24stepmother

[24stepmother]

A Mother,  A Daughter, The teachings that follow through a lifetime. The Example of who you are It teaches more than any lesson.  A Good human How do we raise one  When surrounded by the narcissist Accountability, A good human knows. Accountability, A good Narcissist avoids. My Child A Good Human surrounded by “Family” How do you take them away from that without guilt. How do you handle the narcissist family member that leads. Because The rest are sure to follow and talk. Trust is not capable Trust in the hearts you know with the child most precious. Capable to love one who does not see love just themselves. A Narcissist, A Grandmother a mean soul. Out for herself. The dynamic is unfairly portrayed. Control is wanted. My heart Weighs Heavy Family of my own to protect Family of my own to protect from family  Family of My own I’m so Proud. Family of My own I’m so Proud 

#poem #motherinlaw #narcissist #poetry #stepmom #bonusmom #capible

[24stepmother]

Last night my daughter had a nightmare that dinosaurs were eating children. Her father tried to console her but she didn't want anything to do with him. I hope those moments don’t hurt my partner because those are the moments I shine. I swear withing 1 min of walking into her room I had her giggling and feeling like everything was gonna be okay, she fell asleep and slept through the night perfectly. Jumping in as a parent is hard and I think all of us doubt our selves, and the gap between mom and step mom makes the self doubt a larger objective to tackle. If you have to deal with a baby mama like ours I truly hurt for you and your child because no matter how you love the child the mother will never see you as anything but the enemy.  

[24stepmother]

This is my biggest wish! for the mother of my child to stop using a 4 year old as a pawn and pushing her to hurt me.  

I’m not a step mom but my daughter has an amazing one! I don’t hate her but I know many mothers that do hate their kids’ step parents. But why? Wouldn’t you want all the love for your child? My daughters other mom is amazing and they have a great relationship... I would never deny my child the chance to have someone else love them. So they’re different? As long as they’re not hurting your child what’s wrong with that? Her dad and I haven’t always seen eye to eye on things but we’ve always wanted our daughter to be happy and loved. She gets that from all of her parents.

[24stepmother]

Spanking & Yelling

We do not spank our child, we try our best to never yell. Her stepfathers have had both of these privileges. one time my child hit me and i told her to take a minute in her room to cool down. When I went in there after a moment, my child was crying. I went and sat and talked it out. I was told my “I’m sorry, mom just always yells and spanks us. Then there’s “Martin” one of the “stepdads” she continued to tell me about him, how he would come into the children's room and yell at them and spank them, “and my mom just stayed in her room” my child cried as I tried to console her. She told me that “Martin” spanks the hardest. How is this okay? the mother called the cops on the same man for taking things too far with her, but she had no problem giving that same man complete control of her children. I’m dumbfounded. Last year at Christmas when my partner when to see our daughter for Christmas the mother called him because she was stuck in the ditch with some random dude she was cheating on “Martin” with. She literally left “Martin” home to watch the children while she cheated on him. What if he found out and took it out on the children? he literally had the chance to do whatever he pleased daily because they all lived together, and it completely disgusts me. the fact of the mater is there is a 33% increased chance of abuse if a mother is living with a man and her children. INCREASED. About 10% of Canadians stated that as a child, they had witnessed violence by their parent or guardian against another adult. A large majority of child witnesses—7 in 10 (70%)—also reported that they had been the victim of childhood physical and/or sexual abuse.  According to police-reported data from 2015, children and youth (under the age of 18) represented 16% of victims of violent crime in Canada. Of these victims, 30% were victims of family violence—acts committed by parents, siblings, extended family members or spouses. Among child and youth victims, 59% were female. https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/daily-quotidien/170216/dq170216b-eng.htm

Children and youth make up 16% of violent crime in Canada. By her mother living with these men she takes that 16% chance and makes it 49% chance. So there’s pretty much 50/50 chance that the men shes parading through these children's lifes will mistreat them in some way. and because she is a girl there is an even higher chance, because 59% of victims are female. Those odds aren’t good. Thinking about this all just makes me want to vomit. How could someone put a child at that risk let alone how could a mother put her own child at that risk. I’m utterly disgusted and completely heartbroken that this is happening in so many homes its selfish and completely unacceptable.

#babymama #crazybabymama #abuse #i hurt for my child #yourchildsnotapaycheck

[24stepmother]

Nightmares

When our child first came to live with us 4-5 months ago she was having nightmares that her sister would die, and they esclated. She would look out our front window for her because she knew something bad was going to happen she just wasnt sure what, and they dont even live in the same province as us. Of course thinking it would help console her I said its okay your sister is with mom, nothing will happen. This was an almost catalist, she immediatly started freaking out. I just held her and loved her. These are the moments that break my heart. These are the moments that make me hate the mother. It makes me feel like my child was protecting the little sister from something and now that shes not there she terrified.

#nighmares #babymama #Stepmom #yourchildisnotapaycheck

[24stepmother]

Our child came home from christmas shouting to the roof tops that im not the mother, and to make it clear i’ve never said I am or asked to be called anything but my name. This idea I’m sure came from the mothers need to have only one mother in her life although my child is terrified that one day her actual dad will stop loving her because that is what her mother told about her “ex-step dads” that they dont love mom or us kids anymore so she has to find us a new daddy.(Quoted directly from the 4 year olds mouth) How can one woman (the mother) who clearly cannot take care of herself sufficently be so mean and manipulative? to use a 4 year old? my child is being used as a pawn in the mothers emotinal rollercoaster, but the worst part is that you cannot save your own child from their mother. My child proceeded to have nightmares that I was going to die, We had to console her at 3AM. I want to know what has been said because My child wasn’t having these nightmares before the visit with the mother. 

#stepmom #hurt for my child #babymama #crazybabymama #yourchildisnotapaycheck

[24stepmother]

Backstory

My partner and I met just about a year and a half ago. My step child and I met about 8 months ago. More recently the mother decided to take her own life and she was the only guardian of our child within a day of travel. she pulled through after being hospitalized. This is the straw that broke the camels back. We researched and got the lawyer with the best reputation of winning costody battles for fathers, as the whole system wants you to think that the mother is always in the right we were disheartened but knew that we needed to change the trajectory of our childs life because if it stayed in the mothers hands we are fearful for the life of our child. Random men constantly paraded in and out of the house. Our child has had 4 “Step Dads” since i’ve been apart of her life. I am the only woman that has ever met my partners child and it was difficult for me because he kept me from her for so long but we both knew it was what was best for her. We needed to know that our relationship was strong and stable before including our child.       

#crazybabymama #hurt for my child #yourchildisnotapaycheck #no #Stepdads

[24stepmother]

Hello! I am 23 years old & I live in Canada. I was just looking for a place to vent and maybe relate to some other people going through similar life struggles. Follow along to see the gong show that is my life currently :)