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Body horror?

You mean… being disabled?

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unpopular opinion but mobility aids shouldn't cost so much !!

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Body horror

I am a cyborg because I’m disabled; metal and gears keep me up and moving

I am a vampire because I’m chronically ill; hungry for the life force coursing through people

I am a mummy because I’m disabled; all bandages holding together a failing body

I am a zombie because I’m disabled; all crawling dragging movements

I am disabled because I’m a human. I am a human because I’m disabled

my body is not horrifying so I am not body horror

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something that isn’t talked about enough with chronic illness is knowing that going to your appointments and doing your exercises and all that will help but being in too much pain or too fatigued to go, so your just stuck in this constant cycle of knowing what you need to do to get better but not being able to do it because your sick

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It's a lot healthier to go for a daily walk than to sign up for a gym membership you won't be using because you hate that kind of exercise. It's a lot healthier to eat a frozen meal than to skip a meal because you were too tired to cook something healthy. It's a lot healthier to take a quick shower than to procrastinate an elaborate routine for days. Don't aim so high that you won't be hitting anything!

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Local PSA: invisible disability does NOT mean you can live your life like a "normal person" invisible disability meant that if a stranger looks at you in public they wouldn't know what's going on.

Like if a wheelchair user were to decide to run into a corner store to grab a candy bar because they know that their legs can last that long without, the cashier wouldn't know.

Or someone with "mild" scoliosis walking upright through their shoulder leans slightly to the left. Maybe they just have bad posture. The lady in the next isle thinks to herself.

The person with EDS or POTS or whatever sort of condition wearing compression gloves out and about. Perhaps it's a fashion statement?

Or what about the people with intestinal issues? They can look like "normal people" too.

You never know what someone is going through.

You never know what they might need to survive or if they're on the edge of a flare up or even if they are currently going through one just by one look.

I think both disabled and non disabled need to realize this. You're not "no longer disabled" because you can "live without" disability aids. They're there to help you. To make your life easier. If living without a cane is going to make it more likely you'll fall over and hurt yourself, use the cane.

If you need to sit down to do dishes or cut vegetables because you need to save your legs for taking out the trash, sit down.

If you need a shower chair because you don't know if you'll pass out, use the shower chair.

People are going to judge you regardless for multiple reasons out of your control.

I'd rather they judge you while you're being safe.

You don't need to struggle to be "normal."

You can just be you.

However that looks for you.

Use your disability aids.

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it hurts it hurts it hurts it hurts it hurts it HURTS FUCKING GOD

i swear if disabled people were allowed to scream in pain then ableds wouldn't dare to be ableist so much

i'm at flare-up and all i wanna do is scream and cry and break my voice

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When someone has a chronic illness or is disabled and can't work, they say a few common things.

It must be nice to sit around all day/sleep all day.

I wish I could sit around all day and not work.

I wish I could sleep all the time.

They don't want to sleep as much as we have to. They'd feel sick and sluggish.

They don't want to sit around the house all day not doing anything. They'd be bored out of their fucking skull.

It's so unbelievably fucking frustrating, but there's a fundamental lack of understanding.

They liken our lives to a vacation, imagining that it's fun and relaxing and we can do whatever fun things we want to all the time.

In reality, it should be likened to an extended hospital stay. You can't do anything and you feel like shit.

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Completely unrelated to my previous post: I had an older lady come up to me as I was exiting my therapy appointment and waiting for my ride, I had my rollator with all my stickers and my butterfly bag on it. She also had a rollator- and as she got closer;

She grinned and said "Race ya."

yall it was the highlight of my day. I didn't get to thank her for the giggle it got out of me before she was already inside the hospital building. But it was one of the first positive interactions I had with taking my rollator with me out of the house.

maybe things will be alright.

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Something I want able bodied people to understand is that I don't wanna be sick so bad; I want a diagnosis because there is already something wrong with my body but I don't know what the fuck it is.

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To those who also deal with chronic pain:

I want to remind you that it doesn’t matter how “minor” your pain seems. The reality you need to remember is that most people don’t live in pain on a regular basis. You’re allowed to be drained and bothered by your pain.

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I feel this so much every single day 😓

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disabled people don't owe you their medical history :)