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reblog to give somebody a fucking hug because we are all struggling to get through it. solidarity in this tough ass world.

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happy birthday to

KIRBY‼️‼️‼️‼️

#kirby

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get panini pressed, idiot

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mental illness hasn’t been destigmatised but commercialised

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cherries 🍒

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i have an angel and a devil on my shoulder and also a third other guy who looks just like my dad. i try not to look at him but i know he's there.

#yeah.

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I’ve got a war in my mind so i just Blog

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some of my favorite replies to this tweet. happy lesbian visibility week!

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you should like, gently lean your head on a loved one's shoulder. methinks

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A lot of the advice I got about learning to enforce my boundaries was framed as an adversarial thing. Like, ‘yes, it might upset and disappoint the people around you, but you have to learn to tell them ‘no’ anyway.’ At best, ‘good people will still like you if you enforce your boundaries’.

What I wish I’d been told is that good people will think it's awesome that you enforce your boundaries, that there are people who will respect the hell out of you for it, that there are people who will admire you not despite you telling them no, but because of it. That most people don’t want to make you do something you don’t enjoy,and so they’ll actively be happier and more relaxed around you if they know they can trust you to decline to do things you don’t enjoy and to ask them to stop things that bother you.

It helped me a lot, personally, to stop thinking of ‘enforcing my boundaries’ as something I did for me and more as something I did to empower the people I was close with, to build a situation where they and I felt sure everything that was going on was something we all wanted.

Most advice isn’t good for everyone and this advice seems maybe bad for people in abusive situations, because sometimes you do need to learn to enforce boundaries against people who will try to violate them. But if there are other brains like me out there: your partner will be really happy you can say no to them. your friend will be really happy you change the subject when you hate it. your roommate will really appreciate that you tell them to turn down the music. most people will feel safer and more comfortable around you if they know you’ll reliably express your needs, AND they’ll feel better about voicing theirs.

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i love you im glad you exist im so happy you’re alive

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It’s those eyes I think of most.

(WIP, the final is… TBD honestly, but it and the timelapse will be available first on my Patreon.)

#dungeon meshi

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