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...but she's still FALIIIIIIIIIIIN!

(Image description: a set of three cartoony grayscale pencil drawings done in the style of Trogdor the Burninator. The first is a full-body picture of Falin; she is a woman with light hair in a bob who holds a book in her left hand and a magic staff in her right hand. Text reads "Falin was a woman." The second image shows the top half of Falin transposed onto the body of a four-legged dragon with small wings; text reads "I mean, she was a dragon-woman". The last image shows a dragon with two horns, four stickfigure-like legs, and two small wings; it is breathing fire, and smoke comes from its nostrils. Text reads "or maybe she was just a dragon." End ID.)

#dunmeshi #cool friend art #you really nailed the trogdor-esque pencil shading #also i read this in strong bad's voice

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Marcille's line delivery kills me

#dunmeshi #incredible line delivery #i have watched this couple seconds clip so many times just to hear her say whoa hey

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Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

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I don't think younger/newer users fully grasp the shit show that ace discourse was around 2014-17

It was so hostile that, to this day, discussions that begin to derail just enough can make me physically nauseous, some specific mockery trigger crying sessions years later. We lost most accounts with any sort of ace positivity. There was no information, no support, and all this damage was done predominantly by other queer people.

All this to say that you, however you identify yourself, should be engaging with aphobic comments the same way you do any hate. We don't sugarcoat or try to be comprehensive with people who are blatantly racist, homophobic or terfs, so why give it a pass just because it's coming from a queer person? I see how this tolerance goes and it's done enough damage as it is.

#asexuality #aphobia #this all happened within a year or so of my realizing i was ace #i was so hesitant about posting positivity for myself and the ace community for a long time #because i was so afraid of being harrassed #i will still never forgive the one pride zine i was interested in doing art for for saying that hc-ing teen characters as ace was pedophilic

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had an au thought and ran with it o/

#dunmeshi #this is so cute and so in character for everyone

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Laios was right - she's so cool!!

#dunmeshi #she is so so so cool

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Interrupting Falin talk to bring you the scene that shows why Laios really great autistic representation and why Shuro is the worst. he's a well written character but I hate him

#dunmeshi #laios this episode is like peak laios for me #the scene after this where he goes off on how he's taking things more seriously than shuro because he eats and sleeps #is my favorite laios scene and seeing it in the anime i was just like yeah! tell him laios!! #ooouuuugh this episode was good in so many ways

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Ok so today I was on the bus with another trans guy and we were talking about how hard it is to get testosterone. The waiting lists, the price, all the doctors you have to go to, that kind of stuff. Except, we were calling it ’T’, like you do when you’re both closeted and in public.

Then suddenly the elderly lady sitting behind us was like ‘young men, either I’m going crazy or you both have never heard of supermarkets, they have shelves full of tea there! Do you need directions to one?’

To which my buddy starts to explain, because why not. ‘Well you see, we’re both trans, and… ’

The lady didn’t wait for him to finish his sentence. ‘Oh no, I don’t mind that at all! Now do you want to know how to get to a place that sells tea? I’m actually heading there right now!’

We let her take us to the supermarket. We let her show us, excitedly, where the tea was. We both bought loads.

#this is so cute i grinned so much reading it

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when is comes to asexuality and aromanticism you have to be okay with contradiction. one ace person will say asexuality is about not experiencing attraction, another will say it’s about not caring to act on attraction, another will say it’s not experiencing arousal. one aromantic will consider themself queer, one won’t. two people with seemingly identical experiences will use two different labels. aro people will be in romantic relationships, ace people will have sex. you get it.

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PACING IS ABOUT LOAD BEARING WALLS.

*staples violently to my own forehead*

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I refuse to reblog callout posts because I'm a prison abolitionist

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everyone's all about queer subtext until it's aromantic or asexual

#love when a character expresses no interest in what would be the hetero love interest #and it's always taken as subtext that they're gay and not that they could possibly be aro or ace #like our identity isn't a possibility unless it's explicitly textually stated and even then people play really loose with it

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Drawing father with his kids

#dunmeshi #papa chilchuck!!! this is so cute!!

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Also increasingly aware that a LOT of people "manage" getting through the 40+ hour work week by sleeping less than is healthy and relying on stimulants like coffee and energy drinks to keep them going.

For people who are unwilling or unable to do this...work really does just dominate your life. Like we really should not have to rely on unhealthy practices just to have a social life or keep on top of housework or whatever.

I know I post about this a lot but I'm so TIRED all the time and it's just so depressing that this is how we're expected to spend the one life we have.

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If you are split between two answers on a question feel free to take the quiz once with each and answer for the result that's more like you

#my fave is not problematic #i mean not really i acknowledge my fave is problematic buuuuut #when i write fic i tend to uhhh write him a lot more sympathetically?

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chilchuck voice Get that GAY SHIT out of here!!!!!!!!!

#dunmeshi #he's not homophobic he's just against relationships within the party

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I don’t understand why folks can’t just throw callouts out completely

Like why am I seeing posts like handwringing like “well this guy is a transmisogynist so maybe don’t reblog callouts from him”

Maybe just don’t reblog callouts. Maybe just block ppl you don’t like and move on with your life. Maybe they’re all bad and harmful and we don’t need to be making dossiers on anyone.