#or me potentially being a negative or emotionally heavy vibe

[helianthus-tarot]

Pick-a-card: Why are you feeling drawn to them?

Hi. I got a request to do this topic so here it is. This is a short reading that will explore why you are drawn to whoever you are thinking about and what connection it may be. Only read this if you really have an unexplainable attraction toward someone. And I only made 4 piles because I’m sleepy as fuc so pls ignore grammar or spelling mistakes I expect it to be worse lol thank.

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PILE 1

2 of Wands Rx, 4 of Cups, The High Priestess, 10 of Swords

The person in your mind represents what you seek. I am not saying they are what you seek, as in, romantically, because there are no love cards here so I can’t really tell. It could be that they simply show you what you want; what you want in a person, what you want in yourself, or what you want in your life. They might also represent what you don’t have, or that you wish you had. It could be their qualities, their mindset, their energy, their focus- whatever it is. This then got translated into an unexplainable feeling of attraction. There might also this wonder that you feel when you look at them. I’m getting that your energy is much darker than theirs, like you are coming out of darkness. And perhaps that’s one of reasons why you feel attracted to them; they in some way feel like fresh air. Perhaps deep down you want a fresh start, you want that optimism, you want to be able to feel a sense of purpose, you want something more than just what you have been experiencing. And this person just embodies those things.

I didn’t ask about their personality, but I’m getting that they might come off as someone who knows what they want, they look as if they are living their purpose or that they are connected to their soul. Quite similar to The Fool’s energy. Lighthearted, yet passionate at times. Like someone who believes in their ability to achieve something bigger than themselves, without much fear or self-doubt.

There is something you are feeling unsatisfied about, which has been clinging onto your energy, to the point that it obstructs you from being able to connect to your soul’s calling- those desires which can bring in the feeling of fulfillment. It makes you feel a bit jaded, and exhausted as well.  There is a message for you to go within and ask yourself what exactly can spark that joy in you, what can make you feel satisfied, what you are passionate about, what your soul’s purpose, what you want more in life. Get connected to your inner knowing and highest self. The answers are within you. Shift through the pain, the exhaustion, and you will find yourself again. You too have limitless potential, you too can ask for things that are good for you.  

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PILE 2

4 of Swords, 5 of Cups, Ace of Wands, The Hierophant, Queen of Pentacles

Does this person give off a mature, comforting, dependable vibe? Perhaps a bit nurturing as well? Do they make you believe in your potential? Do they make you feel safe to explore your potential? It feels like they have this effect on you; the words they say, their mannerism, their work ethic, the way they manage their own life, etc- seems to inspire you to want to do something with your life. It is also possible that they change or challenge the way you see things as well, they make you want to get up and do things, they make you want to expand and explore, they make you want to believe in yourself; whether they do it intentionally or not. At the same time, they also feel safe and comforting to you, like you can let go and be vulnerable about your concerns. It feels a bit like home, like someone who can take care of you especially when you are sad, and bring your energy back up- make you believe again.

The Hierophant actually represents the lesson they bring in. So perhaps one of the reasons why you feel drawn to them is because you have been seeking someone who can guide you, someone who can nurture you and show you the way out of whatever challenge you experience. Especially if you haven’t had someone like this in your life before. This also feels like a mentor. The Hierophant could also represent the possibility that you might need some form of structure and guidance in your life, and this person has those things, so you end up feeling drawn to them.

I think this can be a stable or consistent relationship. If you want to pursue it as a romantic relationship, just keep in mind the possibility that at some point of the relationship you might need to grow into yourself and learn to be secure within yourself (if you haven’t); just to balance it out, so it can be a give and take relationship. If this is not exactly an attraction you can keep in your life (for whatever taboo reason), to manage the attraction- simply acknowledge the possibility that at this time you might be seeking guidance to restructure your life and to believe in your potential and your ability to realize it. It is fine to receive it from an external source, but it will also be beneficial for you to learn to nurture it from within so you can access it whenever you need to- which will also allow you to keep your independence.    

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PILE 3

The Sun, 2 of Cups, Page of Wands, Ace of Cups

This is probably the pile that people who ask about love want to get lol. Why you are feeling drawn to them? They just have that positive influence on you. Honestly with The Sun, there is overwhelming happiness. Perhaps that’s what you feel around them. It could also be that you feel much more yourself when you are around them. When you are in a conversation with them, you feel seen and accepted. You feel like you can be yourself. You guys can also inspire each other, celebrate each other’s achievement, just… simply being a positive influence in each other’s lives. It’s as if they are on the same level as you are, you might feel like you can work well together. Conversations between you guys don’t feel forced.

Page of Wands comes in as the lesson, it actually fell with 3 of Swords and Knight of Wands. So I think this connection is that hope after pain. If you have lost hope about finding a genuine connection, then this can be something to challenge that belief. Page of Wands is someone who can see possibilities and stay optimistic despite the fact that they are in the middle of the desert. They also represent good news coming in, something that can allow you to expand your life, to explore and go after your soul’s calling/desire. So honestly, this connection seems to be that new beginning, that possibility that you can try to explore. No guarantee that it won’t come with challenges, but honestly you wont know how good it can be if you don’t try.  

I think they are your soulmate, if you believe in soulmate. Whether it is meant to be romantic or not, whether it is meant to last or not, that depends on your specific situation as this is a general reading. It is possible for this connection to be emotionally fulfilling- there is a possibility of emotional abundance since you got Ace of Cups.

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PILE 4

The Lovers, Strength, King of Wands, Judgement

This person is meant to enter your life. Hell, with The Lovers, Judgement and how the Wheel of Fortune fell twice (but I didn’t take it ha ha because there were a bunch of cards with it), I mean, this is obviously fated in some way. Now, of course the significance of it varies, depending on your specific situation, as this is a general reading. This person is most likely your soulmate, heavy soulmate energy here, whether romantically or platonically. If you met them after you had ended a stage of your life, then this person could signify the new life that you are venturing into.

Something is similar within yourself and them. You might have gone through similar experience, similar pain, similar challenge- something, that when you look at them you can recognize that thing exists in them as well. That’s what draws you to them. So in a way, they are your mirror. You might see some parts of yourself in them, and them you. That companionship, that kinship. There is something spiritual about this as well. Since they can act like your mirror, they could show you some of your flaws and you might want to work on what needs to be worked on when that happens. But eh I’m not really getting negative energy, just common things that come with spiritual connections.

King of Wands represents the lesson they bring into your life. I think they will show you- your desire to expand; be more, do more, live life to the fullest, act on your potential. Inspiring. You get inspirations just by being around this person and the message might be that you should consider those possibilities, if there is any that can be acted on, then seize the opportunity. Make things happen. It feels like the connection can push you both to be the best version of yall that yall can be, because The Lovers can also mean highest self; choosing what is good for your highest self, living your truth. If this connection becomes something more, then you guys can be a powerful duo who inspire each other to live your best life.

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#pick a card #pick a pile #tarot reading #tarotblr #tarot community #tarot everything #anyway readings on insta will be different than on tumblr #pac

[marley-manson]

@nimuetheseawitch said:

#i didn't realize anyone ever thought that hawkeye was going pro-miitary at the end there#he's so insistent that they're all victims#and i think there's even a case for potter being a victim of the military industrial complex#(early life glorification and then roping him in financially - not to mention the nationalist propaganda of patriotism and duty)#i also think you can empathize without condoning or approving#i'm a little bit of a commander pierce apologist because i like to read it as hawkeye seeing that it's difficult to run a hospital#as opposed to being specifically military (although it is - later seasons are definitely way more pro-military and that is uncomfortable)#also you're so right about bj but i have some thoughts about the brainwashing of the american public about duty 

lol I wrote that while reading some guy’s thesis on mash where he basically applies the hero’s journey to the series and argues that Hawkeye betters himself by learning to respect authority, iirc, and coming to... I don’t quite remember how he put it, but like, align himself with the military (or at least military authority), relate to it, sympathize with it, something like that. This was written in the 80s by some dude so I don’t think he was all about criticizing the american military industrial complex lol, and honestly imo it’s a fair read of the way the show ended up progressing, unfortunately.

But I was also thinking of some more current fandom meta I’ve seen here and there about Hawkeye coming to view himself as a soldier, not in a positive way but in a negative self-loathing and harmful way, and that the finale sort of exemplifies this in that he gave an “order” to the mother. And I can kind of see the argument for Hawkeye viewing himself negatively as an extension of the military, as in Letters where he talks about being in weapons repair, but I don’t think it’s a strong interpretation of the finale flashback.

ANYWAY yeah sorry your tags are interesting so I mostly c/ped them to respond, but I just wanted to explain where I was coming from first lol.

I think Potter had so much potential to be a really like, interesting character and a good ‘in’ to criticize that aspect of the military, the financial and psychological entrapment - the way he joined when he was underage lends itself to that in theory imo, and yeah realistically there’s a lot worth exploring there. I just wish the show did, lol. Potter’s like the biggest missed opportunity of the show to me because his role as Good Military Dude could’ve been SO interesting if the show had like... maintained its disdain for the military and explored the ramifications of a nice likeable dude who loves the miltiary - why he loves it, how that’s affected his life negatively, how having a loveable representative of the military affects the draftees psychologically and emotionally... I think Dreams hints at this deliberately, and maybe a few other moments here and there, but in general I feel like it’s a take I’m projecting on the show, rather than something intended.

I also like your take on Commander Pierce a lot better, but Margaret’s speech about how he’s a hypocrite who Frank would admire in that moment really soured it for me. It could’ve been an interesting portrayal of how Hawkeye doesn’t take well to being in a position of authority imo, and it kind of started out that way (I like the idea of Hawkeye being stuck as a leader and totally failing at it tbh), but the narrative had a very heavy handed “Hawkeye is a hypocrite for hating specifically military authority” vibe imo.

I haven’t actually gotten to the episode where BJ mentions that he could’ve dodged the draft easily if he’d wanted yet (was it Bombshells? I feel like it was a different ep but idr), but I’m looking forward to it bc it’s interesting and I never feel like I actually understand something until I’ve watched it at least twice lol. I think yeah BJ as an average every-man figure especially really fits that propagandic brainwashing vibe, especially in a 50s setting, and now I’m curious whether that’s implied in the scene. Either way I think it’s definitely implied to an extent with BJ’s character overall, and if you have more thoughts on that subject I’d love to hear them! Also Potter come to think of it - I probably seem pretty negative about him because I dislike what he represents in the show and how he’s usually framed in the narrative, but I’m super into exploring him as a character from an anti-military pov, yk?

#sorry this response got so long lol i'm so incapable of brevity when it comes to discussing the stuff i'm into #also bad at tearing myself away from narrative intent too lol which i'm sure you can tell - i'm all about that narrative framing #love them themes #mash #marley on mash #text post #(also don't feel obligated to respond either at length or at all i can't help but respond to ppl with essays but i know that's not #everyone's jam)

[femmeconduit]

Forecast for 2021

Note: This is a tarot and energy reading to forecast 2021 and should be considered a general reading, where it may not resonate for every individual. I’m a clairvoyant who woke up this morning with a weight like, “BING! Time to read!” and it knocked me on my ass so here I am, hoping the message will get to the person(s) it’s intended for. I don’t usually share collective messages on here because I’ve spent most of 2020 on my solo shadow work, but this message felt important so here goes.

Placing a cut for length (it’s nearly 2k overall):

Overall Vibe for 2021: Seven of Pentacles, Four of Wands

This brings me some relief as a reader because every New Year there’s usually a swell of jumping in with both feet and it can be a bit reckless. We don’t have that here. What we have for 2021 is cautious optimism, a sense of pause, to wait and see whether all the effort and emotional purging, all the hard work we put into 2020 is going to pay off this year.

The outcome of whether all the 2020 work is truly going to pay off is not clear to me right now. The energies are anxious on January 1st (at the time of this forecast), but one thread I’m picking up on is a sense of hope that all of the work we’ve done on ourselves in 2020 wasn’t for nothing--especially when it comes to connecting with others we love. Family, friends, and romantic partners who weathered through the worst of 2020 and bared their true selves together do show a strengthening of bonds in 2021. That will make the cautious optimism of waiting for the payoff easier to weather.

Overall, there isn't a blind expectation that everything is going to fall into place and that’s refreshing. I think it’s fair to say many of us had that in January of 2020, but much has changed and in 2021 many have moved away from that outlook. The hope for prosperity hasn’t fully diminished, but it’s more reserved and held closer to the chest than before. The strongest vibe is definitely, “We’ll wait and see” without fully committing to a view. It feels similarly to how sports fans feel at the beginning of a season when no games have been played.

Love in 2021: Four of Swords

Whoa! This is definitely not the hot & spicy vibes I’ve seen in other forecasts and I’m here quirking my eyebrow like, “ho hoo hooooo REALLY NOW?!?!” I resisted the urge to pull clarifiers since this is a collective reading. In a private reading, I would have jumped in this one. Anyways...

This is a sign that romantic standards have gone way up. Standards of lasting connection, what people are willing to put up with when forming partnerships, have raised the bar. And it feels like an ironclad “you’re in or you’re out” energy like someone would sooner slam the door than forgive and give second and third chances. I hear, “SHAPE UP!” 

When the pandemic is over and there are more opportunities to date in-person, many will be going in with their guard up and their list of must-haves. Don’t get me wrong; connections can be made in the heat of finally having human contact again, but the choice of whether to be exclusive and commit will have a higher threshold to meet. New partnerships will form only after both parties are sure the other can weather the kind of storms we saw in 2020 and I don’t feel those standards slipping just because someone may feel lonely. 

On a related note, I sense a lot of pre-occupation over physical safety being one of the forces behind the heightened standards. What if that hot stranger never wore the mask over their nose in 2020? It sounds a little silly but some of those thoughts will be floating around up there on the first date. The pandemic caused a lot of isolation where one may be stuck with a partner in limited space for a really long time. For 2021, people will want to make sure that the person that they're attaching to is someone who is going to truly be there in all of the ways that are needed and safe (hence the high standards).

I do feel a strong emotional yearning for love and connection (especially for singles), but it doesn’t feel stronger than the need to protect oneself. Even when the bars are open, some will be less willing to take the risks they may have taken in 2018/2019. I’m not picking up this risk in a physical sense like STIs, but more in the head & heart. Emotional risks will be considered more heavily when dating, especially for those who may have experienced a brutal wake-up call in their previous relationships in 2020. The partnered people who are still in unwanted relationships in 2021 will use that heightened standard energy to break things off, especially if the dating pool looks safer later in the year and they see the high standards paying off for their single friends.

Economy/Career in 2021: Page of Swords

This energy feels FRESH and forward-moving and I’m loving it. I see a lot of new business start-ups, especially home-based businesses that operate exclusively online. It feels like a rebirth of the cottage industry (any fellow historians who’ve studied labor history may be getting really excited about how this may impact other areas).

I see a yearning to branch out and make one’s mark, but it's not coming from a place of emotional fulfillment or sense of higher purpose. It’s coming from a place of, “This is what I need to protect my family and this is what I need to get what I want.” Feels heavy and I see earth and fire sign placements. Side hustles will grow to meet this energy, especially for those who may have endured a lot of economic challenges in 2020. The fear of potential loss in 2021 is going to fuel some of this, as many workers no longer feel protected and supported by their employers. Showing true colors in 2020 will have 2021 consequences. A lot of self-centering, self-protection energy means branching out to new jobs, new business, and new ways of earning (such as passive income).

Related to these changes, there will be new attempts to meet the growing demands of working from home. Will they all be successful? With the Page energy, I don’t think so. Some of this will be like throwing spaghetti and seeing what sticks and I feel embarrassed with this energy. Maybe someone comes out with an app that looks really tacky and fumbles hard. However, with the forward moving energy coming largely from the bottom in a decentralized way, I think there will be some successes. The ones who have been overburdened by that unfulfilling corporate job may just snap and run with that big idea they’ve been ruminating on all year in 2020. And with the Page, they’ll learn as they go along because they don't want to wait anymore.

What to Watch Out For in 2021: 10 of Wands

Be careful not to take on too much at once. All the forward movement energy, especially early in the year, will increase the risk of overburdening people who don’t keep their wants and needs in balance. There hasn’t been enough rest, reflection, or recovery on the collective level so the chances of frying oneself are high. I see a blonde woman with dry hair having an outburst in a public place (looks like a Target) and pulling her hair out with crazy eyes. She’s snapped, not because she’s deranged, but because she hit her breaking point and didn’t maintain the tools to decompress that shit. Yikes.

With 2020’s emotional and psychological challenges, many will want to fire off with all engines in 2021, but I wouldn’t recommend that with this Ten of Wands. It feels like “I did too much, I thought I could handle it,” exhaustion when one bites off more than they could chew. It’s important to stress that there’s no way one can undo all of 2020’s damage in a couple months in 2021 based on what I’m feeling with this card. Ten of Wands can be emotionally unstable to the point of causing problems with one’s physical health. Energy-sensitive people especially vulnerable here if they miscalculate how much they can handle early in the year. Maintaining balance within the self (eating healthy, self-care, etc.) is everything while one works on moving forward. You don’t have to stay still and do nothing, but you can take and should remember to eat, you know?

What We Have to Look Forward to in 2021: Queen of Pentacles (Reversed)

No surprises here: a reframing of our collective beliefs about money. The value of money, how we use money, how we approach money is going to change in 2021. It’s coming through as a positive because it’s a lesson learned. I’m seeing a lot of headlines about funding and law enforcement flashing. Queen of Pentacles in Reverse can come through as a negative card, but in this forecast it’s an overall lack of trust that drives the forces of positive change. Collectively, there is an understanding that the support structures we need--especially economically--don't exist, at least not in the way we need them to. And it's going to force us to reframe and make adjustments to our economic structure, even if it’s something small like opening up a high-interest savings account.

On a small scale, this energy will change how we save money and build it. Given the economic forecast, I see this impacting small businesses and small investors looking to increase their revenue streams. The sense of distrust where money is concerned will compel us to innovate and make smarter decisions than we made in 2020. Saving money keeps getting repeated. 

On a large scale, this energy may impact beliefs and access related to cryptocurrency and affect how tax dollars are allocated, with more oversight being demanded. Given the civil unrest, the government’s response, and how COVID relief was handled, I’m not surprised to feel collective anger where the “people’s money” is involved. It’s still there in 2021 and is aimed at the piggy bank.

What We are to Remember from 2020: King of Wands (Reversed)

Beautiful energy for a reversal. This card calls us to remember what we were able to accomplish when we worked together in 2020. The year was full of challenges and obstacles, and while we haven't overcome all of them, there were significant developments and innovation in the areas of medicine, telework, distance education, food service, etc.--all to meet the demands the pandemic created. Many of these changes occurred as a result of collaborative efforts to find solutions and significantly, much of that collaboration occurred remotely. It will continue to be a sorely needed requirement, as I see many more opportunities to work together to find solutions to problems in 2021. 

The good news in this appears to be that the 2020 trial-and-error in the realm of collaboration will pay off in 2021. I’m seeing a tense but efficient board room meeting where people are quick to throw out stupid ideas and my chest is getting lighter seeing it. If an option didn’t work well in 2020, it looks like we won’t even consider it as an option in 2021. Sounds like a timesaver to me!

That’s all I have for now. Hope you all stay safe and cautiously optimistic in the new year.

#helen's musings #tarot reading #energy reading #2021 forecast #femmeconduit

[axther]

🗨️ Hi! Can I please request a Bnha matchup, if it’s not too much to ask. I’m a 5’1 pan female with long hair that fades from red to blonde. I am very curvy/busty and I am very insecure about it, which leads to me shutting myself out from others. I am very soft-spoken, intelligent, and extremely patient. I love to play the ukulele and sing! I really just want someone who can defend me, I have been bullied for most of my life because I am really shy. I’m also an INTJ. Thank you so much!

Let’s get this show on the road babeeyyyy!!!! Finna go off!!!! 

#1 is...Bakugou! 

Okokokok so the aforementioned patience?? 

You’re gonna need a lot of it 

The first time y’all met he probably was going off about the new transfer who was too quiet

And how he wanted to beat the shit out of her to prove his dominance 

And you’re just like ‘ok :|’ 

And bakugou?? 

Scared.exe

Why??? 

This is the first time he can remember in forever that someone didn’t really react negatively to his comments 

Midoriya always had a sort of ‘no kaachan!!’ reaction

Kirishima would tell him it wasn’t manly

And even Todoroki would just tell him that he didn’t stand a chance 

So why did this foreign chick so cool about it??

At first it really pissed him off, but then he realised several things. 

One, you never really tried to defend yourself when people said something that would’ve at least irked anyone else 

Two, you didn’t socialise a whole lot compared to the rest of the class. It was comparable to Tamaki Amajiki in terms a shyness, though you never turned to face a wall. 

Three, you were cute. 

Like, really cute.

like... 

T

Tiddy 

This boy would love it 

He does his best not to show it nor to oogle but 

He really likes your body 

Plus a redhead??? 

Exotic isn’t the right word but here it is 

So you’ve definitely caught his attention

He realises very quickly that bullying you isn’t the solution to gaining your respect

He just sees that it makes you withdraw even more 

So he begins lowkey befriending you 

Now 

His way of going about it kinda sucks 

But he’s trying 

This includes, but is not limited to: 

Going off on Mineta and Kaminari if they comment on your body 

Studying together 

Listening to you play the ukelele

Slowly but surely he realises that regular boy/girl friends don’t have sleepovers at each other’s dorms 

And that he doesn’t smile around everyone else as he does with you 

And that his heart doesn’t jump around when he’s around the others as opposed to being alone with you 

And that his eyes don’t wander the same as when he-

yeah so he realises he has a crush 

And because he’s emotionally constipated, this has him screwed over 

He lays in bed at night, face bright red, thinking about the most scandalous thing ever-premarital holding hands 

He’s whipped 

If you catch him staring at you, he’s spin away and just say that he was looking at something else 

And he has no idea what to do about this 

So he just keeps quiet 

Until one day 

Monoma is talking shit about you and how you’re so shy for someone trying to be a hero

And see now, Bakugou usually just either ignores it or says something sharp and then ignores it. 

But this time? Something in him snaps 

He has no idea what it was, but he spins around and begins ripping Monoma apart, almost literally. 

He’s got him by the neck of his shirt and is howling into his face. 

‘She’s better and stronger then you’ll ever be, you fucking dipshit quirk thief! At least she can rely on herself for her own fights, while you have to whimper and mope around waiting to touch somebody like a fucking pervert! You wish you could be her with how much you talk about her, huh? You know a lot for someone who’s supposed to hate her! Back the fuck off of my girl!” 

And the hall drops silent. 

Everyone’s side-eyeing everyone, there’s a confused silence, Monoma’s eye is twitching while he slowly turns blue, before Bakugou realises what he said. 

‘I fucking said what I said, assholes! She’s my fucking girl!’ 

Takes your hand and runs all the way back to his dorm 

There he turns and looks down at the ground, trying to find the words he wants to say because this was not how he wanted you to find out, if at all 

He hates being so blushy and nervous and he feels like a schoolgirl and he wants to blow it to oblivion 

But he glances up and sees the heavy blush on your face and his heart just goes 🥴

‘I..’

He hesitates, before clenching his fists and spewing it out without looking at you in the eyes. 

‘I fucking love you.’ 

#2 is...Kirishima! 

Now 

He’s very very extroverted 

We all know this 

And he wants to be friends with everyone in the class

So when he notices that you don’t really talk to people, he’s all over it!! 

Before you know it, he’s tagging along with you to places and he’s talking about a new restaurant and if maybe you would want to go 

And let’s be honest 

The boy knows he has a crush on you since day one 

He sees this beauty walk through the door and he just goes ‘😳🤔🥴🤔’ 

So there’s that going for him

He’s surprisingly good at hiding his crush?? 

He always acts super chill and sweet with everyone so you don’t suspect a thing 

Until one day you’re talking with Mina and she’s like ‘I tried asking Kiri if he wanted to go see Killer Slayer 300 Part 7 but he said he already had a date to see it with someone!’ 

And you’re like ‘...it’s me. I’m the date. I’m the DATE????’ 

And then the secret’s out 

Mina spills it to EVERYONE and the boy is so embarrassed

He feels really bad like was tricking you or something and he starts trying to avoiding you 

And I am so sorry 

But you have to make a move 

He will think forever that he was emotionally...deceitful??? Something along those lines.  

Like he didn’t want you to think that he was one-sidedly dating you 

So when you hunt him down this means several things

One, that you had enough initiative to talk to him despite being so shy, so that already tells him that you really want to talk about this 

Two, that you really did like him

And three, that nonetheless, you wanted to see him 

This makes his heart ‘!!’ and through the entire talk he’s got a blush and he’s trying to avoid saying outright that he loves you in case it derails the entire conversation

So when you talk the leap and say it first, he fucking SHOUTS it. 

‘What?! For real?! I love so so much babe!!!’ 

#3 is...Momo!

Big tiddy gang 

There was an unspoken allegiance the first time you two met eyes 

And instantly you two are hangin out 😤

Every night is spent in each other’s dorms, just vibing and talking about life 

Momo needs that kind of casual support, and oh boy is she getting it 

And you are getting a kinship with a fellow intellectual lady!! 

You two are super patient together, and if anyone has a problem, the momo-y/n gang has got them 

You become a mom figure despite being so shy, because momo does her best to help you out of your shell 

And naturally 

You guys formed an anti mineta union 🙅🏻‍♀️

He said one (1) word about your boobages and Momo, for the first time in her life, genuinely went OFF 

‘That is so disrespectful! How do you intend to become a hero if you always harass women? If we wanted to, all of us girls could have you expelled and even potentially sent to jail! If you do not stop this behaviour towards Y/N, then I will have a word with not only Aizawa-san, but also with Principal Nezu!’ 

Everyone, much like Bakugou going off, is shook but on a much greater scale. 

Momo?? Capable of rage on this level?? 

Impossible 

Mineta is cowering, and while he thinks it’s also kinda hot, he is also very aware that his entire existence is on the line 

You’re watching Momo with shock, but also a mix of blushy embarrassment, pride, and ‘oh god that’s my wife’ 

Later that night while you two are chilling in Momo’s dorm, she looks over and tells you, very quietly

‘I think I’m in love with you.’ 

You look over with a soft, shy smile. 

‘I think I love you, too.’ 

@shslpotato

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[jeanbaltsubsta-blog]

Dating indian american guys

Reflections from a White Woman on Dating An Indian Man It is not easy to develop a profession and if you are not likely very happy quit in that case it's do not to generate wed prior to you have become prepared to gain that.  One time I posted a picture of the two of us on Facebook, which is really normal and almost expected for a couple to do in America, and then my boyfriend was getting so many calls and messages from his Indian guy friends asking who I was and what we have done.  Men are very good at retaining friendships, it is possible that you will remain close decades from now.  Besides, I love travelling and learning about other cultures, so I'd love to hear more about life in India! Throughout my entire life I had been strongly against dating Indian women and it wasn't until I was 18 that I started wondering why.  Born in Michigan, raised in Wisconsin, and currently living in the state of Texas.  Both men and women can benefit from understanding these cultural differences before going on that first date.  Regarding the article, it seems like a historic artifact from the 1980's.

Native American Passions There is a reputation of western women in India and that cannot be ignored + foreign women coming here should know some men think like this.  Deep down I do think she wants to be like me I am very liberal and independent but she did not have the chance to do so because of societal constraints.  Before starting the story it is good to sort out the facts right.  Because if she answers those questions, the next series goes like this; Do you enjoy the sex? One Indian wedding equals five American weddings, and then some.  Car ownership is not as prevalent in India so you may need to take public transportation.  All marriages always have been either a bloody start or a man completely disown by his family.  They may not match your tastes, but they will provide a deeper insight into his character.

10 Reasons Why Indian Girls Make Some Of The Best Partners Also your statement about 90% marriages being arranged marriages in India is not true specially among the young generation! If you do not agree to the full terms, do not use the information.  She stared with a look of disgust at me and continued to gossip to each family member as they filed by, pointing and judging us.  People don't even know what it is exactly that they want! We started dreaming about having a future.  Lastly, I am hopeful there are at least 2 more great Indian power guys out there for us and will keep my eyes open for us both! Normally it never bothers me at all but this time it did.  My wife is mostly oblivious to all that or does not seem to care all that much but it sure does sour my mood to the extent of avoiding such small-minded, nasty, negative-vibes emitting groups in public.  You can connect with her on , , , and.

9 Best Free “Native American” Dating Sites (2019) Thanks for your kind words and for taking the time to be so open and share your experience.  You are also reading this here, in the Jodi Logik blog, because you are want to settle down, with the one.  Colleen, have you ever even dated an Indian? Whether you are from the Indian culture and are looking to meet interesting singles from your own background or you belong to a different background and are looking for friendship, love and commitment with someone from this heritage, Indian dating is the enjoyable way to get to know potential friends and potential romantic partners with Indian roots.  Every now and then, it can get tough for us; we must assimilate into American culture seamlessly, while simultaneously staying true to aspects of our native Hinduism.  Indian women are truly one of a kind.  They are not only good looking but well educated and highly attired women.

Date Single Native American Men Now, they are co-founders of , an Artificial Intelligence startup in India.  It is almost impossible to meet at the far end of the west or the far end of the east but you meet at the cross-roads.  The girl will cheat on him, abuse him verbally and emotionally, and treat him like dirt.  Since then I have had several Indian loves! And it is about time too, this, after all, is the land of.  I feel like with them I can really just be myself and not have to worry about them poking fun at me for it as opposed to Indian women who will throw a fit over me eating beef.  Before I dated one, I used to really find them attractive and one of my small school crushes was indian.  In my personal life, I am dating a woman from the next state — Kerala.

Being Indian I never take it negatively because everyone takes a peek just out of curiosity.  Never experienced this myself although when I started dating my Malayali boyfriend I remember being a bit flabbergasted at how quickly he wanted to put a label on our relationship.  I would say some 80% of potential romance with Indian men breaks down at this stage.  The girl and the guy date or get to know each other for the first few months before committing to each others lives and families and getting married.  For Native American singles who feel this way, there are nine sites that we consider to be at the top of the heap.  My first experience was on Diwali.

Dating in India: The Do’s and Don’ts as a Foreign Woman But, if you dress poorly and have an accent everyone does, lets face it! American media has a heavy preference for showing White people and I don't see that changing even 50 years from now.  And if they are, it's usually to specific Indians who, because the above is true for them, won't even pursue a white girl in the first place.  You date her entire family and her whole tribal circle, better be ready to go to hindu temples and meet all of her family immediately.  Besides, it earns you a lifetime of brownie points.  Even sharing your phone number might make them think you are interested in more than just a date.  Unless you're intimidated by our awesomeness, in which case, I totally understand.  With millions of members worldwide, Adult FriendFinder is the best mini golf date tips dating site to find adult singles and swingers for discreet hookups and casual sex transguy dating near you.

Dating an indian american girl Being too aggressive isnt good.  How dare he assume he would get sex from me on the first date! I also think dating should go in the direction of long-term relationship and preferably marriage.  We have millions of people with different backgrounds and viewpoints from whom we can learn.  Passing judgement on people without knowing a thing about them is a terrible pastime.  Yes, there will be some opposition, Indian culture is there for thousands of year, face it with confident and win it.

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Surprising no one, I have some Fucking Thoughts about Infinity War:

(I don’t know if it actually is, but this FEELS like the longest post I’ve ever written. And that is impressive because I am a long winded motherfucker on a good day and because it’s literally ALL negative)

So first off, I Did Not Enjoy this movie. For my complete list of things I DID like, read this very short post instead. If you enjoyed the movie and don’t want to read somebody absolutely slamming it, you should probably leave now.

Secondly, if you don’t want spoilers I’m not sure why you clicked the readmore, but you’ve now been warned: 

SPOILERS past this point!!!!!!!

I disliked this movie so much that I need to break down the varying ways I disliked it into fucking sections. So starting right off:

I find shock value character death to be cheap and lazy.

And boy did they go hard on the shock value character death. Boy, oh boy. BOY oh boy, did they ever. That was pretty much the entire movie.

If you can’t make the stakes feel high without death, you’re a bad writer. If death is the only card you know how to play, you’re a bad writer. 

I was expecting the characters who’s actor’s contracts are up to get killed off as a cheap and lazy way of explaining why they’re leaving. I was instead handed a movie in which literally everyone ELSE died for even cheaper and lazier shock value reasons that are almost certainly going to get undone (and thus be made pointless) in the next film. I was not impressed. 

The writers are painfully white, and refused to stop reminding us.

When the setting of the movie shifted to Wakanda, I wanted to be happy to see Wakanda. But I wasn’t, because the whole reason we went to Wakanda seemed to be so that the racist ass writers could jerk off while watching Wakanda (and Wakandans) get wrecked (and killed in horrific numbers), all so Wanda (who the MCU super duper whitewashed) didn’t have to kill her white robot boyfriend. 

“If Wakanda falls, it will have been for a noble cause” said the racist white writer puppeting T’Challa. 

Prioritizing the feelings of a white girl and the life of her white boyfriend over not just the hypothetical “half of the universe” Thanos thing, but also the very immediate and literal danger to the lives of ALL OF WAKANDA AND ALL OF THEIR FRIENDS was absolutely bewildering levels of antiblack racism and I was just sitting there shaking my head through it all. It was horrible. It is horrible. I cannot believe that line from T’Challa even made it into the movie. “A noble cause” my ass, that’s so violent, what the fuck.

The writers are painfully heterosexual, and refused to stop reminding us.

Again I scream at Wanda and Vision. Wanda and Vision, who I was hyped about being brought into the MCU because I liked them in the comics, but who have been a constant frustration and disappointment (whitewashed and underutilized as they have been) since their introductions. 

Also Quill and Gamora. 

Like, the writers couldn’t figure out a way to make the story interesting or have stakes without threatening hetero’s heterosexual feelings and heterosexual partners. They just.... couldn’t....................... do it............

Like, lets be real. If the lives of literally half the universe was at stake, everybody I know would be like “sure, I’ll die for that cause”. The conflict felt fake as fuck. People who are that selfish aren’t interesting, and half the characters they made that selfish didn’t used to BE that selfish.

Also, like, Gamora demanding Peter promise to kill her was weird on multiple levels. 

She definitely could have been like “I know the location of an infinity stone, and I know he’ll be able to get it out of me if he gets me alone, so I need you to kill me if that happens” but instead she was just like “I can’t give you a single explanation or detail, just promise me you’ll murder me because you love me so much.” Bad writing. 

And I feel like for Peter specifically, asking him to do that was really cruel. His whole issue with his parents was that his dad murdered his mom, like... asking him to kill her seems extra cruel? And she would know that. Doesn’t she have other friends? Couldn’t she have asked Peter to, like, not get mad at Rocket if Rocket kills her for the same reason? Or Drax? Why did it have to be Peter?? Why ask the person who’d be most emotionally traumatized by having to kill you to be the one to kill you if necessary? And why have her remind him of the death of his mom as a way to convince him to kill her? Bad writing.

Also Bruce and Nat were never interesting to begin with.

Also also Tony talking about wanting kids to a very obviously frustrated and uninterested Pepper was weird and uncomfortable. I feel like we’re supposed to be getting some sort of “they should have kids!” vibe but all I got was a “she doesn’t want to have kids and he’s not getting the memo” vibe. I also am very tired of “my partner wants me to stop being a superhero, guess I’ll feel conflicted but do it anyway but also not break up with them” narratives. Bad.

Thanos’ “random” selection of half of earth didn’t seem that random to me. Like, at all.

The shot of Wakandans dying wasn’t half of them dying, it was like 90% of them dying. And if you pay attention to who disintegrated, it’s.... 

T’Challa (black king of a powerful beautiful African nation, the most technologically advanced nation in the world)

Bucky (disabled and neuroatypical)

Sam (a black man)

I forgot to watch the end credits scene because I was so mad but apparently NICK FURY disintegrates in it, my blood is boiling with rage.

Apparently Maria Hill also disintegrates in it, so there goes a strong female character too.

Again I point to the, like, 90% of Wakanda who survived the combat turning to ash anyway.

Mantis (a woman, played by a Korean actress)

Wanda (a woman. Also whitewashed, but Jewish and Romani in the comics)

Groot (played by a man of color)

Peter Quill (played by one of the three white Chris’ in the movie, but dating a character played by a black woman, so of all the white men to die I find this suspect as fuck)

Drax (played by a Filipino actor).

And that’s not to mention Heimdall (a powerful black man), Loki (who is queercoded, and actually queer in the comics) and Gamora (played by a black woman) who Thanos also killed.

“Random.”

Right.

Except the movie was written by people who clearly have a bias and think it’s quality entertainment to watch PoC and marginalized people in general die. And/or they wanted most of those characters out of the way so Infinity War 2 could focus on the white dudes. Which brings me to my next hated point:

Infinity War 2.

Just.

Fuck that.

Fuck that cash grab bullshit of splitting major motion picture movies into multiple movies for no good reason. Fuck letting people go into a movie with a cliffhanger not knowing it’s going to have a cliffhanger. Fuck forcing people to commit to a years wait for closure on a plot without agreeing to. 

People don’t go to superhero movies to watch the villain win, motherfuckers, we want to see HEROES win! It’s supposed to be a movie that feels GOOD to watch because you can pretend for 2 hours that good people triumph over bad people, and we fucking NEEDED that 2 hours of escapism right now! We did not need a movie about a megolomaniac who wins the election and ruins the lives of everyone we love! We didn’t pay for that shit!!!! 

I mean, I didn’t pay for anything, I watched a bootleg version while curled up in bed, but if your movie hadn’t been a sack of cash grabbing propaganda horse shit I WOULD have paid to see it.

Also. 

People are “SPECULATING” a bunch of stuff like “Dr. Strange did what he did to ensure the eventual defeat of Thanos!!” and “everybody who got disintegrated is going to be resurrected in the next movie!!” but like... it’s not speculation if it’s obvious as fuck, guys. Don’t give the writers more credit than they deserve (they deserve zero credit). Don’t act like it’s not obvious and predictable when it is. 

1) Dr. Strange was not being subtle. “I’ve looked at all the potential outcomes and foreseen one in which we win” “We’re in the endgame now.” “It was the only way”. That’s blatant. That borders on heavy-handed. 

2) Most of the characters who died have movies scheduled. They’re coming back. This is not unclear.

As a result... their deaths don’t even feel real, they just feel like racist shock value fodder deaths. I’m not sad about it, I’m furious at the writers. They just killed them off so they could watch them die, and/or so they could avoid utilizing them. And that’s... so gross.

Ending a movie with the genocidal villain winning is not edgy or whatever. It’s just dissatisfying and, especially in the current climate of the world, it feels violent. 

Like, I’m mad that they split the movie, because it’s a cash grab, and then ending it on that note was just violent.

I guess the writers just really hated Ragnarok (and Black Panther).

Cuz like... they just completely wrote Ragnarok out of the MCU, made the whole movie pointless, and backpedaled on everything it accomplished. 

Ragnarok: “Asgard is destroyed, but it’s okay because the people of Asgard survived, and can rebuild somewhere else. Thor lost his eye and his hammer, became a leader to his people, learned that he didn’t need a weapon to harness his powers, and Thor and Loki finally managed to be a team again. Heimdal is given the credit he deserves as a hugely important part of Thor’s life. Also here, have an AMAZING black female character! The story ends with hope for a ship full of refugees.”

Infinity War: “Thor immediately gets a new eye, all (or maybe half??? it was really unclear) of the other Asgardian refugees are slaughtered off screen (big middle finger to refugees and also hope) and then Thor goes off on his own so he’s not really a leader anymore, Loki and Heimdal are dead within 5 minutes of screentime, Valkyrie doesn’t exist, and Thor’s entire plot in the movie is about how he needs a new weapon because he can’t be useful without one :)”

Me, who enjoyed Ragnarok: “wow, fuck you”

Similarly, after watching all the characters from Wakanda in Black Panther be written as their own people, whose stories and lives didn’t revolved around white people... their white-prioritizing characterization in Infinity War, as well as the IMMEDIATE choice to fucking wreck Wakanda at the first available opportunity, was a real fucking let down and kind of a slap in the face.

Peter Dinklage played a literal (though giant?) dwarf??????????

I FEEL LIKE THIS IS FUCKING OFFENSIVE??? Honestly I’m just so so tired of this poor guy getting hired only for roles where his dwarfism is a character trait. He’s a really good actor and I wish he got hired to play characters other than “the dwarf” every fucking once in a while, like jfc. 

(Side note apparently he’s been cast as “the dwarf” in a movie adaptation of the awful book “the dwarf” so that’s... happening........ i guess...................)

I FEEL like this role was particularly weird and maybe particularly offensive, but maybe I’m wrong, idk.

Also his actual visual design was bad. I looked up the character (Eitri) from the comics, and he looked pretty cool in the comics and animated show. He did not look cool in this movie. 

Bendick Camdsfgbitch has too big of a role.

Literally I’ve never met anybody who cares about the Dr. Strange movie or MCU character. The only people who care seem to be Sherlock stans who cannot let go and still think Bean Cummerbund playing [an intolerable asshole who we’re told (but not shown) is smarter than us, who never lets the audience in on his genius] is compelling. 

He’s boring, he’s an asshole, he’s playing an arguably whitewashed role (which is a pattern for him) and he’s not even playing it in an interesting way. Stop trying to make Dr. Strange or his actor happen. We don’t care.

And if the whole two movie plot is going to be about how he really did outsmart Thanos, the supposedly super smart supervillain, then I’m extra super bored as fuck. And so far that’s... super predictably what’s going to have happened. 

It was just really poorly written??

Idk, like it wasn’t even... funny... or good. All the lines were either predictable or they didn’t make sense. And everybody felt slightly (or severely, depending on the character) out of character. 

The plot is fucking garbage, AND THANOS IS TOO

The concept of the world being overpopulated (and that that’s why resources aren’t available for everyone) is an irl lie, my guys. It’s not true. It’s a lie perpetuated by racists and xenophobes and rich assholes who want to excuse letting people die of starvation rather than give up literally any of their giant Scrooge McDuck style piles of money to allow even the most minimally necessary distribution of resources.

We HAVE enough resources to feed and clothe and house and care for everyone on this planet, we just DON’T DO IT because of the bigotry and selfishness of the 1%. 

Also, “Genocide will fix all the suffering in the world” is literally nazism.

AND LIKE!! If the POINT was that Thanos was a space nazi and needed to be killed as a result, because his views are fucked up and have no basis in reality, and nazism must be stopped at all costs-- that could have been okay??? EXCEPT THAT’S NOT HOW THEY HANDLED IT!! Instead of going “Oh, yeah, Thanos is super fucked up and no one should agree with him or his actions or his ideology” they showed him in this weird and uncomfortably reverent light, and gave him this weird and uncomfortable side arc about how much he wuvs Gamora (that’s why he abused her, you guys-- it was because he LOVES her so much). So we’re supposed to like, feel sad for him or something? Oh no, nobody understands him and his logic, he HAS to do this to SAVE everyone. Oh nooooooo. 

But really, he’s a genocidal scrotum-faced piece of shit abuser, and his entire narrative felt like a nazi who abuses his kids just sucking his own dick on screen, and it was NOT enjoyable to watch, or compelling, or edgy. It was just gross, and violent.

ALSO there was NO REASON to give him that backstory. There was no reason to explain his desire to kill everybody. We already knew he wanted to kill everybody. That was already known, and we did not need an explanation about why. Like, they built toward this movie for ten years and they STILL dropped the ball by ignoring 90% of their own goddamn source material that built up to it in the first place.

Plus, Thanos’ plan was to kill half of everybody in order to save the other half, out of a warped sense of... mercy.... Except literally nobody wants him to do that, including (he said) himself. He doesn’t enjoy it. Neither does anybody else. Everybody is trying to stop him constantly. WHY CONTINUE IF LITERALLY NO ONE WANTS YOU TO, INCLUDING YOURSELF?? It just doesn’t hold up or make any sense as a plot once you think about it for ten fucking seconds...??? How did this ever get past the editing stage???

Additionally, Thanos’s visual design was way better in the end credits cameo he had like 10 years ago. This guy was not visually threatening to me, and did not read as powerful or ancient or anything. He didn’t even read like he was an alien, he was just an asshole, and it didn’t impress me like it was meant to.

If the only way to make your villain seem competent is to make your heroes suddenly incompetent, you’re a bad writer.

How did Loki, god of mischief, fight Thanos? KNIFE TO THE FACE!! FRONTAL ASSAULT!! Of... of course that failed? And furthermore, why did they make it a point to remind the audience repeatedly that Loki is a god, right before Thanos killed him by just, like, choking him/snapping his neck? Apparently that’s how you kill a god? Seems like it should be harder than that.

Why didn’t Dr. Strange do his “check all the different realities” thing when they first heard about Thanos? Why didn’t Dr. Strange chop off Thanos’ arm with a portal like his buddy did with one of Thanos’ underlings?

Why didn’t anybody just shoot Quill when he was obviously about to become a problem?

Why did Quill, who had been willing to kill Gamora himself earlier in the movie, suddenly go off the handle at the worst possible moment upon finding out she was already dead? And why was his response so minimal? Like I get that he’s grieving and stuff, but you need to be able to compartmentalize that shit at least a LITTLE bit, buddy-- and if you can’t, then you need to do something bigger than just like punching the guy. At least shoot out his eyes or something.

Why didn’t Thor aim for Thanos’ head? (and for that matter in all the bazillion timelines Dr. Strange looked at, why were there NONE where Thor aimed for Thanos’ head???)

Why did Wanda decide her boyfriend was more important than literally everybody else ever, especially when Thanos winning would mean Vision dying anyway, so like... I get that killing your bf would be traumatic, but suck it up? Why didn’t they consider breaking the stone and THEN reviving Vision? He’s not a human, he’s synthetic, so why would they assume he wouldn’t be able to be rebooted later with a different power source? And why did they gamble half the universe and actively throw away Wakandan lives for him?? I JUST???

The Hulk got his ass kicked by Thanos (a weird scene; why does Thanos know WWE wrestling moves??) so he just... stopped helping. Like, that could have been interesting, if it wasn’t a general theme throughout the movie that most of the characters conveniently stopped being good at what they’re good at so that the plot could progress with adequate Drama. 

Basically I just wanted to scream “get it together!” at most of the cast of this movie throughout the whole film. Don’t nerf your cast to make your villain seem stronger than he is. If you can’t make him stronger on his own merits, you’re a bad writer. 

I don’t understand the reality stone (or how Thanos used it).

It seemed to change whatever he wanted, but... only while he was focusing on it? Or only while he was nearby? As soon as he left, Drax and Mantis reverted back to their normal forms, so does he need to be in the vicinity for it to work? Or was it like an illusion? If so, that’s not changing reality. 

And either way, the ways in which he DID change reality were bizarrely whimsical and made no sense for his character. Like, he kept turning everything to bubbles. If somebody bought him a bubble wand, would he have stopped murdering everyone? Is that his aesthetic? Bubbles and spiralized people? 

Or was that the aesthetic of the stone itself? Because that’s weird too. 

That scene where the ladies fought the lady villain.

On the one hand, I’m glad there was a lady villain and her design was cool, and I’m glad whenever there are scenes where there are no men and only ladies. 

ON THE OTHER HAND I’m fucking tired of the trope where male heroes fight the male villains and female heroes fight the female villains because.... ??? Because they’re fighting someone in their own league? Or because men can’t hit women? Or something?? I find it very weird and suspect whenever a combat situation gets evenly split up between the genders. 

Wanda's powers >:(

Wanda is more powerful (by a LOT) in the comics than she is in the MCU, which is sort of understandable because she’s pretty universe-breaking levels of OP in the comics (like, one time she literally broke the universe), but it’s also pretty frustrating as a fan of comic!Wanda just how MUCH they nerfed her for the MCU. HOWEVER! In this movie they implied that she IS more powerful than she’s seemed up until now. 

And then they barely used her at all. 

I, a fool, thought maybe they were going to do something interesting about her magic. With the repetition that her power mirrors that of the stone, I thought maybe she was going to kill Vision, and then Thanos would use HER instead of the stone because she’s got it’s power inside of her. 

But no. 

They couldn’t have done something interesting where a woman has a role beyond “she’s precious to a Man and therefore important”. Nope.

Every Single Scene was a foregone conclusion.

Honest to god, I don’t remember a single scene where I was like “gosh, what’s going to happen next??” Every single scene was just me thinking “I know exactly what is about to happen, and I don’t want it to” and then I was right, and disappointed.

Every part of this movie was predictable with certainty, except I suppose for the scenes where I thought “surely they wouldn’t do something so weird and/or boring as what it seems like they’re setting up here” but then they did anyway.

Why did Tony think Steve would know where Vision was when Tony didn’t? And why was he right?

They just never explained this and I found it utterly perplexing. 

Tony was like “Probably Steve Rogers would know where Vision is” and my friends and I had to pause the movie to compare notes and be like “wait, why? Why would HE know?” and none of us could figure it out, and then the movie never explained it either.

Nebula was underutilized.

I was just really frustrated at how few scenes she was actually in and how little she was allowed to DO in a movie completely centered on trying to fight the guy who tortured and experimented on her for her whole life. Like, she was in it and she was relevant, but mostly only as a set piece, not a person. But I guess they couldn’t figure out how to make her Precious To A Man, so she didn’t really matter to the writers.

My only hope is that she’s vitally central to the next one, but like... I expect literally nothing good out of the next movie, so it’s not exactly a thriving hope.

The female characters were all underutilized.

The writers are misogynists and you could tell by how few lines any of the women had when they weren’t being shown as Precious To A Man. Which female characters got to be involved in whole entire conversations (rather than just one-off lines)? 

Wanda (while being Precious to Vision)

Gamora (while being Precious to Quill, then to Thanos)

Pepper (while being Precious to Tony)

Honorable mentions for Mantis, Nebula, Shuri, Okoye, and Nat for having a handful of lines each in the entire movie that was HIGH KEY centered on white men. 

The Thanos Fandom

I’ll leave off on people who actually LIKE Thanos right now, because I assume they’re mostly eugenicist nazis and aren’t worth my time.

No, I’m talking about people who like him AS A VILLAIN and think that the movie did a GOOD JOB of making him clearly and wholly and unequivocally a villain who the audience should clearly and wholly and unequivocally feel antagonistic towards. 

It didn’t. 

The movie portrayed him as someone trying to do “the right thing” who has to “make hard choices” because of his “tragic past” which is NOT an acceptable portrayal of a genocidal megalomaniac-- ESPECIALLY not in the current climate of the world. 

If the audience is not explicitly told how to feel about a villain (by point-by-point countering and condemning them), the lowest common denominator of the audience (which is not a small percent of said audience) is going to interpret the villain’s tragic backstory as justification, their “hard choices” as being worthy of empathy, and their worldview as something worth considering. Especially if you write them as such, and ESPECIALLY if they WIN. 

And yet all I keep seeing is people who want to justify enjoying the movie (unnecessary: you can enjoy it and admit it’s content is bad at the same time) by yelling “Of course Thanos’ is CRAZY-- that’s the point!! People complaining about it aren’t giving the audience enough credit!!”

Please read this relevant post talking about Fight Club (and Mad Max). 

“Media designed to teach morals often backfires [because] just exposing [people] to bad behavior is enough to make them internalize that the behavior is [...] acceptable for people to do, [especially when a] movie only really devotes 5% of its screen time to explicitly denouncing [said bad] behavior, and that [...] only arrives at the very end of the film.” 

--a summarized quote from the above, much longer, post.

This is extra EXTRA relevant if you have to WAIT A YEAR before you even GET to the “consequences” part of the morality story. “The typical adult audience member does not think critically enough about film media to process this moral” is a true statement even when the moral is in the last 10 minutes of a 90 minute film-- it’s WAY more true if the moral doesn’t come until A FUCKING YEAR LATER. Another relevant quote from that post is “The director has the responsibility to clearly spell out to the audience the difference between supporting a behavior by depicting it, and criticizing it by depicting it.” This movie half assed that at best. 

Another relevant quote: “Every villain is the hero of their own story. And when the villain is the narrator, the audience is hearing the version of the story in which the villain is the hero, and the audience is moved by that perspective.” 

Thanos was in charge of the narrative of the entire movie. He was functionally the central and thus main character on which the story turned, made clearest by the end screen “Thanos will return”, which up until now has been reserved for PROTAGONISTS. That’s what I’m talking about here. 

He was the villain, but he was also functionally the main character, and the narrative did not put in the work to properly condemn him or his actions. They spent all their time and energy making him fake deep, and then threw a couple “You’re insane!!!” lines in there from heroes to cover their asses that really didn’t have any effect on Thanos whatsoever.

Also please consider that “He’s just CRAZY!! That’s why he’s violent and evil!!” is a tired and ableist trope used primarily to villainize real mentally ill people and to let white men (who are not mentally ill) off the hook for violent toxic masculinity. Mentally ill people in reality are disproportionately likely to be the VICTIMS of violence, not the perpetrators, no matter what media would have us believe. 

Thanos isn’t crazy, he’s a self absorbed, entitled, genocidal megalomaniac, and calling him crazy is a cop out. 

Assuming everyone understood that he’s purely and simply wrong is giving the audience WAY too much credit, especially when his motivation is based on a fabrication that the writers seemed to actually believe. 

No one in the movie said “Thanos, our world isn’t overpopulated-- people in power are just greedy. If you’re going to kill anybody, kill those people. Don’t ‘randomly’ kill half the populous when some people are actually at fault." No one in the movie said “Your logic is based on fallacy” they just said “I don’t care about your logic because murder is always wrong (except when I do it).” Most or all of the protagonists in this series have killed people. I’m not saying they were wrong to, necessarily, but saying “You can’t just kill people” rings hollow from these characters in particular, especially when they’re actively trying to kill Thanos as they say it. Again, they’re right to do that, but IF they’re doing that, they need to be written to have a better argument than “Murder is wrong!” 

Basically the writing of this movie, where the heroes clashed with the villain, was just countering a fallacy that major parts of the audience may actually believe with some fallacies that fall apart at 10 seconds of critical thinking. Therefore, plenty of people will walk away with the wrong message.

ESPECIALLY when you depict Thanos in a reverent light, and have an entire subplot about how much he Loves the daughter he abused and continues abusing and then murders on screen. ESPECIALLY when he faces no genuine threat throughout the entire movie and then wins at the end, and the consequences for his actions have to wait a YEAR to be seen.

Thor "needed a weapon" to survive after taking the full force of a star??? I dont?? Get that.

That’s it, I just don’t understand it. 

Eitri the dwarf was like “BUT YOU’LL DIE!!!” and Thor did the thing anyway (predictably) and didn’t die (predictably) but was sort of dying for The Drama (predictably) and then Eitri was like “He needs the weapon!! to live!!!!!” and I still don’t understand what that meant or why. 

Relatedly, I don’t understand why Groot’s arm is an adequate substance for Thor’s anti-infinity-stone-weapon, when Groot #1 was obliterated by an infinity stone. Am I remembering that right? I don’t understand this. It feels like somebody thought “Hey you know what would be cool?” and that was literally the only thought process behind it. Nobody thought very hard about this before writing it into the movie. Though to be fair, that tracks with pretty much everything else in this movie, so why not, I guess. 

Also stars are way bigger than that, that was not a star. Just saying.

The Red Skull cameo made no sense.

I understand that the tesseract spat him out somewhere else in space, and I’m fine with that (like, that could have been interesting actually), but I don’t understand why he ended up as, like, a ghost doing the bidding of the soul stone or whatever??? Do the stones interact? Did the tesseract tell the soul stone to fuck that guy up cuz he’s an asshole? Was that just the effect of being transported too close to the soul stone? I don’t... understand that at all.

And, in line with the rest of the movie, he was very out of character.

“Thanos is sad because he LOVED Gamora”

Then he shouldn’t have fucking killed her. 

Even the smallest violin in the universe playing “my heart bleeds for you” would be too much. Fuck that guy and his fake depth.

Look I’ve touched on this multiple times already, but I keep coming back to it because it’s absolutely one of the worst things about the movie. 

If they wanted to make a point about Thanos' abuse not being mutually exclusive to the emotional experience of love on his part, they really should have hit it home instead of letting it just flounder. Abuse and love are not mutually exclusive, and we DO need more media that acknowledges that, but this is not how to portray that.

Gamora (or literally anyone) needed to actually SAY “I don’t care if you love/d me, you HURT me. You ruined my life. Your love is worthless and changes NOTHING.” 

Gamora suffered under his abuse pretty much her WHOLE LIFE and then he KILLED her. And he did it BECAUSE he “loved” her? And it was done to give him some sort of fucked up complexity/depth? That’s fucking violent. 

They didn't go hard enough on any of their character arcs/points

like... Steve was clearly shut down and depressed but that was never addressed. 

What was that about Tony wanting to stop being a hero and settle down and have kids??? They spent like 5 whole entire minutes (which is a long time in a movie actually) setting that up as a plot point and then never addressed it again. 

Bucky looked so tired when he saw the arm, like you could see on his face when he realized he was being sent back into war. Another assignment. Gotta kill more people. He looked so TIRED but then the next time we see him he’s smiling at Steve, and it never got addressed (AND THEN HE DIED SO???)

Bruce and Nat shared like one line, and then never spoke again (and while I’m not interested in them as a couple, that still felt weird). 

Rhodey went against that hologram asshole’s instructions and then it never came up again.

Rocket talking to Thor, asking if he’s okay, and Thor saying basically “I have nothing left to lose so I’ll be very useful” never became relevant. Rocket saying “Well, I mean, I’ve got a lot to lose actually” also never became relevant. 

Dr. Strange’s whole “duty” to protect the stone was supposed to be more important than anything, and yet it was not in practice more important than... like... anything, tbh. Nor did he have to deal with the consequences of failing his duty, even a little bit.

Vision was having headaches and then it turned out to be the stone, like, warning him about Thanos or something?? Never became important. 

Bruce couldn’t get the Hulk to help out. That’s... that’s it, that’s the whole character arc, he just couldn’t get the Hulk to help out.

Peter Quill was asked by Gamora to kill her. When the time came, he was actually willing to, but was stopped by an outside force. This was never addressed again, and then they both died. Cool. 

I understand that they might be trying to introduce all these plot points so they can address them in the second half, but.... like........... half these characters died already, and also that’s not a good way to write a two-movie story. Series’ need to have satisfying arcs within each independent installment. This movie did not.

((You may have noticed, also, that most of the characters the movie TRIED to give actual character arcs to, even if they failed, are white men. I noticed that too.))

Characters who have barely if ever been allowed to know happiness or contentment or safety, and then just die, are not enjoyable character arcs, fuck off.

Especially Bucky, but also somewhat true for Gamora, Mantis, Wanda (plus I’m still mad about Pietro). Don’t kill characters who’ve never really gotten to live well. Don’t make characters who only get to suffer and then die. Character arcs like that are almost always written by white male writers about marginalized characters, and it just feels violent. 

Steve’s new shield was weird.

I was actually hyped about T’Challa being the one to get him a new shield, because then it’d still be made of vibranium!! And everything from Wakanda so far looks rad as hell. But, uh... I wasn’t a fan of the design. It doesn’t look throwable, or big enough, or particularly useful. It didn’t do anything cool that I noticed. I thought maybe it was going to have a force field like the shield capes W’Kabi and the other male warriors used in Black Panther, or something else technological. Instead it just, like, gets 4 inches wider if you... put it on... or something??? Mediocre. Not worthy of having been made in Wakanda.

I just wasn’t a fan of pretty much any of the new designs they added to this movie (except the new spider suit, and that one lady villain; but that was really it). 

“All the stones together can alter reality!! Obviously the only solution is murder.”

I know everybody has said this, but why... didn’t Thanos just... create more resources. If the problem was too few resources, why didn’t he snap his fingers and make more??? If you have the ability to alter reality and remake the universe with a snap of your fingers, and your intentions are to improve the quality of life of all people’s throughout the universe, why the fuck is your only solution “murder half of everybody”?? 

And why would you murder a RANDOM half of everybody? Why wouldn’t you murder, like “the half of everybody who is the shittiest to other people, on a planet by planet basis” or something? Like, if your intentions are truly benevolent but you also truly can only use murder to improve the universe (which, like, is a very VERY bullshit “if” but I digress), why would you think the best use of murder would be “random”? That just seems like a privileged person trying desperately not to sound bigoted (while sounding bigoted nonetheless). 

So it doesn’t matter if they’re a mass murdering dictator, or a serial killer, or a sexual predator, or a corrupt politician lobbying for a skewed distribution of resources based on bigotry? They’d still only have a 50/50 shot at dying, even though you claim to be doing this for the betterment of the remaining people’s quality of life? 

What about communities that have already suffered genocide? They have to suffer that again, because you can’t get your head out of your ass long enough to comprehend the nuance of this bullshit situation you’ve created?

What about people who are studying genetically modified food to make resources more plentiful? People who spend their whole lives making hugely positive differences in the distribution of resources? People who are just good, and care about others, and take steps to improve the lives of others, people who aren’t going to fuck up the paradise you want to create? They also have that same 50/50 shot?

And if your goal is only the deaths of 50% of the people in the universe, what about bus drivers who are actively driving buses? What about surgeons who are in the middle of surgery? What about people driving cars on the highway? Killing half the population instantaneously would result in way more death than just half the population. 

This plan falls apart more and more the more you think about it.

"The biggest cast of all time” and NOBODY is queer. 

Like, there are two characters in the entire MCU who could conceivably be considered canonically queer: 

Valkyrie, because she was supposed to have a scene indicating her canon bisexuality. And even though they cut it, it was IN THE SCRIPT so it’s halfway canon.

Loki, but only because he’s queer (genderfluid and pansexual) in the comics. So like, he’s NOT canonically queer in the movies, but he’s also not specified as NOT queer, so...? The writers definitely didn’t intend it, despite queercoding him, but we can pretend. 

And in infinity war, Loki dies 5 seconds in, and Valkyrie straight up doesn’t exist. So????? It was boring and sucked.

They attempted to address the MCU Villain Problem, and failed.

The MCU villain problem, AKA the villains in most MCU movies are forgettable and boring because they and their schemes always came as an afterthought. 

Recently, to address this, the formula (as seen with Killmonger and the Vulture) seems to be "a villain that needs to be stopped, but who is understandable and maybe even relatable and likeable". In both the case of Killmonger and the Vulture, this worked (not perfectly, but it did). They made the villains PEOPLE outside of their villainy. They made them complex, and it was compelling and therefore memorable and interesting. 

They tried to apply this formula to Thanos... in the worst possible way. 

As I’ve already talked about. They tried to make him complex to avoid their usual villain problem, except in the process they MADE HIM THE PROTAGONIST. There wasn’t a hero protagonist. There was only Thanos and a lot of heroes trying to stop him, and posing no real threat to him or his plot at any point.

And the heroes OPPOSED him, but they did not properly condemn him or his logic, and then he won.

Fatphobia and emasculation aimed at Quill for the lulz  

They wanted Peter Quill to be threatened by Thor for some reason, and the way they chose to do that was to make Quill’s friends call him “one sandwich away from fat” and thus “not a man”. 

Then he started vowing to commit to a better exercise routine or something, and tried to lower his voice to sound more like Thor. Bless Thor for not understanding what was going on and thinking Quill was mocking him (aka, not thinking of Quill as having anything he’d need to compensate for), but Quill being threatened by Thor, as well as his jealousy of Gamora’s attention to a “more attractive” man, honestly just felt like the writers scrambling for a reason to give the characters conflict, and settling on a toxic and offensive trope. 

Especially because Chris Pratt is In Shape. He has like a six pack. He’s objectively NOT fat. If he were, and they mocked him for it, that would be fatphobic and shitty, but the fact that he’s NOT just makes it baffling on top of being fatphobic and shitty. It’s like those makeover movies where they put glasses and baggy clothes on a conventionally attractive woman and then claim she looks terrible. 

Bad.

There were better options for Thanos' reasoning and the writers... really should have taken them.

I have HEARD that the comic version of Thanos’ motivation was “He’s in love with the embodiment/god of death, and wanted to kill half of everybody to impress her” and to be honest that would have been a better option.

(Side Note: Maybe the use of Hela as the Goddess of Death in Ragnarok is why the writers of Infinity War hated Ragnarok. Maybe they were mad they couldn’t use her for this movie, and that’s why they murdered and buried everything Ragnarok accomplished with such thorough dedication.)

Other better Thanos motivations just off the top of my head: 

He wanted to take over/colonize/enslave other planets to house his own people who DID use up the resources on their own planet.

There’s actually something ELSE he wants to use the Infinity Stones for, but he needs to kill tons of people to get it, or to get the Infinity Stones.

He was cursed to be immortal and will not be allowed to die until he kills enough other people.

He needs to trade like 10 million souls to the embodiment of death to bring someone he loves back from the dead.

He plans to harvest people from a bunch of different planets to produce a youth serum for alien elites-- (no wait that’s the plot of jupiter ascending)

He just hates people and thinks people should die.

He literally eats people, and he’s enormous so he needs to eat a lot of people.

Just saying, all of these are better motivations than “I’ve just gotta murder people cuz if I don’t then people will run out of food, and then they’ll die. I don’t WANT to, nobody else wants me to either, but I’m going to anyway. I’m sad about it.”

"We don't trade lives" 

This was a line from Steve about killing vs not killing Vision, and in the subsequent context of the movie, it’s violent as hell. 

“We don’t trade lives” he says, to discourage Vision from consenting to death to save everyone. Then he/they take Vision to Wakanda where Wakandan soldiers lay down their lives by the dozens to hundreds to protect Vision. Vision, who was willing to die. 

Steve Rogers is a soldier. He KNOWS that trading some lives for other (hopefully more) lives is how this is going to go. He knows. This was like the “Language” line from Avengers; it doesn’t make sense for the character.

But even beyond that, as I’ve said, they are absolutely going to-- and for that matter they were PLANNING to trade black Wakandan lives for Vision’s safety. And even if that weren’t a plot point, they’d be planning to potentially trade their OWN lives for those Thanos would kill if (when) they fail. 

“We don’t trade lives.” Yes, you do. Of course you do. And the audience knows it because the audience has seen all your other fucking movies. 

Why couldn’t the writers take a breath and stop trying so hard and just let the characters say what they mean. “I don’t want you to die.” “Please let us try to save you.” 

Why couldn’t they have just, like, made up an actual reason why they couldn’t afford to lose Vision? Maybe Vision’s headaches could have been actually utilized as a warning system? Maybe Vision could have communicated telepathically with Tony’s AI all the way through space, so Vision was their only was to know what was going on with Tony and Co.? Maybe destroying the stone while it was inside Vision was massively dangerous (like, could have gone off like a bomb or something....? I mean he CAN use the stone like a laser, maybe trying to destroy it would make it detonate.). 

THERE WERE OPTIONS. Instead they went with the absolute fallacy of “We don’t trade lives,” delivered by a character who would never have said that, and followed by the traded lives of MANY black people for one white man.

Bad.

The Soul Stone has really low standards for supposedly having high standards

Why require somebody to go through with a whole test of “give up the thing or person you love most” to acquire the Soul Stone? Like, the explanation “A soul for a soul” was kind of cool, but what does that have to do with love? It’s not the Love Stone, it’s the Soul Stone. Love doesn’t have anything to do with that, and even if it DID, Thanos’ version of love should have made the stone go “Um, I think the fuck NOT, you abusive motherfucker,” instead of “Sure! I’ll hand phenomenal cosmic power over to you because you just seem super legit. Nothing could go wrong here.”

Was the love thing even real, or was the Red Skull just bein’ his racist self, and wanted to watch Gamora get tossed off a cliff because he’s a nazi and bored as hell?

Furthermore, why did only one of the stones require a test? Is the Soul Stone just really needy? What is the deal with these stones??? Nothing was ever explained at ALL and it made NO SENSE.

Gamora deserved better, and so did every audience member who’s ever been abused.

I’m just gonna circle back to this point and address it head on.

Here’s a great article on this subject from somebody better equipped to address it than me.

But basically just... fuck the writers for showing us her power, and then making it pointless. Making her stab Thanos in the throat and then allowing him to wave it off like it didn’t happen or didn’t matter or like he was just testing her. Fuck the writers for letting her be murdered at the hand of the man who ruined her life, to further HIS goals, and to give HIM ‘depth’. 

If she doesn’t get resurrected in the next movie and deliver the killing blow, I will be even more furious than I already am, and that is honestly already an impressive level of fury. 

God I’m so fucking glad I didn’t pay to see this garbage fire of a movie.

#infinity war #infinity war review #spoilers #my thoughts #readmore #movie review #my rants

[robertabobertson]

Thoughts Time

Ok... 

Epiphanies I had on LSD: 

1. I am an empty shell: Let me explain. I feel like the past 3.5 yrs with Paul, I lost my sense of self. i allowed him to own my passions, what I enjoyed doing, because I was obsessed with the relationship and saving it. So I have lost my content curation, my own passions, I am just on vacation mode for the past 6 months instead of actually furthering my future.

 I have indulged in food (gained 5 lbs), in clothes (in debt), in traveling (in debt), in drugs (weekends have been trashed), in the wrong friends (not furthering their own futures), losing some other relationships (liz, cat, carly, heather, lauren, kati, etc.) The cycle of food, exercise, fun, and lack of discipline is starting to have consequences. 

I can turn this around. Next post will be goals. 

2. Andrew is fragile: He is as lost and aimless as I am. He is not as steady as I once thought. He is strapping his fate to people he thinks might know what it’s all about and he’s hoping that following will workout for the best. But when it comes to planning his future, his life, making big moves, he is a little lost. But I think he has the potential to discover what makes him happy. Here are my thoughts on what he needs to do to reach his full potential: 1. stop doing drugs 2. throw himself into his job and take it seriously 3. stop ruining his weekend every weekend with drugs and alcohol. 4. start taking me seriously and this relationship. 5. find a way to communicate his emotions and feelings better. Get out of this “stoic” mindset and try and be more open to his own thoughts and feelings and communicating them. 6. Follow what makes him happy long term, not short term 7. Open himself up to love. And goo. and sweet cuddles. And lifting up other people instead of just himself. 

3. When I looked at Andrew, he kind of looked like a ... demon / mania / i can’t explain it. His sunglasses hit his eyebrows and he looked intense. Like he was that guy who went to Miami with his drug dealer and got into ridiculous shiz. He is that guy who goes randomly to Canada to screw a girl. He is that guy who does Oxy and doesn’t tell anyone about it. I saw his darker side. The side of Andrew who .. if he’s not careful, could take over him. And not allow anymore good and innocence. I think I can help him pull the good and innocence out of him. But I don’t know if he’s open to that. I need him to be open in order for me to help him. 

4. I’m extremely empathetic. It’s one of my greatest strengths. I can feel people’s vibes and almost experience their thoughts. I could hear andrew’s thoughts.. he was saying “fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck” or laughing or whatever it was. It is crazy.. I forgot acid made me feel that way. Like I can read thoughts.. i know that’s crazy sounding because it is. 

5. A vibe, or an emotion or a train of thought on acid just continues to go in space if you don’t change it. Negative thoughts, a disharmony, anything like that can send one into a bad place emotionally. Need to be aware of the curated environment both visually and audibly 

6. I am my own woman. I am proud of myself. I am happy with myself. I know who I am. I know where I want to go. I will figure out this life shit and I will be happy. Or else. 

A: “Shauna.. I’m just sitting here crying.” 

S: “What!? Andrew. No. Tell me, what’s going on? Is it your Dad?”

A: “Kind of. I’m just wondering if I’m a good person, am I saving enough, am I making good decisions. What am I doing with my life?” 

S: “Andrew. Don’t think like that. That is obviously very heavy. You are doing amazing things with your life. There are so many things I admire about you. You have an amazing job. You taught yourself development! You have another side job which is so badass and amazing and you’re passionate about it. You play guitar. You’re disciplined, and you workout. You don’t overeat and you’re healthy and fit. You play basketball. You have hobbies that you love. You’ve surrounded yourself with people who love you and that you love and people who would do anything for you because we love you. You have an amazing family, tons of them who are sweet. You have a great apartment in midtown. And it’s sick. You have a great life. I think you’re amazing, and I respect your choices you’ve made to curate this life.”

A: “Shaunaa... how did I get so lucky to have you?”

S: “You are lucky. But I am with you because I see your potential and there is a lot about you that I admire and respect. I want to be with you.” 

<silence> 

S: “Do you write any of this down?” 

A: “No.” 

S: “You should. Even just a few lines. I have a blog.. have I told you about this? I’ve had it for the last 10 years-ish of my life. I write in it about every other day. A few lines of what’s bothering me so I don’t have to keep thinking about it. A thought that is cycling through my brain. It’s very helpful. .. And I write about you.” 

A:”you do? like what?” 

S: “Haha well you will never find it. It’s secret. But I have written a lot of letters to you. Reasons why I love you. What I admire about you. LIke how you dive deep into an intellectual topic instead of surface level. I don’t know, there are a lot of things you do that I am impressed with and make me want to be better and be a beter person. Things I used to do, but don’t anymore and want to. Is this helping? Are you feeling better?” 

A: “Yes... you are saying nice things.”

S:”Don’t worry I have an analysis of this entire relationship haha, it works. All of the good and bad and how we balance each other.”

A: “Shauna. How do I have you.... there was a podcast I was listening to about a guy who was a CEO founder of whatever, and he got into drugs and alcohol, doing it every weekend, having trouble focusing on anything else, and just spiraling. Got depressed, and tried to commit suicide. Took a bunch of pills and pulls of whiskey. I’m not saying I’m going to commit suicide at all. I’m not there. But he had a line that I always think about. And basically what happened is he went to rehab, and then he met a girl. And he said that every man needs a woman to ground him. and to keep him sane. And Idk.. shauna I see you being that girl for me.” 

S:”Wow. that’s .. such a sweet story. .. I feel kind of speechless. I can be that girl for you. I want to be.” 

I want to be that girl for Andrew. I want to steer him clear of the temptations and poor decisions. I want to help him. To be his grounded foundation of love. and good decisions. And sweet love and goo. And wrap him in love and forgiveness and lead him to the right place in life. I can be that for Andrew, my love. I can be a strong woman full of passion, good, and calm. I am that woman and I have been that before. I will attempt this. 

Goals: 

1. No more drugs

2. No more destroyed weekends

3. No more spending money ridiculously 

4. Pay off my debts 

5. Stop worrying about money 

6. Intuitive eating - only when hungry. Don’t overeat and stop at 80%. Kill the cycle of run - eat - run - eat - run - eat since it’s not efficient and it’s killing my productivity in other areas of my life. 

7. Lead and love and take in content and information that is educational. Not mind numbing. Start training my brain again to be able to take in information and not just slump out on life and experiencing my life and passions. 

8. Find a job - one in data science 

9. Finish up this H4H stuff! Get it going. Finish it out. You got this girl. 

[russellthornton]

Is She Into You? The Ultimate, Ultra-Covert Signs She is Into You

Not sure about her interest level and wondering, is she into you? Here are all the ultra-covert, easy-to-miss signs that’ll reveal what she doesn’t say.

It’s the stuff of fictional romance and erotica to know whether a girl is feeling your mojo even when she tries to keep her own feelings secret. She’ll even wonder to herself who this guy is… the one who seems to be able to read her emotionally – veil or no veil. So is she into you? Read on, and you’ll know in no time!

Is she into you? The 7 ultra-covert signs you can never miss

Women generally cultivate their social skills earlier than men and can therefore become tricky to read by the time we begin courting them. I still think of a half-dozen girls in my past who were really, really into me without me realizing. Thankfully, I’ve learned a few tricks since – in fact, 7 in particular – and they’re all great for reading:

– A girl who’s shy about her feelings for you

– A girl who’s undecided but curious about you

– A ‘hard-to-get’ girl who wants you to take the lead

– A girl giving out mixed signals

[Read: 15 signs she’s leading you on and taking you nowhere]

So, let’s dive in…

#1 If her eyes are locked onto yours and she leans in, she’s probably into you. So you’re talking to a girl. She’s locked onto your face – mostly your eyes. And she’s leaning towards you like a crane, as if peering into your soul. You’re thinking, ‘do I have something on my face?’ But here’s why this is a MAJOR sign that she is into you…

– If she leans into you, this is a sign that she feels compelled by the way you talk and describe things and express yourself, and your general aura of being – something about you is pulling her in.

– She’s also checking whether you can handle her scrutiny without crumbling. The more intensely she peers right into your eyes, the more she is trying to make sure you are the real deal. [Read: How to tell if a woman likes you – 21 subtle signs most men ignore]

– This is a woman’s version of a guy checking out a girl’s butt – she’s checking out your strength by closely studying your face and pupils for micro-signs of honesty or dishonesty, confidence or nervousness, and trustworthiness or untrustworthiness. Much of this is subconscious.

Overall, the leaning-while-scrutinizing body language tells you she’s curious about you and probably a sign that she is into you *as long as you actually are who you say you are*.

Her behavior is an ultra-covert signal that she finds hard to disguise. She needs to know more, to figure you out in your essence – your level of status, confidence, intelligence, and so on. And so she leans in magnetically.

When this happens, just run with it! You can’t build on an interaction with a woman who’s not interested in the first place, so if you’re getting this, you’re in the game! [Read: How to ask a girl if she likes you without really asking her]

#2 If her pupils look like saucers, she’s probably into you. If a girl gazes into your eyes intently and even leans in but her pupils look like tiny dots, this is an indication *perhaps MAJOR one* to back away and give her more personal space – cool things down on the flirting side and build friendly rapport!

However, if she looks away or at you but her pupils are like saucers, this is a sign she’s emotionally happy to be in your company and feels open inside. Depending on the context and her type of personality, you can then perhaps be more suggestive or subtly build physical contact as you converse.

Pupil dilation is generally a sign of human pleasure. Many guys are oblivious to this ultra-covert, automatic response, but if you can learn to recognize it, you can get an idea of a woman’s level of attraction to your vibe.

I can’t tell you how reliably surprised I’ve been to find that I could kiss a girl with her being very receptive to it, just by my noticing her pupils were bigger than looked ordinary. [Read: 15 body language cues a girl gives away if she actually likes you]

#3 If she seems to look everywhere but at you, she’s probably into you. This one’s counter-intuitive and is especially the case if you’re standing close to each other and have a good socially acceptable reason to communicate.

It can also be the same if she’s some distance away but near enough to acknowledge you. Eye contact avoidance is so covert because if a woman is looking around everywhere but at you, it’s so easiy to interpret that as dislike or disinterest.

However, even if a girl’s into you, she might be too nervous or intimidated to let you know. I’ve even been on a date with a girl who seemed more interested in her phone than in me. I told her: ‘the way you look at your phone is kind of cute. I like that you’re a little shy.’ She admitted that she was, in fact, a little nervous but enjoyed my company.

Other reasons for a girl avoiding eye contact might include:

– Needing more time to get to know and trust you

– Perhaps she’s playing it cool

– She might be in a committed relationship and not want to tempt the devil

– She may want you to work a bit for her attention. You can detect if she’s trying to hide her curiosity by slyly trying to catch her checking you out – give her a cheeky smile and wink if you do. [Read: 12 signs she’s being a tease and wants you to chase her]

#4 If she finds reasons to touch you, she is into you. Maybe she’s touching your arm whenever she laughs, or physically moving very close to you, or bumping into you – she doesn’t seem to mind this physical contact and even initiates it. She may not even know why she’s doing it, but this is a major sign that she is into you.

Even if a girl is comfortable touching you, it doesn’t necessarily mean she wants you for an intimate partner – she may just enjoy tactile communication. Many of us feel most connected to others when they demonstrate touch – handshakes, playful elbows, hugs, slaps on the back and so on. [Read: 15 signs of flirting between a guy and a girl]

However, the very fact that she feels comfortable enough to initiate touch is a green light that she feels open around you. It can also indicate that she wants to also feel your touch. The only way to know how far she is willing to receive and share touch is to use common sense:

– Consider context

– Return her touch in a similar way

– Playfully gauge her sexual interest by noticing something attractive or cute about her like, ‘your nose scrunches up in a cute way when you laugh’ and notice how she reacts

[Read: How to flirt by touch without making it obvious at all]

#5 If she reacts to you emotionally, she is into you. You might be like ‘duh’ to this one, but it’s easy to overlook it. Ever had a dramatic argument with your girlfriend? She’s in a whirlwind of emotions.

To her friends and family, you are to blame for everything wrong with her life right then at that very moment. But once all is resolved, the two of you have the most intense sex of your lives together…

Why does this happen? Is she into you or does she hate your guts? The more we invest in something emotionally, the more valuable that thing appears. Emotion is nature’s way of getting us to focus on what matters most in any situation. In other words, if she’s emotionally locked on to you, she is also potentially very into you in that moment. It’s only a matter of converting that emotion by taking the lead.

Emotional charge also plays out in friendly communication. Let’s say you’re talking to a woman. She gasps in shock, laughs in outburst, her vocal pitch rises, and she seems excited or engaged.

All of these are the sorts of things that can happen in platonic interactions. However, if you are looking for the potential for intimacy, this is an excellent start – it’s something very useful to work with.

This even extends to texting. I’ve found a strange pattern in my dating experience: when a girl texts using lots of exclamation marks and emojis, this often means she’s already really into me, trusts me enough to want to be playful in general, which leaves lots of freedom to do things like hug, hold hands, pick her up, be bolder with my humor, and so on. [Read: 18 really obvious signs over text that a girl really likes you]

#6 If she breathes hot and heavily when you move close to her, she’s probably hot and heavy for you… and, of course, she is into you. Now, hot and heavy breathing may be a not-so-covert sign that we’re heading into hot and steamy territory. This one is incredibly important – some girls don’t give away much intentionally, but this sign tells all…

I remember this French girl that I had a short romance with. She was a perfect example of the above paragraph – a great poker face, but she turned on chemistry-wise with me more than an amplified electric guitar.

Every time I got close to her, her chest would rise as if she couldn’t control her lungs from suddenly sucking in air. When I took this ultra-covert message as a sign to act and initiated a kiss, her whole body seemed to expand and tremble with the emotions tearing through her body, and she seemed unable to control her breathing.

If a girl is breathing harder whenever you two are physically near each other, this can be an enormous sign she has an intense physical attraction towards you. It still doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s ready to be fully sexual with you. You have to lead, make a few moves, and check for her response along each stage of the way. [Read: 13 lusty signs of sexual attraction to keep your eye on]

Note: always check if she’s reacting positively and not negatively.

#7 If she finds reasons to be around you, she is into you. Ever caught a girl you’re talking to swap a side-glance with her friend? Then in a split instance, the friend finds a reason to disappear, leaving the two of you alone together?

You thought you saw it happen, but brushed it off. Or a girl approaches you asking for directions to somewhere – smiling, laughing, and opening conversation throughout. You wonder to yourself how you began chatting with a stranger.

Many times at school, I also found myself scratching my head as to why a girl suddenly popped up and became visible in my life. For example, after featuring in a short movie *played to my embarrassment by a school friend* suddenly a new girl not even from my class appeared. She showed up more and more. For example, as I would wait for classes to start, I became conscious of her standing near me.

This happened again and again until I realized she was hanging around in the places I was. Next thing I knew, her friend cornered me in a hallway and asks randomly ‘do you like her?’ The last resort for this girl was to have her friend indirectly let me know she was into me. Thankfully, I’m no longer such a dummy with this sign! [Read: 16 signs a girl is attracted to you and wants you to make a move]

So is there a girl who always seems to be where you are? Don’t expect her to tell you why, just take it as a positive sign that she is into you. Because women have less direct agency when it comes to starting relationships. They will often try to tell you they’re into you by just being interested in you and what you’re up to.

Context matters here, but the question to consider is… ‘is there any other reason for her to be here?’ Imagine you were all among a group of people busily chatting and networking, and a girl was standing next to you. Well, her being next to you might be by chance. However, if you can’t see an explanation, or if there are additional signs she is into you, just assume you have the Lynx Effect.

[Read: How to make a girl want you and desire you sexually]

So the next time you find yourself confused and wondering, is she into you, remember it’s all in a woman’s eyes, emotions, touch, and breath. Pay attention to these subtle signals, and you’ll know her secret desires.

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