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Also, on the topic of drag queens - they prance around dressed as women, but the money they earn from it doesn’t actually benefit they women they imitate in any way. Look at the famous drag queens - who do they employ as assistants? Men. Who do they buy their costumes from? Men. Who do they hire as backing dancers? Men. Violet Chachki created a digital show over lockdown with credits a minute long and there wasn’t a single woman involved. He didn’t hire a female choreographer or a female camera person or even a female coffee-getter.

They’re men, they’re male oriented, and they have male class consciousness.

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being so fr with you all we need to drastically accelerate anti-car propaganda.

we need to make it so clear to future generations that we no longer tolerate a world where you cannot conveniently go for a walk or get a coffee or get groceries without a car

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You know what people don’t talk about often enough? Playing catch up in life after spending your teens or early 20s suicidally depressed. There’s so many more layers than just being able to say “I don’t want to die anymore.”

The difficulty in academia or a career after spending years thinking you wouldn’t be alive long enough for any of it to matter.

The exhaustion that comes from self awareness and self soothing, with the constant voice in your head saying “don’t go backwards.”

How lonely it is to watch the people your age starting families when you’re just barely learning what stable relationships are, and the sudden societal pressure of being “up against a clock” for these kinds of things.

The judgement from others if you change your image or interests this late in the game just because you finally figured out who you really are under the demons.

Be kind to those who are developing and blooming after years of not planning on being here long. We are living a life we absolutely didn’t think we’d have, and it’s hard enough without society reminding us there’s expectations of our age.

We didn’t get to be young; we were too busy fighting battles few know.

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Me

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i don't smoke for the obvious reasons of not wanting to develop an addiction to nicotine but god do i so often feel the emotion 'i need a cigarette'.

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i hope every little girl that's crying herself to sleep finds peace and has a guardian angel that loves her very much, gives her loving, soft dreams and hope for her future. i keep thinking about when i was a little girl and i often cried myself to sleep bc of how i was treated at home or otherwise. i remember feeling like the pain would never end and i'd be a child forever. i wish every little girl was safe and loved. i'm sorry i cannot protect you all

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One time I was explaining to my dad how unfair it is that every big city has at least a couple gay bars but there are only like 20ish lesbian bars left in the country and he responded with "That's cause gay men have a good party culture. Lesbians don't have time to party, they're too busy debating the sociological implications of things and studying for postgrad degrees" and as much as I wanted to tell him he was out of line for that, as a lesbian who spends all her free time on Tumblr debating sociological implications and messaging other lesbians in discord servers where everyone has a PhD or masters for some reason I felt like I might not be the best person to make that argument

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alternatives to “i want to die”:

i want things to change

i want a different life

today was a shitty day/week

i don’t want to live like this

i want to be somewhere else in life

i’m not where i want to be yet

+ much more

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hmmm why does my uterus hurt and why do i feel kinda off. weird. surely these are not the warning symptoms of a predictable biological process that occurs on a regular schedule. anyway. im going to wear white pants today.

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seeing gyns leave radblr makes me sad but ultimately i understand it. this space isn't for people who are extremely sensitive because you will have people say the most despicable shit you could ever think of to you and it's sometimes from other radfems. there's only so much of go kill yourself and you deserved your trauma that one person can take.

for gyns still on here, protect your mental health. here's what i recommend doing if you're gonna be on radblr:

1. if you're extremely sensitive, don't turn anons on. it's not worth it

2. make it to where only people you follow can message you

3. block all the big name tras on here that like harassing radfems like lostelvenqueen and that hobs guy

4. make it to where you only get notified when someone you're mutuals with @'s you

5. do not ever share personal stories on here. i cannot stress this point enough. nobody needs to know the most vulnerable parts of you because tras and radfems who don't like you will use it against you. don't post your stories of sexual assault, abuse, or even about good things in your life. i've made this mistake a few times on here but i try to keep it to a minimum. not everyone on here is your friend with good intentions

6. make it to where only people you follow and people who have been following you for a week can reply to your posts

7. block all hate mail. like hate mail seems funny at first bc it's like ha ha, this person is mad but it eventually becomes extremely mentally taxing and the anons will get more and more disgusting and evil to provoke a response from you. just block them immediately

if any other gyns have advice, please add on.

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Everyone is wrong except me. And also my small council of beautiful and moderately-adjusted women. If we disagree on something then it's only because the topic is nuanced beyond your simplistic, profane understanding.

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Yesterday one of my professors said in passing that "the patriarchy oppresses men _just as much_ as women". I've heard this sentiment expressed before and everytime it gets more and more infuriating and insulting because what even ???????

The patriarchy is literally by definition male supremacy. It's about male dominance and female subordination. By definition it benefits men and disadvantages women.

Any supposed disadvantages men may suffer because of the patriarchy are entirely a side-effect of all the ways in which they benefit. Like sure men are expected to be strong and women are expected to be weak. As a man you go through life with people automatically assuming positive things about you and you benefit from that everyday, and for women its the opposite. Women are ridiculed and dissmessed when they express their feelings, whereas the reason you "aren't allowed to be emotional" is because people expect "better" from you. These expectations are pushed on you because you are expected to be superior and you are failing to meet them because you aren't. I heard a thing once that was like "the patriachy hurts men the same way shooting a gun hurts your hand" lol like the gender roles that have empowered you your entire life are the same gender roles that limit you emotionally or whatever (which I think men's emotions are actually taken more seriously because, again, your rationality is assumed and that extends to emotional concerns as well but that's a whole other thing).

People understand why it's insulting to say that "white supremacy oppresses white people just as much as black people" or that "homophobia harms straight people equally to gay people". I wonder why, then, it's different when it comes to women, a group of people that have literally been socialized their whole lives to put everyone elses needs and concerns above their own.

These are systems are built to benefit one group at the expense of the other. The benefitting group isn't oppressed by the system built to ensure their dominace it drives me crazy that people can't seem to see that.

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never have I met an animal more insistent on being pressed like a panini

squish that cat! for she requires

MORE WEIGHT

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Glasses people love to make you try their glasses on to see how fucked up their eyes are. It's a sign of respect in their culture.