely i dont care what's done with my body after i die but I DO want my estate used #to put up a really dramatic ominous angel in a cemetery somewhere #so that future melodramatic counterculture kids have a place to take terrible futuremyspace selfies #it is the gift i wish to give to future generations #nobodys making morbid statuary for the graveyards anymore

[mccoyquialisms]

even though the time quangle live show stuff is technically not canon, my Adaine and Fabian as inseparable besties agenda lives on ❤️

#he was just hanging out in Basrar’s while she worked #giving her some god awful complicated order just to be a shit #helps her at work while complaining loudly the entire time #and then once they arrive in calorum with everyone #Fabian immediately turning to Adaine [terrified and in tears] Adaine is that a giant rat???? #Fabian uses her pipe gift to try to be friendly with Kugrash (it sort of works???) #constantly looking at each other like ‘what the fuck is happening’ #Adaine casts telepathic bond and ONLY includes Fabian ahdjdkska #she has his back even when he’s doing ill advised PVP and gives him a portent roll #Lou was SO excited Siobhan rolled for Adaine he picked her up and spun around with her on stage #and they carried that energy throughout the session #their bond is so deep it transmitted over time and space ❤️ #dimension 20 spoilers #dimension 20 live #dimension 20 #fantasy high #dropout #my musings #d20 live #fabian seacaster #adaine abernant

[citnamora]

Athena Cykes is my favorite part of Dual Destinies at the moment. I adore her theme. It reminds me a lot of magical girls which I can definitely see reflected in some of her concept designs. I also enjoy how she started psycho analyzing Apollo out of nowhere. That was funny. She's easily my favorite character in this weird mirror world.

#aa5 #mitch plays aa5 #aa5 spoilers #ace attorney #dual destinies #athena cykes #kizuki kokone #even if I end up hating the writing of the game I'm still going to enjoy her character #she seems to be a gifted kid like franziska where she grew up fast and wants to be taken seriously #but with her own flavor of being a friendly. weird girl. psychology dork who psycho analyzes people she just met #like athena honey your therapy attempt is sweet but this is really not the time <3

[thebramblewood]

The Vatores Present... A Decennial Vampire Bash: Part I

I'll be using Quiet Voices Memorial by the extremely talented @sweetbeagaming throughout this entire sequence (with some likely inferior modifications by me to make it more vampire-friendly).

Previous / Next

Lilith: Must we really sit for one of these every goddamn year?

Caleb: It's decennial, Lil, just like your silly little parties. And, yes, we must. It's important to preserve the passage of time.

Lilith: You say that, but don't tell me there aren't decades you'd rather never think about again, let alone find hanging on your wall for an eternity.

Waiter: [whispers] Ms. Vatore, your guests are beginning to arrive.

Lilith: Oh, thank god! I feel like I'm calcifying over here.

Caleb: But the portrait's not even close to finished!

Lilith: Forget the portrait, Caleb. If they're a professional, which they should be, considering the obscene amount of money you paid them, they can finish the job without us. Now, come. We have a grand entrance to make. And can you at least pretend to be happy to be here? I even let you invite some of your dreadfully dull vegetarian friends.

Caleb: Would you really call everyone else on the list your friends?

Lilith: Not in the strictest sense of the word, no, but I like to know I've got them all under my thumb regardless.

#ts4 #sims 4 #sims 4 story #ts4 story #simblr #story: hzid #bramblewoodvamps #i learned the word decennial for this! #and a friendly reminder that likes are always deeply appreciated #but if you're enjoying the story & want other people to know about it reblogging is always the best gift you could give me #ofc i don't expect it for every post but if you particularly loved one it's a good way to show it! #lilith vatore #caleb vatore

[divinescannibalism]

voixeic attraction

✦ ✦ a type of attraction based around voices, an attraction to voice(s)

OO1 : requested by; no one, self indulgent

OO2 : coined by; the overseer

OO3 : voixeic = voix (voice on french) + the suffic -eic

(PT: voixeic attraction

a type of attraction based around voices, an attraction to voice(s), END PT)

#୨୧ — heaven gifts｡ #mogai flags #mogai friendly #mogai flag #mogai pride #mogai blog #mogai coining #actually mogai #mogai #liom term #mogai term #term coining #label coining #flag coining #tertiary attraction #tertiary orientation #tertiary coining

[yourdarlingness]

──　CALIADORCAKIC　⸝⸝　︵︵

。　a catgender related to calico cats, being adorable, and liking cakes

DAY 1 — cats ｡ @dolliecworpse ' s coining event !

···　note :　first time coining !! EEEEE

#🫧 gift for all ┈ ♡ #dolliecworpse500 #was very anxious when posting this #mogai #mogai safe #mogai pride #mogai identity #mogai coining #xenogenders #pro mogai #caliadorcakic #mogai flag #mogai gender #mogai community #gender coining #coining post #coining event #mogai friendly #coined by me #coined gender #catgender

[aceredshirt13]

extremely funny to me seeing people say that Bertie has a heart of gold when his immediate solution to getting Freddie back together with his fiancée was to kidnap a child

#red randomness #jeeves and wooster #bertie wooster #100 and up neat #don’t get me wrong I love him dearly #but I think he like Watson and Bunny suffer from ‘he isn’t actually as nice as people think he is’ syndrome #because Bertie can be a judgy bitch! he’s resentful of several children! he makes unflattering judgments about appearances! #he told Sippy to steal a cop’s hat! he ripped a tag off his uncle’s gift and claimed it was his! #he told Jeeves to send Bingo a telegram telling him to KILL HIMSELF- #like #he is very dedicated to his insane friends even when they aren’t great to him #and he will go to great lengths for the people he cares about #and he will talk about how great Jeeves is to everyone who will listen and is better to him certainly than previous employers #and he’s a generally cheerful and amiable and friendly person #but heart of gold?? Perhaps Not #very few people in these stories are objectively entirely good and a lot of the humor and characterization comes from that #because you like Bertie despite it all. you love him and want him to be happy

[shrkgirl]

🐋 ）﹒Yuri Lesbian Flag : : a flag for lesbians who like yuri ! @eerieangels ~ 🐟

#🌊 : “Gifts of The Sea” #Yuri Lesbian #lesbian #lesbian flag #sapphic #mogai #mogai safe #mogai coining #mogai friendly #mogai positivity #mogai blog #pro mogai #liom #liom safe

[laura1633]

"There’s also the burning smell of tobacco that Charles insists is a sure fire way to identify a young alpha is interested. Max is still a little unsure of that though, he’s never met a young alpha who didn’t smell of burning tobacco." MAX I AM SOBBING listen to your Alpha once 🤣

Haha he is just far too oblivious and innocent 😂

#asks #Friendly Gifts fic

[naranjapetrificada]

This is going to be long so the short version is this:

I convinced my therapist to watch the 🌟Gay Pirate Show🌟 and now I have to confront a previously unidentified and terrifyingly deep emotional wound that could be as transformative to heal as it is terrifying to approach.

My therapist and I have a lot of let's say...demographic things in common that have made this the most successful therapeutic relationship I've ever had, but also that just made me think he might like the show. It's no secret that ofmd has been a deeply moving experience for its viewers, and queer, neurodivergent, and/or people of color have written at length about the special ways it touches us (or doesn't). Those are three categories both he and I fit into and it feels relevant to say that for context.

So yes I thought he might like it, but I also wanted to pick his brain about Big Feelings it was giving me that I hadn't experienced with the same intensity with other media/fandoms. Y'all, he gave me a completely unexpected reading on the show (and its story and its fan works) and why it makes us feel So Much that I haven't seen anywhere before.

When I say Big Feelings, I mean like I've literally had to swear off a couple of pretty innocuous categories on AO3 ("Growing Old Together" and "Domestic Fluff") because they would devastate me in ways that I couldn't attribute to anything specific. Growing Old Together comes with the possibility of death separating them, which is heartbreaking, but that didn't feel like it was the thing that was gutting me. Domestic Fluff could probably be called the most innocuous tag ever, but anything that saw our blorbos settling down and watching the Revenge sail off into the distance was fucking me up as well.

There are plenty of reasons why OFMD makes queer people feel so much, but when I say this was fucking me up I mean like, well, remember when people outside of classical music started learning about appoggiatura? Like intellectually knowing why I was crying but at a loss how intense everything felt. And my therapist (who is as good at analyzing a text as he is at being a therapist) was like "oh, it could be all the grief."

The grief.

The audacity of this motherfucker (affectionate).

It's a romcom! It's a romcom that we were explicitly told would have a happy ending! It's a romcom where the characters will get to sail off into the sunset together like they want and like we want for them! Stede and Ed, after four decades of self-hatred and trauma and fear and isolation, somehow find each other. And one of the sweetest things about their story is that it's a late in life love story, because it's incredibly inspiring for someone to get to experience a part of life they thought wasn't for them. The inescapable fact that their time together will be shorter than any of us would like is sad but not unaccountably sad to me, because of how much joy they'll be able to cram into the time they have left. I could be wrong but I don't think that alone is the source of what's been overwhelming me.

Grief is a constant presence in the world-building and the storytelling because grief is a natural response to well, so many things about being alive. Grieving is some of the hardest shit any of us ever have to do, but it's also so universal and so many of the things that make us uniquely human also make grieving well, maybe not easier, but something we can endure and process through ritual, community, and the example of those we've witnessed grieving their own losses. Many kinds of grief come with narratives that you can accept or reject all or parts of, but the narrative exists.

But have you ever heard of disenfranchised loss? Loss that's not easily labeled or classified or given the time or space or understanding it deserves? Have you experienced a loss like that? Can you imagine how much more difficult it makes the grieving process?

Well what my therapist suggested, the thing that knocked me on my ass hard enough that I had to come have Online Feelings about it, is that eventually, we all have to mourn ourselves. Not necessarily in a "mortality is inevitable" way (that happens to everyone) but in ways that are often unique to people like him and me (black, ND, queer). Even if we work on ourselves, if we grow and heal our trauma and feel at home in our identities and our bodies and build beautiful lives, eventually we will be forced to mourn the selves that we never got to be in the societies in which we live and the selves we once had to become to survive this long.

And that mourning is a kind of disenfranchised loss, with no clear path forward. Obviously this conversation happened within the context of everything my therapist knows about me as an individual, but I thought certain things might resonate with other fans as well so I wanted to talk about it. The story of this bizarre little man and his remarkable second act and his lovely little found family and his incredibly beautiful love story (that we've been guaranteed will end happily) is still haunted by the specific kind of grief that comes from learning what's possible, and regretting that you didn't know it was possible sooner.

And does anybody have more delayed milestones, later-in-life discoveries, and/or need to invent places for themselves than those of us on the social fringes? Than those of us in societies unequipped for (or actively hostile to) the ways we exist and the things we need to survive and thrive? Than those of us who have to create our own narratives or be saddled with inaccurate or harmful narratives created by others, or even no narrative at all?

And narrative is so much. Narrative is everything. Narrative is the story we tell ourselves and each other and that literally shapes our reality. So those story beats where we discover something better than what came before are inherently stories with loss and will require mourning, because we mourn loss.

Even when the story has a happy ending. Especially when the story has a happy ending for someone who never thought they would be allowed to have one.

I mean just like, FUCKING HELL. I can't blame anyone for this but myself. I know my therapist. I know how insightful he can be. I did this to myself and now I have to live with it. But my god is it a massive mountain I'm about to have to climb now. My therapist and I have always found it helpful to discuss media that makes me Feel Things (see all the trauma work that came from Life is Strange) but if you had told me that I'd be looking into this new dark cave of unprocessed shit thanks to what I thought was just gonna be a harmless little gay pirate show starring fucking Murray from Flight of the Concords I would probably just have assumed you were in the middle of having a stroke and taken off to get you the medical attention you desperately needed.

#not to be dramatic #but I definitely worry this might still be dramatic #my therapist is great #but the problem with a good therapist #is that sometimes they will fucking read you #and then you get whiplash #don't be afraid to bring up media that speaks to you in therapy #you never know what might come of it #or how much it might shake you #I should also be clear that all this grief in a story with a happy ending isn't a bad thing #it just kind of is #and when you enjoy it #just enjoy it #every moment of joy is a gift #no matter the context #go ahead and grieve yourself #also I couldn't find an elegant way to fit this in #but the storytelling is very neurodivergent #or at least unfolds in a way that is friendly to my neurodivergence #that's why I'm not a big TV watcher anyway #but I was able to sit down and mainline this #it's the first new show I've watched in literal years #ofmd #our flag means death #ofmd meta #our flag means death meta #🤯🤯🤯 #😳😳😳 #disenfranchised loss