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challenge yourself to dedicate this summer to putting yourself first.

putting self-care, self- compassion and self-improvement ahead of anything else will make you realise how worthy you are of love and joy! just take it one habit and one day at a time and see where you are by this autumn ·˚ ༘

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Mental Crop Rotation

When farmers grow the same crop too many years in a row, it can leave their soil depleted of minerals and other nutrients that are vital to the health of their fields.

To avoid this, farmers will often alternate the crops that they grow because some plants will use up different minerals (such as nitrogen) while other plants replenish those minerals. This process is known as “crop rotation.”

So the next time you find that you need to step away from a project to work on something else for a while, don’t beat yourself up for “quitting” that project. Give yourself permission to practice “mental crop rotation” to maintain a healthy brain field.

Because I’ve found that when that unnecessary guilt and pressure are removed from the process, a good mental crop rotation can help you feel more energized and invigorated than ever once you’re ready to rotate back to that project.

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the woman i want to be loves to

educate herself on various topics

take care of herself mentally, physically and spiritually

be pretty in her own way. prettiness doesn’t hurt and isn’t strict, it adapts itself through her authenticity

explore her inner world & the outer world

be in tune with her inner child

embrace and understand her emotions, even the bad ones

be kind, specially with herself

be organized, but flexible with what life gives her

work hard, rest hard. she loves to be in harmony and have a balanced life

eat light and nourishing food

feel good in her own skin and she actively work on it everyday

take her meds because she knows it’s good for her

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Old ways won't open new doors

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who is she? dream girl journal prompts

how does she dress?

what does she look like?

what are her wellness habits?

what are her weekly routines?

what are her boundaries?

what is her mental diet?

where is her focus?

where is she living?

who is she dating?

what is her careerr?

what does her social profile look like?

what shows does she watch?

what successes/accomplishments does she have?

how much money does she make?

what does she consume on social media?

how do people treat her?

who does she aspire to be?

what does she spend her free time doing?

who is she inspired by?

what has she let go?

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take yourself on dates, treat yourself like your own best friend and do the hard things that you know will make you happier in the long run 🎀

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And suddenly my life started looking this way...𝜗𝜚

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It's not a loss.

It's a level up.

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I made my final decision. I spoke with my supervisor and told him I have decided to quit my PhD.

I feel like I’m going through a break up. I feel so sad that this chapter is closing but I feel relieved to have my life back. I’ve thrown myself into self-care by immediately going to Pilates and booking a spa day at my favourite beauty parlour.

I know this is the right thing to do. I have a full-time job outside of academia and I have a lot of mini projects I’ve been desperately wanting to dive into.

My supervisor said that later down the track, if I want to, he’d love to help me polish up my draft chapters to submit to journals. It’s so good to know that’s still a possibility if I miss my research.

For now, rebuilding myself will be my focus. Onwards!

#phdblr #phd life

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I had another crisis moment today where I spent hours making a pro/con list to decide if I’m going to complete my PhD. I’ve been doing it part time for several years and I’m always convinced that I’m finally over it and I never want to talk about my case study ever again.

Then I get asked, “What will you do instead?” and I back down because I know I’ll be so resentful if I give up just because I’m BORED.

Thank god I have a full time job because otherwise this cycle would happen daily.

#phd life #phdblr

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a place of power within you

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…well, you should be.

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Don't try this unless you want to massively transform your life

1. Get an alter ego, give them a bad ass name

2. Make a blue print for who they are, how they dress, talk, think, act figure out what their life is like and their routine etc.

3.start acting like them everyday

4. When you have a choice to make ask yourself "what would X do?

5. Give it a month and look at how you've reinvented your life

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Learning to love yourself 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

Celebrate yourself. Every accomplishment deserves to be acknowledged, no matter how big or small. Stop putting yourself down by thinking that you don't deserve to celebrate your achievements just because others have accomplished "greater things." Also, there is so much fun in hyping small wins; call your girlfriend, bake a cake, and enjoy yourself!!

Invest time in things that you love. Doing what makes you happy is essential for your mental health. It's so important to pursue one's small and simple pleasures without the intention of turning them into profit!!

Boundaries and relationships. Learn to say no, define and set boundaries, question your current relationships and friendships, and distance yourself from people who make you feel unloved or worthless.

Allow yourself to grow. Let go of the notion that you are undeserving of growth. Acknowledge the past for what it is, learn from it, and grow from it.

Refelct. Getting to know yourself deeply is key to self-love; journaling is a great way to reflect. Ask yourself questions, question your habits, observe how you respond in certain situations, etc...

Trust yourself and your intuition. Listen to yourself, and don't dismiss the small cues that your inner voice gives you!!

Care for yourself. It is not selfish to look after yourself. Start exercising, eat balanced and healthy, stay hydrated, educate yourself, read complex literature, consume media mindfully, prioritise your sleep and routines, care for your skin and hair...

Be patient. Self-love takes time; you must slowly unpack and unlearn past habits, confront uncomfortable thoughts and memories, and gain a deep understanding of yourself. Give yourself time and approach this as a journey to enjoy. <3

You guys ALWAYS ask about self-love and confidence, sooo I hope this can be a little helpful to some of you and as always, please feel free to share your own suggestions and tips in the comments!! ♡

love ya ･:*₊‧౨ৎ

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Good Morning. 🙂