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tadpoles-and-daydreams · 1 month

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Hey there! Hekate has pointed me toward your blog and I just wanted to say hi 💞

I do have a question though, have you ever had deities help you with motivation and executive functioning skills? I've got ADHD and the "laziness"(🤢) or what I call "going slug mode" (staying in bed all day, no motivation to shower, etc) really commands my life.

My periods of deity work tend to coincide with my periods of productivity and energy, but I often fall off when, well, everything else falls off. So I guess I'm also looking for advice or at least to connect with someone who's had similar experiences.

(I've also connected with Aphrodite and Loki! Other gods I've worked with in the past are Mother Hathor and Brigid)

First off, I may or may not have had so many feelings upon seeing "Hekate has pointed me towards your blog" because the idea that my blog can be useful enough that a deity would go "go look at what that dude has to say" just brings me so much joy.

Second off, OH THIS IS ABSOLUTELY SOMETHING I SHOULD SCREAM ABOUT THANK YOU. I can't believe I haven't already made a post about this!!

I, too, am an ADHD motherfucker and I have always had so many issues with keeping up with my craft. I will absolutely be calling it "slug mode" from now on, that's the best fucking way to put it. I've had deities help me with executive function at times, but if I'm honest I've forgotten lately that I can ask them for help with that. More often than not it looks more like nudging me towards a task than giving me the energy- but that doesn't mean you can't ask! It just means I forgot I could, lol.

This is gonna be a chonker post, so I'm breaking this post up into two parts; 1, why accepting "falling off" was the best thing I could have done for myself and 2, how to still connect with your craft (and deities) through those times anyway.

So for one, you're not broken or a failure, and your deities fuckin' love you.

Call me philosophical, but hear me out; I've always worked in cycles. Cycles of insane productivity, cycles of tiredness, cycles of hyperfixation on one thing, then another, then another. I'm just someone who works that way, and I've always viewed it as a problem to be fixed. I've always viewed MYSELF as a problem to be fixed, which really started with the school system but that's an unrelated rant. So, apologies for getting a bit intense especially since this may not apply to you personally, but just in case:

You're not a problem. You don't need to fix yourself. The world works in cycles. Seasons, reincarnation if you subscribe to that belief, the water cycle, and a billion other things I've forgotten- working with cycles is just a natural way of going about life that I think shouldn't be forgotten. I have intense periods of growth in my craft, and I have periods where I don't do much and instead play my favorite video game for eight hours straight- and that's okay! One of the best things I did for myself and my craft was give myself permission to do that. I, and you, are not failures as witches for "falling off" and our deities love us anyway. Not in spite of it, either, because of it. They know how to work with the cyclic nature of things; people are no different.

So honestly, there's a chance that none of this will make sense to you- but there's a chance that you, and maybe others seeing this post, might find that giving yourself permission to go through cycles might be the best thing you could do.

Okay, now that I've yelled about that, here's ways that I keep myself connected to my craft and my deities during my less witchy periods.

I give myself permission to use witchcraft for "dumb shit." I have at least one post on this, but witchcraft can BE childish, playful, "dumb-" it doesn't need to be serious all the time. So I'm learning to let go of what I think it should look like and recognize that sometimes the way to stay connected is to lay in bed and draw a sigil on my phone as a mini-spell to manifest a nice little treat or a thing I want in a video game.

This isn't deity work, but it had been huge for me: SIGILS. Sigils my beloved. I don't often have the time, energy, or supplies to do what most people think of when they talk about spells. So instead, if I'm feeling like I could do a spell for something but that's just too much, sigils can be done on my phone or computer while just chilling. Also, if you're like me and a writer, I just write spells too. Literally the same way I write statements for sigils, but a bunch of 'em.

Personally I just talk to my deities. I would like to do this more, actually. You don't need to have a big reason for calling them in, just ask them to sit with you and talk about your day or infodump about a special interest. They're not going to deem it unimportant; you're important to them.

Turn anything into a devotional activity if you want. Any self-care. Not just the typical stuff; I mean food, meds, literally any sort of "maintenance" to keep your body and mind running! If you can't do those, play music you associate with them, or watch a show/play a game and invite them to just sit with you. Whatever you're already doing, you can just ask them to do it with you. If that's literally just laying in bed doing nothing but feeling crappy, I can assure you I've asked them to sit with me during those days too and they've been more than happy.

Literally most of my offerings are just random food. As we speak, I have a little tiny thing with a few sips of soda because I give Loki some when I drink some. If you don't have the time or energy to put it on the altar, literally just drink it with the intention that you're drinking it "for" them. When I did a reading and Kali visited for it, she asked for a graham cracker of all things. It doesn't have to be associated with them. Virtual offerings too! If you can, I've seen people just scroll through pinterest/google images and pick images to offer to their deities.

This might not be something you struggle with, but this is definitely something I would need someone to tell me so: ASK. PLEASE. ASK FOR THINGS. They're not going to riot if you ask for things!! Let them help!! Ask for things, unapologetically if you can muster it!!! I am using excessive exclamation marks for a reason, I swear. My deities are in a constant state of telling me to just ask for things.

Be gentle with yourself. Genuinely, I think one of the best ways to honor your deities doesn't even require them to be there at all; just try not to hate on yourself for being the way you are, because they wouldn't want you to.

Overall, my only advice is just... throw away what you "should" be doing and find out what you LIKE doing. What works for you? It's a hard question to answer, but it gets a lot easier when you start looking away from what "should" work. Your deities are working with you, they wouldn't be working with you if they didn't accept every single part of you. That includes slug mode.

As always, my DM's and asks are open if you have any more questions/just want to connect because being a neurodivergent witch sometimes just feels isolating at times! If you actually read this whole post thank you, I hope some of it helped!!

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typhlonectes · 1 year

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What do you think gay men are attracted to in men that they can’t be attracted to in women?

It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives men-only attraction.

It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.

Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait men have that women can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.

Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?

Hey.

So, my first thought on this was "Ma'am, this is a Wendy's...", after all, I'm a wildlife biologist, and this is ultimately a wildlife blog. However, I do curate this blog to be a queer space, as well, so...

I'll endeavor to take this question seriously. I'm a gay man in his 40s, and I've had a lot of time to think about it, I guess.

I don't know. I really don't. At a certain age, I stopped even caring about why. It just hasn't concerned me for a while. I'm gay, and I'm fine with it, so... whatever. There it is.

I don' think there is one solid thing this is homosexuality, there are a number of experiences of living and attraction and love that live under that umbrella. Queerness. Gaynesses? My experience of growing up queer, realizing my queerness, and expressing it and accepting it as an adult is, I'm sure, very different from other people's experiences. My queerness is not the same as many of the other people who are reading this. I grew up in an atheist household. My parents were very supportive. I grew up in the United States, in the South. I think all of those things inform whatever the fuck this is.

I'm a gay man, and I can't tell you why. I'm fine with that.

You may be onto something about performances. Maybe a lot of us buy into an artificial binary concerning gender or sexual identity, and pigeonhole ourselves into something, when, in a more open society, we may have allowed ourselves to be more bisexual/pansexual. I have a feeling there's something to that, though it may not apply to everyone that thinks of themselves as "homosexual".

Sorry that I don't have a more profound answer for you.

If anyone wants to talk about this stuff in private, I'm around.

I love you.

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onehunnit · 5 days

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May Comebacks/Debuts that I Caught!*

*in no particular order, non-exhaustive, and all songs were released between May 1st and May 31st. 🎶 means it was playlisted!

Ride the Vibe by NEXZ: I like this this is a really good vibe we got going on and the production is rly cool.

Mona Lisa by Soojin: It was easy to get lost in the song, but not in a good way. The chorus was murky and the verses needed to pull their weight to make it work. Bonus points for the refrain, but other than that...

Now by ONEUS: This is a cover but it's still on here. They killed this tho I feel the oneus flair even tho its a cover

🎶 Feel the Pop by ZB1: Maybe its just bc i've been on a "cute" songs kick I'm a little obsessed with this song. Just the bit! the rap threw me the fuck off, but it's kinda grown on me. This song is very charming man

X10 by MCND: Cowboys? I just don't know how to feel about this song.

🎶 Woke Up by XG: They are quite secure in their rap bag! Maya >>> YES MA'AM. While this definetly their most rap-heavy song, they command the flow with ease and even if their lyrics are not as complex as expected for rap, they're doing a damn fine job!

How Sweet by NewJeans: the beginning instrumental FUCK they hook lined and sunk me *head in hands* FUCK MHJ and HYBE! but the girlies ate with this one. play listed in spirit

🎶 Cheese by SUHO (ft. WENDY): I fucking EAT up this genre of music.

🎶 200 by Mark: This is the song i would have ATE UP in 2018. It is a very fun song, and belongs in my coming of age playlist. So, semi-playlisted? aw fuck it it's playlisted.

🎶 Error 405 by JD1: The funky ass bass line man... as i was listening my smile was dropping bc i knew i was going become obsessed with this song. I am falling into the JD1 hole i fear. The song is so adorable

Gasoline by E'Last: I am going to be honest I'm a bit tired of this genre, but E'last pulls it off very well and I can still appreciate it.

🎶 Girls Never Die by tripleS: idk man i just really like the song. That's all i got i fear

💿 LOST! by RM: idk what the single for this RPWP but I think its lost! and i love the zanyness of it. He is in his experimental/ alt hip hop bag. also sillica gel did a cover of it, thus legendary status. Playlisted. In spirit, burned on a CD in actuality

🎶 LOOP by YVES (ft. Lil Cherry): this is soo fucking good it has crack in it im sure. the rap? unecessary alas

🎶 Armageddon by aespa: aespa has hit their stride fr like i was a casual fan of aespa but this cb has been pushing me to stan status like im over her kicking my feet over giselle so ty aespa fr. IMMA GET IT DONEEEEEE

🎶 Empty by CHEN: OFC ITS A FUCKING BALLAD FUCK ME MAN. 10/10. no notes. canr even be accurate bc ballads almost always make me tear up. its my dads influence on me. fuck man

🎶 Supernatural by A.C.E: WAHHHH A.C.E I LOVE YOU <33 this song is just so !!! ah!

Virtual Angel by ARTMS: the mv is cool as hell

🎶 WORK by ATEEZ: they set out to make a banger and make one they did. i know it will grow on me, but it does have some growth to do. playlisted bc well. ults :) i like it just not my fave on the mini

🎶 1 to 3 by SUHO: suho's msuic has been moving me lately im just fr in love with this song

#music yapping 🤓👆

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