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“When I say I love you more, I don’t mean I love you more than you love me. I mean I love you more than the bad days ahead of us, I love you more than any fight we will ever have. I love you more than the distance between us, I love you more than any obstacle that could try and come between us. I love you the most.”

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No one will fuck you better than someone who gets pleasure from making you cum

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Life and Lifestyle Advice From The Chairman Of The Board

No matter what nickname used from the above used Chairman of the Board, The Voice, The Sultan of Swoon, Swoonatra, or, probably the most popular, Ol’ Blue Eyes, Frank Sinatra had both an unmistakable voice coupled with iconic songs. While I am pretty sure that Ol’ Blue Eyes was not into D/S, although what happens in Vegas is supposed to stay in Vegas, there are many pearls of wisdom included in his songs. I am not sure what planted My Way in my head today as an earworm, there are three nuggets from the tune that can apply nicely to this lifestyle.

The Sultan of Swoon tells us that “Regrets, I had a few but then again too few to mention” and that is a great tip for both life and this lifestyle. I know there are people out there who say they are living or are going to live life without regrets, or regerts if you are eating a Milky Way. No matter how we slice up our journey here, there are going to be a few things that we might have wished we had handled differently, took the chance on, or perhaps did not take that ‘opportunity’. While making a regrettable choice is never fun and often even worse when we are forced to admit it to ourselves, everyone will have some in life but I think all of us should do our best to follow the songs guidance and endeavor to keep them in the too few to mention category.

Next, The Voice shares with us that “Yes, there were times I’m sure you knew when I bit off more than I could chew” and what I believe is meant by these lyrics is that we are all going to make mistakes, even ones that our friends warn us about before we make them. Not only is this a great reminder for life that everyone is going to muck things up sometimes but I find it applies to the lifestyle nicely as well. The link to D/S, for me, is so often it feels like people in the lifestyle have the unrealistic expectation that their future lifestyle partner will be a creature of perfection who will never error in their leadership or service. Sadly, this is no true as I know I have made many mistakes, some big and some small, in every relationship I have had from vanilla friendships to lifestyle relationships. This applies to everyone regardless of role in the lifestyle and I believe it is imperative to not seek a perfect partner but find a perfectly imperfect one, or ones for poly individuals, that admits their missteps while striving to learn and grow from them.

Finally, the hook of the song is “I did it, I did it my way” and this is an amazing lifestyle tip. There is so much information out there about how to do or just as importantly not do things in D/S that it can become easy to get caught up in trying to practice things by doing what others suggest rather than following your desires. One of the beautiful things about the lifestyle in my opinion is that everyone can personalize it. Tidbits can be taken from there, borrowed from others, and combined with unique ideas to make it be or not be whatever an individual wants and needs. D/S is not a cookie-cutter that presses people into predetermined sizes or shapes. So no matter how you do it, keep it safe and do it your way.

I am sure that this post might be a clue that I enjoy the music of The Rat Pack and while Frank Sinatra provided the inspiration that caused my mind to churn today, I will share a secret that Dean Martin is my favorite in this group. While Dino might be my personal choice, I hope that the advice of Swoonatra will ring-a-ding ding home no matter if you are in New York City, Chicago, flying to the moon, or anywhere in between. We all should practice the lifestyle safely but our way, own and learn from our mistakes, and endeavor to keep our regrets at too few to mention.

As with all of my writings, please see this disclaimer.

©TLK2021

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Hard times don’t create heroes.

It is during the hard times

when the “hero” within us is revealed.

~Bob Riley

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Beautifully written as always from the Lighthouse…

A Simple Change Equals A World Of Difference

Over the last year and a half, I think the world’s theme song needs to be David Bowie’s Changes and I am sure that each of you reading this will have your idea for a song but since this is my writing, suck it up buttercup and deal with my choice. Now that we have settled that song debate in my favor, I want to share a change that I have made in my life over the last year that has been amazing for me. This change is something that I believe will help everyone in their daily grind plus I think it can be inspiring for those who are in D/S partnerships.

This modification I have made to my daily thought process is simple and some of you will say it is just a matter of semantics however when it is internalized, this alteration can be transforming. The change I have made is I have replaced the phrase “I have to” with “I get to”.

Since most who read this do not know me, I am a dedicated calendar keeper and my Google calendar app is pretty close to being an electronic BFF. Right after waking up and doing the morning doggie cuddles that my pup expects, I check my phone to see what is on tap for the day. In the world before Covid, I always thought called the daily grind things that I had to do but one of the good things that have come out of the pandemic for me is adjusting my eyes to see the world differently. As many people suffered tragic losses in this time, I came to realize that my have to list was a blessing. Unlike many, I am lucky that I get to do these things. Making the change in how I viewed work and all the other tasks life throws my way from things that I simply had to do into things I get to do has created a positive and uplifting change in my mindset as well as life.

This alteration in outlook can also make an encouraging change in D/S relationships. I will start with the s-type side of the slash. This small switch can make a huge difference for a submissive when their dominant has asked/assigned tasks which let’s just say are not favorites. By changing their outlook from I have to do this for my d-type to I get to do this for them, I believe it will make those assignments possibly more enjoyable as well as rewarding.

Now on the flip side of the slash, this change can also make a marvelous change for dominants as well. One thing that happens to all dominants (submissives too) is that life gets challenging and creates times when we just do not want to do things. When this happens, even the most domly of dominants is going to struggle which may mean simple things, for example, giving their submissive daily chores is something that can feel like a mountain to climb. Just a quick note, d-types are human which means every dominant is going to have times that they struggle and anyone who says differently is full of poppycock. I feel that when a dominant during points of challenge can say to themselves I get to lead my submissive or I get to do whatever it is with their relationship it provides a powerful reminder of just how lucky they are to have a submissive partner. I believe dominants should use this approach daily, even the bestest of days because it is truly an honor to have received the gift of submission from an amazing person.

Making the little change of ditching the word have and replacing it with get in my opinion will lead to a more positive outlook on life. It does take a bit of work to break the have to habit but once it is broken, it is mentally freeing. Not only does this mental alteration improve daily life but I believe it will be a relationship enhancer for both dominants and submissives. So I want to challenge you to dump the have to’s in life and replace them with the joys of getting to.

As with all of my writings, please see this disclaimer.

©TLK2021

#keeper of the light #lighthouse #writers on tumblr #change your thoughts #change your world #change your mind #to write is to heal #love heals. period.

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Don’t know what you got until it’s gone… be humble and work at it and keep the love alive. Kiss those that you love. You are blessed. Embrace Joy.

Love Heals. Period. XO

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I’m Ready…

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