I'm going to the dentist on Tuesday and then probably getting 2 teeth surgically removed in May and I have no health insurance but I'm still out here going "how can I make sure my needs are met and I'm improving my life? An anime inspired cardigan will surely help. As will new boots"
Still thinking about that passage in Spinning Silver where the author describes entering the waters of women's domestic labours. It's easy to go along with the current, to be swept up, a drop of water in a lake. Everyone is happy to see you, you are easily interchangeable. You understand the demands, they seem easy and effortless. And it comes when you want to stop fighting!! Tired of pushing and pushing to do something alone or out of the ordinary or in the world of men. You can always submerge yourself in the water of women's work.
the whole "omg i'd be so anxious and embarrassed to eat at a restaurant/go to the movies/go to a concert ALONE" thing is so pathetic to me. like literally what are you doing with your life? just rotting in bed when you don't have a chaperone? i love doing stuff alone....it's genuinely refreshing to just read your book and eat a meal at the bar or go to the movies or a show without worrying whether the person you're with is having a good time....