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not me forgetting he has a con there soon

#what a goober

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I’m having a spirited debate and need a larger sample size

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cool kids with licenses:

#yep #many times #sometimes i've gotten away with it #and sometimes i've gotten a ticket

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In my experience, hearing stories about someone you've lost is helpful. You're grieving and you're sad and you're focusing on what you've lost and possibly remembering/fixating on what was going on right before they passed, and that's generally not a happy thing to be fixated on. Hearing stories from other people about your loved on helps to reframe the memory into something happy again, instead of what happened.

Also Neil is extremely correct about food. After someone close to you dies, there are a lot of things that need to happen, as well as a lot of people stopping by. Life gets very overwhelming very quickly and the last thing anyone wants to do is cook. We usually order a tray of something easily portioned and reheatable (baked ziti, chicken parm, subs, etc.) and send it to the family. If you can, send enough to last for a while because that will be one less thing they need to worry about.

Most importantly you need to remember that everyone grieves differently, and there's nothing wrong with someone not grieving the same way you are. Some people will basically shut down and not cry a single tear during the entire process, and others will be bawling their eyes out at the sight of a flower because it was their loved one's favorite. Both responses are ok, and the feelings will be less overwhelming with time.

hey neil idk if you’re the best person to ask but i would like to think you have some sadge advice or something. as an introvert how do you deal with going to funerals and that whole interaction with people trying to support people and people trying to support you? It’s all strange and weird to me. thanks.

You remind yourself that this is not a usual thing for anyone, and that everyone is dealing with their own personal reactions to what's happened, with grief or loss or just the weirdness of it all. And you look after yourself.

And take refuge in things that people say. "I'm sorry for your loss", or "May their memory be a blessing" or "Thank you so much" when people offer their own condolences. It's formulaic but it works.

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#sibling energy

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the term fandom is so misleading because with supernatural I‘m not a fan, I‘m an addict, a victim if you will. no matter how hard I try that shit show gripped me tight and pulled me into perdition and my sanity is on a hunting trip and hasn‘t been home in a few days.

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Out of curiosity and also guilt over my own coffee intake. I wanna ask:

Now I'm not talking about when you're studying and so you drink 3x the usual amount or something like that. This isn't me asking what your record is. I'm talking about the most basic, average day, how many coffees you drink?

#well #normally i drink two cups #but those “two cups” are actually #four cups in the measuring cup #because I got a french press for christmas #and that's how much water i use

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For anyone looking for the actual article.

For those who don't want to read it, after 10 months he'd made 64k, but seems to have trashed his health in the meantime. He'd gotten someone to let him stay in their RV for several months and started reselling furniture he found for free on Craigslist. He then bought himself a computer with that money, and set himself up as a social media manager and started building a client base.

I've never been homeless, but somehow I think him staying in an RV for nothing is an anomaly, and if he were living on the streets, I'd think a pc would be a high risk purchase for being stolen or lost when you get picked up by the cops. Also, not everyone has the skills already to become a social media manager, so his prior experience helped greatly with that.

I also expect that him being a white male played a huge role is his success, but that could just be me being bitter.

It's easy to think you'd be able to do something when you know that you'd never have to actually do it.

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Reblog if you're shorter than 5'8.

#somewhere around 5'4”

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#i just want my boy #alive and happy #and if they have to keep subtexting that relationship for it to happen #i'm ok with that

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i'm not trying to start anything, but i just saw a post criticizing misha collins for not choosing to quit spn when the network was homophobic and he was "profiting from homophobia" and i just think it's kind of... wild? that young people think that a person could just. decide to not work for a prejudiced corporation when they have a family to provide for?

i don't know, i don't even really want to debate or go into it more, but it's just kind of surreal to see opinions from people who weren't there in 2013 when misha collins was literally the only person willing to support not just destiel shippers but actual queer and trans and ace fans. i have no doubt that he saved lives through the care he showed to vulnerable young people who desperately needed to see someone give a damn about them. he's significantly flawed in many ways, but he will always be a saint in my eyes for how much he cared.

like i just don't think that people accustomed to this modern era where hardly anyone blinks over two men kissing on tv can understand what it was like when we were mocked and silenced, when we weren't allowed to breathe the word 'destiel' without getting booed, and misha was the only damn person who spoke up for us. the only one. who was probably risking his job in saying the things he did.

things have changed. that's wonderful. don't judge people surviving previous eras by the standards of today.

#one day #you kids will grow up #and realize how ridiculous you were #with your purity culture #and soap box judgement #because you'll have to do something #not Morally Pure #like work for a shitty company #to pay your rent

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#every couple years i get a new one #i think this one is between 1-2 years old #but i pass mine down #so when the oldest phone in the family #is either too broken to work #or too old to get updates #i get a new one #and pass mine to either my daughter or my son #and then my husband gets the oldest one

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#every day #i will occasionally skip a day #in the winter #but more than that #and i feel gross

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Professor Doctor Sir Terence David John “Terry” Pratchett OBE BM (Blackboard Monitor), 28th April 1948 - 12th March 2015.

GNU Pterry.

Mind how you go.

#gnu terry pratchett

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I came out of retirement on twitter to tweet this.

#sam and dean winchester

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#the government #owes us its very existance #and its about fucking time #they remember that