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me when i mean business

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I visited the donkeys again today. 

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Earth cakes by thesecret_kitchen on IG

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Collecting

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18th century French ivory carvings depicting “tooth worms” believed by many people in the past to bore holes in human teeth and cause toothaches.

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me: hmm time to google something

google every time: can i PLEASE have your location PLEASE 🥺🥺🥺 I need to know where you live so BAD 😫😫😫😫 Where do you fucking from?????? 😩😩😩😩😩😩

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The Origin of Misogyny: It is not Men’s Socialization or Men’s Nature, but Men’s Ability

The idea that misogyny comes from socialization is circular logic. Misogyny comes from misogynistic laws and religions? Who made the laws? Who made the religions? How is it possible that women were  socialized to be subservient to men in so many cultures, even ones that had no previous contact with each other?

However, the idea that misogyny comes from men’s nature is also flawed. Yes, men’s hatred of women is extremely common, as previously established, yet it is not completely universal. There have been matriarchal societies. And in our day-to-day interactions with men, we do notice differences between men based on how they were raised and their respective day-to-day environments.

So what is the root of misogyny, if it’s not men’s socialization or men’s nature? 

I think a more useful way of understanding misogyny (and honestly all forms of oppression) is not to focus on socialization or nature but on ability.

Men have a unique ability to harm women in a way that women cannot harm men. Men can impregnate women. Women cannot impregnate men. On top of having this unique ability, men also have major incentives for doing it: by impregnating a woman, they receive pleasure and a lineage. Unlike women, they also run such a small biological risk for producing a child. After having their orgasm, nothing else is biologically required from them. At worst, they might get an STD.

You might argue that some men are gay or do not want children. That’s all very much true. However, I am not arguing that men have a natural impulse to use their ability. I am simply stating that they have the ability. It is also important to understand that men exist as a class, as well as individuals. While individual men might not even have the ability to impregnate (due to infertility), we can hopefully understand that men as a class have this ability.

If it helps, we can think of this unique ability like a gun. Half of the population is born with a gun (ability to impregnate)  and a bullet-proof vest (inability to be impregnated); the other half is born with neither. The ones born with the gun and the bullet-proof vest  are not necessarily born with a natural impulse to fire the gun–but they are nonetheless born with one.

Even if a man never hurts someone with the gun, I want you to imagine how his psyche is formed just by virtue of having it. Imagine walking into a room with a gun and a bullet-proof vest, and no one else in the room has either. Even if you would never use the gun…just having one gives you a sense of protection, and perhaps a sense of superiority and power. Even if you would never use your tacit threat, you nonetheless have a tacit threat. And now imagine the psyche of those without the gun or the vest. They are vulnerable, and know that they are vulnerable, to the ones who do have one. And so their options are to either appease those with guns and vests, always tip-toeing around them–or to band together.

The ability argument answers the questions that the socialization argument fails to address; namely, it answers the question “where do sexist laws and religions come from?”  It comes from men’s unique ability to harm women in a way that women cannot harm men. This is not to say that men have a natural impulse to harm women–just that they can. 

#i love this #this is so profound #just because they have a gun doesnt mean they are going to use it #but... they still have that gun #i like this explanation

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sorry im a hater but the old woman with the fur coat she bought in the sixties is so much more eco friendly and fashionable that literally any phleater jacket vegan out there

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she stole a leaf that a leafcutter ant was carrying and ate it

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banana pose 🍌

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When I see this stuff I don’t always think it means the guy is gay, because it’s usually from people who seem to think of sex and pleasure as dirty or shameful in some way. Like mental hang ups can make that experience much worse even with someone you’re attracted to. From what I’ve seen, people like this mostly emphasize how having sex is more shameful for women since it’s easier for us. But I also feel like if you see it as making the other person dirty then you don’t see yourself as being too clean either. I’m not that interested in trying to be these peoples’ armachair psychologist but I feel like there’s more to men who say things like this than that they’re all just secretly gay.

#nothing more than just porn addicts #quite easy and simple #all addictions of all types will rob the joy out of life #even the most pleasurable things in life will be boring if you are an addict

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is it bad that i have never had most of these

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Hii hehe thanks for tagging me ❤️ this is me as a cat

I tag @ladjarica @yugotrash @oltenia @madame-kevlar @ibalgin @balkanica @conceptcreep @federal-bureau-of-nerds @katoprofen @kitschundschund @love-n-purple @propalitet @polunoshtnitsa @tuzna-pesma-snova and everyone who sees this and wants to participate!!

WOWIE FIRST TIME STARTING A PICREW CHAIN BC I REALLY LIKED THIS ONE

MAKE YOURSELF A CATSONA WITH THIS CUTE PICREW !!!

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Konstantin Spassky, Bathing Nude, 1917

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I don’t have a body…I am a body….I don’t own my body….my body is me

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“The most violent element in society is ignorance.” - Emma Goldman, ZGB, May 2019 photo by @zagrebist

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Red & yellow alpine strawberries.