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u ever look at the mirror and realize you're looking at a Woman? I used to be just a girl

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I’m going to unlearn shame *bursts into tears and beats my head against a brick wall*

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this is from a real diary by a 13-year-old girl in 1870. teenage girls are awesome and they’ve always been that way.

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I rushed through watching Baby Reindeer, the first few episodes because they sucked me in, the last ones because I knew this show was going to devastate me in a way where I was better off finishing it as quickly as possible.

A show I had assumed to be about the mental derangement that leads to stalking ended up being a brutally accurate portrayal about the way sexual abuse strips you of your sense of self, taints every single part of your life, and opens you up to accept, if not seek out, future abuse. It's far from the first time this type of story has been told, but it was told well.

It was strange to read reviews and find out that other people did not agree. Not about the story being told well, but about the story not being the first. To relate so strongly to a man's story only to find out that the men who do too have never found themselves relating to yours, or any other woman's. If you had changed the line about being seen like less of a man to be about being seen like less of a person, this could have been a woman's story. There is, after all, no deeply engrained societal belief that it is simply not a woman's place to be raped. And maybe that's the difference, and the reason they can't relate, and the reason they don't feel seen when they hear most of the other stories about most of the other people it has happened to. That is a depressing realisation to have so quickly after feeling that our experiences were the same.

#baby reindeer #baby reindeer spoilers #tw

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"I witnessed things that were wrong," she said of her visit. "I saw Arabs being thrown out of their houses in Jerusalem. But it was just the extraordinary magical energy of a country just beginning to put its roots in the ground . it was amazing time to be here

-Helen Mirren

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Maybe this is the wrong platform to pose this question given the average tumblr user but

Is it just me or did our generation (those of is who are currently 20-30 ish) just not get the opportunity to be young in the 'standard' sense?

Like, everyone I talk to who's over 40 has all their wild stories about their teens and 20s, being young and dumb, and then I talk to my friends and coworkers and classmates, and we just... dont.

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30 is not "old". You have been alive for 3 decades and in 2 of them you could not drink or had any money of your own. Also there is literally nothing wrong with being old. I can't wait to be old and look my age and have grey hair and smile lines and look like a cool witch.

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Watch the joy in my eyes die after a woman says she would love to be in the trades but doesn't want to get sexually harassed all day.

Like that's fair, but the reason why there is so much sexual harassment is because, in part, there are not enough women in the industry. Are you just waiting on men to stop being assholes on their own? Things won't change unless you do something about it

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My bf and I had guests over for the first time since we moved in together and it's actually crazy how much I've internalized the feeling that our house not being "homely" (no decorations etc because idk how long we'll stay in this apartment and I really don't care enough to spend money on it) should be a source of shame for me, something I should be insecure about, something I might be judged for

If anything he's the less frugal person with the larger disposable income and more experience living on his own but I've had so many people treat me like a housewife just because I'm a woman on disability who's now cohabiting with a male partner that I've started to anticipate being judged for not being a good one

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I agree with some nuance. I think trying to talk your partner into enduring pain because you get off on it is disgusting and a lot of the doms I've met are simply bad people even within the context of only seeking out women who are already into kink. I've met a lot of doms who get off not on inflicting pain (which some people enjoy) but on inflicting suffering, specifically because they enjoy the power of making someone do something they don't enjoy, or because they simply get off on seeing someone be miserable. IMO those men are dangerous and I will quite happily kinkshame them. On the other hand, within the context of people who genuinely enjoy the sensation of physical pain, I don't think it's inherently wrong for someone to enjoy inflicting pain on their partner. Not if you only enjoy it because you know they do.

I need to see BDSM haters go on rants about the evils of capsaicin

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I reblogged bc as an autistic person who's used pain to regulate myself since very early childhood (ranging from innocently kicking my leg against stuff to severe self harm to yeah just spicy food) I have slowly moved away from believing that all bdsm is abuse that you're conditioned to endure, pretty much exactly due to the argument written above. Yeah we're not biologically meant to seek enjoyment this way but for whatever weird reason it still feels good to some people and that's fine as long as there's no actual danger.

"Enjoying consensually inflicted pain can be akin to enjoying spicy food" =/= condoning strangling your partner though. It's gone terrifyingly mainstream because of the porn industry but I know people who have been into heavy bdsm for decades who still won't even consider it because it's fucking dangerous. Not being against literally all bdsm on the basis that pain is always bad and abusive doesn't mean dropping all criticism of any and all practices that occur within bdsm.

I need to see BDSM haters go on rants about the evils of capsaicin

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I need to see BDSM haters go on rants about the evils of capsaicin

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Some of you have this really weird concept of “penis repulsion” as if it’s somehow an unnatural response that has nothing to do/is in fact incompatible with simply not being attracted to them.

Let me explain. You know worms right? Like, actual earth worms that live in the ground. 

These little fellas.

I have no strong feelings about them one way or another. They’re kind of weird looking and some of the things they do are objectively pretty gross, but seeing one doesn’t like, ruin my day. If i was still in school and walked into my biology class to find this

hanging on the wall, I would be 100% capable of looking at the diagram and taking in the information without having any type of averse reaction. Nor any type of positive reaction. I feel extremely neutral about earth worms is what I’m trying to say. 

Now imagine if other people didn’t feel so neutral about earth worms. In fact, just under half the population really likes them. And they’re not just especially interested in educational diagrams about worms; they fucking eat them. They think eating a raw worm just pulled straight out of the ground is one of the most enjoyable experiences imaginable.

You’d think the other half of the population understands, because they don’t want to eat worms. But they’re even worse because they fucking love feeding people worms. They love it even more than everyone else loves eating them. And they fucking run society and spread their pro worm-eating propaganda everywhere. Whenever you pirate a TV show you end up on a site that has several images like this

sitting right next to whatever you’re watching. Whenever you try to talk to people on the internet people bombard you with pictures of worms they have prepared for you to eat, worms which they fully expect you to find appetising. Maybe one or two people even tried forcing worms into your mouth, because they were convinced you’d love them once you tried them. Do you think you’d still feel the same about seeing worms in a world like that? Even in a neutral environment, do you think you’d ever be able to look at a worm again without thinking about how you’re expected to want to eat them, without recalling people’s unsolicited graphic descriptions about how they love nothing more than to feeling of worms wiggling down their throats as they’re eating them? And do you think you’d feel any more comfortable if people started telling you about different kinds of worms, ones that technically aren’t earth worms, ones that have a much more appetising texture that shouldn’t even be compared to earth worms. Wouldn’t that still disgust you, and wouldn’t it be fucking weird if people responded to that by getting offended that you were still insistent on not wanting to eat any fucking worms? 

I realise this is a weird post but I watched a contrapoints video about “mouthfeel” and I needed to say… something.

PS: I realise some cultures do eat worms. If anyone needs me to come up with a more inclusive analogy for not liking dick just let me know. 

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“waaah i always feel like a prey animal that’s being hunted down… i’m literally just an anxious little bunny girl 🥺” actually you’re an adult specimen of an apex predator species and you better start acting like it bc you’re giving me and all normal women secondhand embarrassment 😒

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Not to be all crunchy granola conspiracy theorist but acrylic nails are literally made out of micro plastics (and return to micro plastics when they’re ground off) and there’s comparatively little regulation as to what goes into cosmetics, and using false lashes involves sticking glue right next to your ocular mucosa, which is more vulnerable to absorbing germs and chemicals than skin, and most hair dye is literally so bad for you that you’re not supposed to use it when you’re pregnant.

It’s just not good for you and it is completely avoidable.

I’m not suggesting all chemicals are evil and we need to make everything from scratch, but I do think that it’s something to be considered.

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when i was a kid i found an anti-new jersey fb group & as someone from new jersey i took it really personally for some reason, so I'd go on there and on an almost daily basis I'd make posts like "wont you visit our beautiful coastline? :)" and all the comments were like "i hope you get run over by a car" and it would give me insane anxiety but i kept doing it