How can you be mad at me for other people wanting to give me attention that you donāt give me? Im not even accepting their advances an youāre mad at me for something that youāre not putting forth the effort for??
In order to stop the culture of faking orgasms, we need to stop the culture of shaming others for their sexual experiences.
Canāt get your partner off on the first try? Cool. You can still be thoughtful and make them feel good.
Can get your partner off within 30 seconds? Awesome, good for you both, donāt let it get to your head.
Can make someone cum in less than 5, but for others, itās a process that takes an hour? Thatās alright, everyoneās different.Ā
Does it take you 30 minutes to cum? Thatās okay, youāre not broken, youāre not a failure.
Does it take you 10 seconds to cum? Thatās great, youāre not a slut, youāre not overly sensitive or dirty.Ā
Canāt cum without toys/vibrators? Thatās awesome, thatās a valid part of sexual play!
Can only cum with loving, vanilla sex? Thatās perfectly normal, and you will find lots of great partners to experience that with!
Canāt orgasm at all? THATāS ALSO COOL. Itās not a bad thing, you can still enjoy sex TONNES just like others.
Orgasms are NOT the defining characteristic of your sexual prowess. They are great, theyāre lovely when they happen, but for the love of science, stop bringing them up higher than they need to be.Ā
Finding that person you can vibe with, that person that makes you laugh, joke and playfully flirt with anywhere, just have that general conversation about anythingā¦.
If you have this, regardless your situation, do you best to keep that person in your life. Continue to grow with them but DO NOT use them.
There are people, that come into your life, that bring positivity in your circle. You enjoy the time you spend with them whenever you get the chance. Because of timing, you worry about how things would be in the future rather than take advantage of what it is at that very moment but then you lose them. Take advantage of the time you have with these type of people because that came into your life at that particular time for a reason. Donāt push them away because youāre worrying too much about things you canāt control. Cherish that person and hold on to them as long as it may last. You never know what you have until you no longer have itā¦.