at some point "don't assume someone's gender/sexuality" became "assume everyone is cishet unless told otherwise in explicit detail" when that is almost the exact opposite of the original phrases intention.
My one friend group can't stop saying, "See you in hell!" in a cheerful voice instead of, "Talk to you later!" and my other friend group can't stop calling things "penis" instead of "cool" or "good", so I just unironically uttered the phrase, "Sounds penis, see you in hell," as I got off the phone.
It’s true that you have to “play the hand you’ve been dealt.”
It is still valid to find it unfair that you’ve been dealt that hand. It’s okay to be upset about it. It’s reasonable to wish things had been different. It’s completely understandable if you have feelings about it, and if you struggle to deal with them.
Accepting the facts of a situation does not mean you have to pretend everything is okay.
I hate the “open floor plan” that everyone is obsessed with in houses now. I want nooks and crannies and bizarre floor plans. I don’t need to be able to see what someone is doing on the other side of the house. I want places to hide and lurk and dwell in the shadows. I am the beast who awaits in the labyrinth