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wejustvibing · 6 months

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Hello again!

Sorry for being in here so much! I wanted to ask your opinion on something about Lewis and his interactions with people he is interviewed by or who he meets for the first time. What i mean is, when Lewis met Takashi Murkami and he described him as a nugget of love or something of those words or when the Mercedes E Sports boys met Lewis and Marcel said meeting Lewis is like an experience you can’t put into words (again im not sure of his exact words) what do you think it is about Lewis that makes people feel that way? Because no offence, i don’t often see anyone else being spoken about in this manner, so I wonder what it is about Lewis that has people feeling this way. And in your opinion, why do you think, despite this, people still want to call his character into question and imply or blatantly say he is the opposite of what so many other people have said he is?

I also would like to ask, what are a couple of things about Lewis that you appreciate?

Have a good day!

hey you! sorry for getting to this so late. i needed a breather. yes!!! people's reaction to meeting him is my absolute favorite thing. the way murakami has described him is a masterpiece in itself. it's so overwhelmingly priceless. he must be magic, this guy <3

well i've never met him so it wouldn't be right for me to try and guess the feeling or vouch for any of these experiences. at least not without bringing out my inner parasocial crazies. but in my opinion, aside from the obvious personality and aura, he's highly intuitive and excellent at reading energies around him and more often than not he reflects them back, probably drawing people in. he's super respectful and attentive when they're engaging him which must be refreshing. also he never ever does what's expected of him—including expectations based on perceptions, media reports or hearsay that always paint him a certain way. it probably surprises them the most i guess?

i appreciate and love a whole lotta things about him but let me try and stick to the topic and context here. i love that he is compassionate and often tries to show it through actions. he will ask interviewers about their day or lives, in a curious yet respectful way. will try to make them feel comfortable by being calm and soft-spoken. will try to make time for fans and not just through sheer obligation. i like that he's intentional with every single thing he does in public eye. it comes from hard learned lessons i'm sure and must take a whole team of people to make it work so well. but i love it, especially when you know the level of unnecessary scrutiny he faces.

i love the fact that he's not perfect. don't think i'd be a fan if he was. as someone learning to live with maladaptive perfectionism i take solace sometimes knowing it's okay to be less than perfect and it's okay to learn and improve, it's okay to keep striving in ways that might never reach perfection. you're allowed to be wrong and you can always be/do better the next time. i love it when he's spontaneous, lets out normal human emotions and passionate reactions. i love that he's one petty mf if and when he decides to be. love that he's always curious and ready to learn. he's not afraid of expressing himself, being himself (anymore), i really admire that. he could have easily gotten jaded by now with the amount of success as well as negativity but instead he's elevated himself beyond both and has nurtured his heart to be the best version of himself and enjoy the journey he's on.

but, one thing that i love the most about him is how easy he makes everything look. if there's one thing about him it's that he is going to make everything look effortless—hard work, driving, winning, success, fashion, attitude, reaction to criticism & hate, and most of all living (and living rent free in so many heads). it's probably what pisses some people off too. must need heaps of discipline, focus and strength to achieve it. but he does it anyway and you have to appreciate that.

#anonymous #can't tell you how much that empty space above read more is pissing me off rn but i'll try to ignore 🥲#and sorry again<3

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funkymbtifiction · 5 years

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The struggles of inferior Si

Hi. I used to juggle between ENFP and INFP for a long time, the question being whether my inferior function was Te or Si. I assumed it might be Te, because 1, Organization is my blind spot - my personal space is messy and I have difficulty building and maintaining habits; 2, I have the tendency to go into a rage whenever people disappoint me in class or at work; 3. I often lose track of my long-term plan and veering into new territories (or maybe that just me Ne speaking). Overall, I had never noticed my Si was off - I had a good memory, I referenced things in the past into my conversations and work projects.

However, lately, I just realize how off my Si really is.

The first theme of my life is I keep repeating my stupid mistakes. For example, one day, I decided to try napping as I heard that napping is good for your health and productivity. Then I napped for more than 2 hours, which left me groggy, tired and with a raging headache. I told myself “okay, no more nap ‘cause it’s not for me”. The following noon, I suddenly believed in my newfound ability to wake up after 30 minutes and I tried napping again. Needless to say, I failed spectacularly. This pattern would continue on and off and in several other examples, especially related to personal issues. It seems like I realize my mistakes but somehow believe I'm better than repeating it.

The second theme is I slave over details of something that I think will make or break me (being a 3w4, I think every project will make or break me). After finishing a group presentation, I will check each page to find out the smallest mistakes, believing that I will if I look hard enough. I also dictate and argue how words should be styled (to the exasperation of my mates). This stresses me out a lot, so now if I think a paper is good enough, I will send it and won’t look back. I know once I find out a single mistake after sending it and realize I have no ability to change, it will drive me absolutely crazy.

The third theme is what your posts make me realize: I thought I remember details, but what’s more exact is I actually B.S them. I tend to take in general ideas, and I thrive at figuring out consequences and exploring the possibilities in conversations. Most of my friends know me for a long time and are familiar with my thinking process and moral values, they understand me and never question it (or they are just blindsided by my B.S). But recently, I said something in the same manner, and my ESTP new friend just asked: “Really, when did you see it?”, and I just… blanked. Similar incidents have occurred many times in my life, but maybe I never noticed it clearly. When taking exams, the kind of questions I struggle with the most is “reciting a specific example to prove a point”, unless I had a vivid memory that burned into my mind or I am lucky enough to read something similar a few days ago. Another time, I made a spontaneous marketing presentation and I couldn’t remember the brand’s name for God’s sake! I remember theories and personal stories a lot better though. Funny thing: sometimes after finishing a book, I will recite the plot, thinking about the lessons, the story’s strengths and weaknesses, and suddenly I realize I can’t remember the full names of the protagonists.

Besides, I think my Te is not that bad, but it works better in short term and in tandem with my Ne. Give me a project goal, and I will quickly formulate a plan to execute it to perfection. My problem is actually to stick with the plan in long term and make sure my Ne doesn’t lead me to abort the whole mission to pursue something “more”.

Finally, I have a question: do you suggest anything to improve my Si to tackle those problems, especially the first one? Thanks a lot!

You are correct in assuming what you describe is inferior Si.

There's actually two things at play in your first paragraph, and both relate to low Si and Te.

You decided to try napping as you heard it's good for your health and productivity. Well, that statement tells me you want to be more productive, in correlation with your 3w4. Since I know what inferior Si is like, and also what 3's are like (workaholics), the real question is whether or not you are being self-caring. The only way to operate to your greatest potential is to take care of yourself. "Napping" will not fix the problem. Are you eating three good meals a day, starting with a protein-rich breakfast? Do you get the 8 hours of sleep your body needs to go through all its sleep cycles to replenish your brain chemistry? Do you go to bed and wake up at the same time every day? Are you eating a healthy diet, full of good oils that will help your body and brain function well? Are you prioritizing your most difficult tasks in the morning, when you have optimal (refreshed) use of your brain? You only function optimally about 6 hours a day; you wake up a filled up tank, and people and activities drain you all day long. So, if you want to achieve things, do the most "heady" and demanding things first, when you have the most mental resources, and leave lesser tasks for the afternoon when your body and mind slows down. Also, get enough sleep, eat good foods (a healthy mid-afternoon snack will help keep your energy up -- not chips and soda!), rest your eyes at least 10 minutes per hour of "screen time" (ideally, by going outside), get some exercise, and go to bed at a reasonable hour. Those will help you get the results you want.

(An aside, napping isn't a great idea. It generally doesn't allow your brain to go through a full sleep cycle, which includes dreaming, which is the time when your brain replenishes itself. That's why you wake up groggy and angry. The same thing happens in the morning if you wake up and "doze" until it's time to get up. It's actually better to get up and start doing things than to lay there half-asleep and get "halfway through a sleep cycle.")

The second part of your question is -- how do you learn from your mistakes? That's hard, isn't it? But you want to, which is good. You learn to reflect on them, instead of glossing over them.

The only way to learn from your mistakes is to analyze them. Why did this happen? Why did I want to do it in the first place? Where did I go wrong? What is my conclusion about this thing?

I have done similar stupid things, such as eating food that I suspected wouldn't make me feel good, assuming the last time I was wrong. I bloat up like a Macy's Day Parade balloon. I feel lousy. I tell myself, "Never again will I eat potatoes. NEVER AGAIN." And then stupidly, I'll eat potatoes. So, if I want to correct this, I have to sit down and consciously think about it, then reach a firm decision. Why did I decide, after eating potatoes, that I would never do it again? Well, because 10 minutes after I ate them the last time, I felt bloated and sick. Why do I think I should eat them now? I want them. Why do you want them? I don't know. Yes you do. Why do you want them? Because I like the taste. Well, is the fun in your mouth worth feeling like crap later? No. So are you going to do the smart thing, and put down that French fry or are you going to do the stupid thing and eat it? If the latter, you better not whine to me about feeling awful. I won't eat it then.

Generally, you repeat mistakes because you never slowed down long enough to think them through and to make a strong impression in your mind about why you reached the decision you did, or why it was a stupid thing to do, or why you should not do it again. And yes, in areas relating to low sensory awareness (such as over-eating or trying the napping trick) it's tied to Si, but a lot of people repeat their mistakes, because they don't reflect.

You have done it before. You know it doesn't work. So why are you trying again? And therein lies the need for reflection. Its focus depends on in what area you make mistakes. In terms of potatoes, I'm aware I like to distract myself with food. I have a 7 wing. It's a glutton for sweets, and goodies, and eating. I am filling my mouth because my life feels empty. Whenever I lack something in my life, I distract myself with food or fun, anything to focus on not looking inside myself and dealing with my deeper desires, none of which are food-related.

If you make the same mistakes in your relationships, you have to analyze that. WHY am I willing to do this again? What do I get out of it? It may be you lack self-confidence, so you put up with way more crap from your friends than you should, then get angry at yourself for being a wuss. And this happens again and again and again. Nothing will change until you make it change. It might be that you are so desperate for love, you are willing to sacrifice too much to keep your significant other. Or you're afraid to be alone, so you make peace with everyone and give in too much, to avoid the scary thought of having no friends by asserting some boundaries and saying no once in awhile.

The best way to learn is to analyze and ask yourself, "Why am I doing this?" Why are you checking details? Because you know they are not your strong suit and feel vulnerable about them. Because as a 3, you think your self worth is tied to the quality of what you produce. You do not want to make a mistake that makes you feel shame. So, what can you do to combat this? Can you have a detail-oriented person check it for you? Can you allow it to be "good enough for who it's for?" Can you slow down a little bit? Allow yourself to make mistakes?

As for memories, the ONLY thing I can recommend is to start taking notes and think before you speak. ("Can I back this up?") Ne-doms usually speak ahead of themselves, because abstraction and connections come so easily to them, and then founder around for proof. If you train yourself to only speak with authority on things you know are true and/or that you can back up, you will not have to fumble around for explanations. (This is super hard, btw. You need to conciously become aware of how many times a day you speak based on intuition, not proof. It is way more than you think.)

Diaries are wonderful things. If you write down what happened on what day, and what this person said or did, you can check back if you need a specific example. It works for your life, your job, and even typing fictional characters. At work, jot down people's names. Use their name when you make eye contact with and talk to them. If details are your bad spot, consciously force yourself to engage with them. Take notes. It'll be good for your Te as well as your Si.

- ENFP Mod

#question #enfp #entp #mbti #self help #submission

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