#if anyone wants me to add more cw/tw tags please DM just-aro

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is getting pissed off at the fact that the person you want to be with in a queerplatonic way cannot reciprocate properly and prioritizes their romantic relationship with some girl instead

honestly had to debate if i wanted to post this.

it is never the fault of another for not reciprocating feelings. additionally, "some girl" is... hm. i do not like blaming someone for someone else being attracted to them.

if you are upset, angry, grieving what could have been - please name those feelings and own them. "I feel upset that a person I am attracted to is not mutually attracted to me. This is not their fault. Additionally, it is no one's fault for my qp interest having a romantic interest in someone else. I cannot control what others feel, nor what I feel, but I can chose how I respond to these emotions. I can respect that this person is not attracted to me, the same way I would like someone to respond to me if they were romantically attracted to me and I did not reciprocate this. I will find ways to cope with my upset, such as ripping paper, writing down my feelings, and doing things I enjoy."

i understand that this probably sucked, but i strongly suggest not working through negative emotions by sending an angry submission to a public blog. there's a difference between venting that a situation feels like it's stacked against you and blaming others for how they feel. this crosses that line.

#Anonymous #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod axel #idk how to tag this #but uhhh #given my own personal vibes on it #victim blaming cw #if anyone wants me to add more cw/tw tags please DM just-aro #this blog does not have DMs and there are. many things in the inbox. #(600+) #don't worry about messaging from an unaffiliated main or smth i do not keep that close of watch on who interacts lmao #lmao also a friend proof read this for me #and we came to the conclusion that this sounds exactly like a flipped script of a misogynistic 'i got friendzoned' asshole #and that if i had the space to talk about it i could also make a whole note of 'properly' reciprocating