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so funny to me that i'm technically, on paper, considered detransitioned bc i stopped testosterone. in reality i stopped bc i'd gotten all the changes i desired, and i still identify fully as a man, but like. when someone cites statistics about detransitioning, i'm a little water drop in that bucket! just because i decided my transition is complete!

#it's like if i got all the tattoos i wanted #and so i stopped going to the tattoo shop #and ppl looked at that and went 'he regrets all those tattoos. so sad how he mutilated his body like that' #shut me up #also i was in pursuit of a weirder and sluttier version of masculinity :)

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so funny to me that i'm technically, on paper, considered detransitioned bc i stopped testosterone. in reality i stopped bc i'd gotten all the changes i desired, and i still identify fully as a man, but like. when someone cites statistics about detransitioning, i'm a little water drop in that bucket! just because i decided my transition is complete!

#it's like if i got all the tattoos i wanted #and so i stopped going to the tattoo shop #and ppl looked at that and went 'he regrets all those tattoos. so sad how he mutilated his body like that' #shut me up #also i was in pursuit of a weirder and sluttier version of masculinity :)

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We have Video Games by Lana Del Rey at home

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When I was younger and researching the autism diagnosis criteria and symptoms, I thought “oh I couldn’t POSSIBLY be autistic.” Because when I read “takes everything literally” I thought it literally meant EVERYTHING and I was like “I don’t take EVERYTHING literally, just most things!” And I just realized the other day that it didn’t actually mean EVERYTHING and that was an overstatement.

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Reblogging would be a great help, but don’t feel pressured to

#no. 2 is .1 higher

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tbh i didnt know you were supposed to be jerking off while you look at porn

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how?? just how?

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“A good guy will buy you flowers, the right guy will eat them for you.”

— Travis McElroy, mbmbam ep. 82

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Imagine if you ran a towing service and someone called you like "hey I drove into a ditch and I hate it here, shouldn't have done that, this shit sucks", and goes on to lament about how they should've gotten different tyres, describing in vivid detail exactly how it happened and how they should have done all these things differently so they wouldn't have ended up in this ditch because being in this ditch sucks so bad and they hate being in it.

And when you're like "okay alright, let me know where you're at so I can tell you roughly how long it's going to take for me to get there with the truck", they go "ooh no no no no don't send anyone, I don't want anyone to pull me out or anything. I just wanted to let someone know that I hate it here."

And that's roughly how it feels like to be a solution-person when someone just wants to vent.

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Random worldbuilding: A culture where everyone's social status is expressed through how their hair is braided.

Children all have the same kind of a simple, unisex "child's braid" which is meant for their parents to be easy to do - traditionally boys were only taught how to do a "wife's braid" while women braid both their husbands and their children, but a modern man is naturally an attentive father and contributes to both cleaning and feeding, and clothing and braiding his children.

While this kind of knowledge is more accessible in the modern age, the art of braiding is still seen as an intimate family thing, and it's not unusual for a youth to come out to their parents by the way of braids - for example a daughter asking her father to teach her how to do the "wife's braid", or a son asking her mother how to weave the "husband braid" for their future spouse. Or a trans kid asking their parents to give them the other gender's braid when it's time to transition from the child braid into the "unmarried youth" one.

It is nonetheless still somewhat common to see an older gay man with a "wife's braid" or two older women both wearing "husband braids", because that was the only way they were taught to braid a future partner's hair when they were young. They could learn the "appropriate" braid now, but it has become a part of the culture, an old-fashioned gay thing to do. It's pride - if you wear this braid to show that you're an adult with a spouse, why try to hide who braids your hair every morning?

The only braid that one is expected to do on themselves is the widow's braid - the only one that is also unisex, braided in reverse from the simple children's braid. Sometimes, young unmarried adults who have no interest in starting a family switch directly into wearing a widow's braid to signify that they are not looking for a partner and are independent adults on their own.

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