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This guidance is so so so so good 🥰

i get sooo many asks and DMs asking for tips on how to get better at edging so i wanted to make an actual post about how i turned myself into a total edgeslut — and how you can, too! there's really only one main 'rule' to follow while you're learning how to edge, so i promise you can do it! this info should still be applicable regardless of your particular genitalia, but i mostly reference cunts because that's what i've got.

the one rule!

my ultimate suggestion for people who are new to edging and finding it almost impossible is to STOP TRYING TO EDGE. some of you are going like that's crazy edging is all i want to do! but listen to me. listen to me. we are going to get you there.

if horniness is a scale of one to ten, with one being 'not horny at all' and ten being 'orgasming' the ideal edging situation is that you get to a nine and then stop. that's really hard to do, though! but you could probably get to a four and stop, right? pretty easily, even.

that's what you want to do. figure out that highest number on that scale you can go and still stop, and go to that number. do this a lot. i love, love, LOVE touching like this, even now that i am a pro at edging, because there's zero risk of going over and it's still a great tool to keep you horny / submissive / feeling hot as hell / whatever it is you want to get out of edging.

start at bringing yourself to a four and then stop. once you've mastered that, once that feels almost too easy, move up to a five. then a six. seven. i encourage you not to cum at all while you're doing this, but also, i'm not your dom! do what you want! the point is you're touching-without-cumming a lot (which is great practice all on it's own) and you're acclimating your body to getting horny, sometimes even REALLY horny, without actually cumming every time it happens.

doing this regularly also has the pleasant side-effect keeping you aroused more often than not. if you're constantly bringing yourself to level seven horniness and then stopping, you are almost never going to drop below level three. you are going to be turned on a LOT, which feels sooooo good. which leads to...

getting addicted*!

the thing about being always horny, about touching yourself all the time, about never cumming, is that it feels really, really good. people wouldn't do denial if it didn't! and once you've had a month or so of touching-but-not-edging and your body's adjusted to the sense of being constantly turned on and how good it feels, it gets to a point where cumming is a lot less appealing. you know it's going to take away the good, horny, happy feeling that you're getting addicted to! once you've come to really, really enjoy being constantly horny, and come to associate the idea of cumming with losing that good feeling, that makes it a lot easier to keep from going over as you creep up to higher levels like eight and nine. and even when you do go over, the fact that you'll lose the sensation that you've come to enjoy so much will just reinforce for you that it's better not to cum!

*i'm using addicted as a fun little hyperbole word here, but i do want to add the disclaimer that if your edging / horniness / etc. starts to interfere with your life like a real addiction then you gotta stop that before you hurt yourself. do not actually jeopardize your job/relationships/etc. for kink.

edging!

by this point, you'll have lots of practice at masturbating without going over and you'll be addicted to the feeling of being constantly turned on — and you'll dread the thought of losing that feeling. those things combined are the peak edging scenario. this is the point when you can start trying to edge seriously; bringing yourself to a nine on our horny scale and stopping.

you will probably still go over occasionally as you figure out your actual limits — don't be angry at yourself for this, but do refrain from trying to edge again on days you go over. the last thing you want is to reacclimate your body to coming regularly. if you try to edge in the morning but go over by mistake, just bring yourself to a level eight for the rest of the times you masturbate and try again tomorrow. eventually, you'll know your limits, be addicted to the feeling of being edged, and be really practiced at doing it!

if you're still having trouble or just want to play in new ways, then find out what turns you on but you can't orgasm from. your nipples are sensitive enough to break your brain but you can't orgasm just from that? well then get to playing with them, dummy! love penetration but can't come from it without clit stimulation? tape off your clit and get fucking! i can never cum just from humping a pillow or grinding on something, so grinding is a great way for me to edge! try to find stuff that makes you really, really horny but that you can't orgasm from and really lean into those things!

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This is sooooo much of what I love most about omo!!

I feel like one of the things I don't see talked about enough in omorashi is like. when you're nearing the final stages of desperation just. the way it truly feels like your body is fighting itself?

your stomach muscles are contracting and you're practically shaking with the effort of holding it in because you know you can't go yet

it's a push and pull, back and forth, and truly all you can think about is how long it's going to be before one of them finally breaks (and it will be whatever willpower is keeping the flood in, because there's no way the desperation is easing otherwise)

Idk I feel like it's one of those things that's definitely alluded to a lot but is never really the focus of fics and it's absolutely one of my favourite experiences! and I know there's some omo enjoyers out there that don't like doing it irl so for you guys: just know that there's a special kind of headiness that comes when you reach that point of desperation that absolutely is not exaggerated! I don't often do holds that reach extreme desperation, but on the rare occasions I do them. holy shit. that is all

#omorashi

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To all my pants-wetters out there; you should really try wetting yourself with your first pee of the morning. It’s a very special feeling of relief ☺️

#omorashi #pants wetting #desperation wetting #pee accident #intentional wetting #i’m a puddle on the floor #i’m in a puddle on the floor

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To the tune of Sheryl Crow's "All I Wanna Do is Have Some Fun"

🎶 All I wanna do is wet my pants 🎶

#omorashi

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I’m so stoned that I didn’t notice how fast my coffee filled up my bladder omg? 😳 I’m so squirmy but I don’t want to pee without permission please?

Aww, well, as I’m sure you’ve already peed by now (it’s been like 18 hours), I’m going to take this in a slightly different direction.

As a general note, I’m not on tumblr consistently enough to engage in time sensitive, individual play. It’s not really my thing either, as I’m still getting comfortable with posting any original content in the first place.

However! The people are here for omo content; so I’ll give the people what they want. I’ll just do it my way 😋

(lol, sorry I’m being kind of a dick by clearly not responding in the way you’d hoped, but please trust that it’s nothing personal! I’m just here to have a good time)

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I’ve always felt that permission is something that should be earned, not granted. So, what do you think would EARN you permission to pee? Hmm?

See…. I think you know what you need to do to earn permission. Don’t you?

You can’t think of one thing you can do?? That’s too bad, really.

Next time you need to pee so bad I need to try your hardest and think of what you can do to earn permission and then try your best to earn it please.

I know you can do it 😉

#omorashi #a sweet desperate anon #pants wetting #desperation wetting #pee accident #intentional wetting #stoned omo

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Hahahahaha, omg, so much thiisss

modern social media should stop offering "sync with your phone contacts to follow them" options and start offering "block all your phone contacts so they never see your account" options

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you're legitimately the best... when you say in your pinned post that you're happy if this blog scratches an itch for anyone... ooh man it SO does. stoned omo, your pure and pretty radical connection to the sensations of your body and pleasure, your gorgeous writing 💕💦i can't thank you enough, rubbing my legs and squeezing my thighs together while writing this 🥴

Omg, thank you so much!!!

This makes my heart so so happy! ☺️

I’ve been trying not to overthink as I write because I noticed that the more I wrote the more that I expected every post to be well received. I’ve had to remind myself that I started writing for my enjoyment and pleasure and that what’s important is that, selfishly, I gain something from the practice of writing.

And like, omo is just so fucking sensual and sensational, but I definitely think I’ve taught myself how to literally feel more through years of mindfulness practice, meditation, and other attention-increasing disciplines.

For many, particularly those who use their brain more so than their body as the primary function/purpose (me for the last 5ish years, kind of unknowingly), our body often gets pushed to the periphery of our attention and we miss out on so many luscious and truly savor-worthy sensations.

Now I’m just rambling, but thank you so much! You made my heart sing ☺️🙌

#omorashi #stoned omo #a sweet desperate anon

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every time you have teased desperate full-bladdered anons on here it's soooo hot i would love it if you keep it up omg 💕 you make me squirmmm

Omg anon you’re so sweet! I’ve been traveling more frequently the last few weeks so I haven’t been posting as much but now I’m blushing ☺️

Anyhow anon, I’d imagine that you enjoy getting a squirmy as you feel your bladder getting full. And really, I think people are the cutest when they’re all squirmy. When you can clearly tell that, no matter how hard you’re trying to focus on whatever else you’re doing, you’ve gotta pee.

I love squirming because it’s pretty universal. I don’t know anything about you, anon, and yet, I can almost picture you squirming. Let me guess: you start by shifting your weight form side to side (feeling it in your feet, knees, butt, thighs, depending on how you’re positioned), then maybe some thigh rubbing, then finally you feel like have to get your hands involved otherwise you’ll have a mess to clean up.

But that’s just the beginning. Eventually, your subtle, private squirms become more and more elaborate—more convulsive. The only time you aren’t hyperaware your over-filled bladder is when your whole body shivers and shakes as your bladder sends SOS signals to whatever other part of you that will listen! Those are the moments when you have to actually check to see if you’re still dry or not 🤭

This might terrible advice to the omo community, but squirm like no one’s watching! ☺️

#omorashi #a-sweet-desperate-anon

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Wait, so you’re saying you don’t get butterflies in your stomach every time you just kinda have to pee a little bit? Don’t you think that’s a little weird?

#omorashi #pants wetting #desperation wetting #pee accident #intentional wetting #stoned omo

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The second little wetting 15-20 minutes after the first is one of the most comforting sensations I’ve ever experienced. Sure, it doesn’t have all the excitement and pizzazz of the first wetting but that’s not the point. Oh, you already wet yourself once and now you’re too tired to get up and use the toilet because you wore yourself out from trying so hard to hold it? Of course you are, sweetheart.

#omorashi #pants wetting #desperation wetting #pee accident #intentional wetting #stoned omo #i’m a puddle on the floor #i’m in a puddle on the floor #omo thoughts

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Thank you everyone who got me to 100 reblogs!

The moment when you realize the you’ve crossed the threshold. When the short, manageable waves of desperation become non-stop. When you finally reach the point where your body takes over: You don’t get to ignore it anymore… you’re going to pee, whether you want to or not… it’s just a matter of time.

#100 reblogs #tumblr milestone #thank you #omorashi

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Reblogging this because I started to ruminate on some of these situations and the way that omo really is a wonderfully diverse and flexible way of playing with your body and the sensations it can experience.

The dynamic between omo and having an embarrassment kink is such a beautifully flexible thing.

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Don’t have enough time to do too much? Just go wet yourself! No holding. No desperation. No build up. Just pee your pants. It’ll hardly be satisfying if you try to play it cool.

It’s so embarrassing that you wet yourself on purpose. You didn’t even try to hold it! And look at how little that wet spot is… You even tried to make it seem bigger by keeping you knees together, huh. Was it even worth it?

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Don’t want to wet yourself at all? No problem! Just hold it until you’re all sweaty, panting, and can barely stay standing without holding yourself up. Then just use the toilet as if nothing happened. Being out of breath and exhausted five minutes later is a total mindfuck.

Hehe, did it feel good to make yourself wait? Yeah, I know you’re so used to giving your body exactly what it wants; I know how much you love to indulge. Oh babe, your face is all flushed! You must have been trying so hard to hold it. But you made it in time right?? Can you imagine how embarrassed you be if you peed your pants! Haha, you know I’m just teasing 😘

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You want to hold until your sweaty and panting AND you want to wet yourself? Also great! Allowing tension and energy to build and build inside you until you can’t any more and pee starts sputtering and splashing out of you.

You got this. You can hold it. Everything just keeps building. You need to focus. If you get distracted, even for a second, your body might let go. Focus! Yeah, keep dancing. Keep pacing around the bathroom; that always helps for a while. Oh! Yup, hands between your legs… haha, we both know what that means! It’s okay. I know, I know, shhh. You just need to find a comfortable position, I get it. Mhmm, I know you’re embarrassed but just breathe.. I promise you’ll feel better if you… Ahh, there it is. Mmm… do you feel better now?

#omorashi #desperation wetting #pants wetting #pee accident #intentional wetting #bladder holding #omo thoughts

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The moment when you realize the you’ve crossed the threshold. When the short, manageable waves of desperation become non-stop. When you finally reach the point where your body takes over: You don’t get to ignore it anymore… you’re going to pee, whether you want to or not… it’s just a matter of time.

#omorashi #pants wetting #desperation wetting #intentional wetting #pee accident #stoned omo #i’m a puddle on the floor #i’m in a puddle on the floor #omo thoughts

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Omo is so wonderfully grounding. I appreciate every single nook and cranny of my body when I wet myself.

#omorashi #pants wetting #desperation wetting #pee accident #intentional wetting #stoned omo #omo thoughts

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Rainy days 🤭😅☺️

Wetting your pants on rainy days just hits different 💜

#omorashi

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Omg I forgot about this! 🤤🤤

oh wow, so, if you haven’t already tried handwriting something while desperate you, like, reaaaallyly should 🫨😵‍💫

#pants wetting #desperation wetting #pee accident #intentional wetting #stoned omo #omorashi

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Another observation and indulgent moment:

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When the little shivers turn into full body jolts of desperation. When the little twinges in your pants suddenly becomes a floor-to-ceiling flow of energy passing through you and you can’t help but succumb to its force. At the very least you HAVE TO respond—either you have enough composure still to clench, ground yourself, and force it down, or you’re so caught off guard that you don’t have enough time to even manage that. Somehow though, when it happens—when your whole body spasms, starting from deep within—you feel saturated in a playful peace radiating from even deeper.

#omorashi #pants wetting #desperation wetting #pee accident #intentional wetting #omo prompts #i’m a puddle on the floor #i’m in a puddle on the floor #stoned omo