#the fact that people use a cult term to describe interpersonal abuse is so fucked up to me

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Not going to lie, I did get a bit offended that after saying "academic articles about severe sadistic abuse usually cite Torture That Kills People Slowly and Horrifically and also the Holocaust as examples" I got a follow up question asking if gaslighting and CSA count as torture.

Idk man you guys have GOT to start working on that whole "have to have it really bad to be valid" and trauma olympics shit and this fucked up concept that your history/brain has to be unique and special all the damn time. Cause the minute it leaves your mouth, it affects more people than just you.

When you dilute terminology you make spaces for survivors more difficult to navigate. When you strip language from survivors you are taking away their voice. When you strip the meaning from these words you make it so that people become reactive to those survivors talking about their experiences. Everyone will go up in arms about how gaslighting isn't just pranking or lying but you really think it's ok to do the same thing to other forms of abuse?

#like the fact that people took 'complex DID' and decided um actually I'm even more specialer than CDID I have HIGHLY complex DID #what's the alternative. Saying people have Basic Baby DID? #What is the fucking POINT #the fact that people use a cult term to describe interpersonal abuse is so fucked up to me #I really hate it. CSA and gaslighting is ENOUGH to be traumatized #You do NOT need to be a torture survivor to be fucked up from that #I think I get more upset by it because the way that people navigate this is by implicitly or explicitly putting others down #Anyway I think it's fucked up that RAMCOA survivors for the past few years have been stuck between #People who deny it exists because their knowledge of it is from horror movies and conspiracies #And people who fetishize it to a weird degree #I've literally had multiple people tell me RA and cults are their special interests #imagine saying that about any other abuse type lol #You are all so disrespectful it's obscene #.log