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mike ghosts is really the ideal man like his idea of a good time is eating a trifle and falling asleep in bed his first instinct to fight robbers was to put on a suit of armour he can do throat bass his emotional stability relies on his wife and some guy called obi he has great taste in huge dead stuffed bears hes embarrassed enough to wear swim trunks in the shower cos some dead person is definitely spying on him but he'll run straight through the entire house cock and balls swinging around without a second thought he loves a cottage pie hes always gotta be in control but hes kind of bad at it he Will let a vicar be late for a wedding he is hosting because the vicar wanted to go sledding he is 90% high strung anxiety 10% impulsivity and he is always always down to clown i absolutely love him

#bbc ghosts

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i know unicorns are usually silver or lavender with those skinny horse legs built for running but id like to see more unicorns with natural colouration built like tanks like these beasts

#they’re girlfriends

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They’re going go kill me because I can’t remember the history of the atom

#plum pudding model? more like AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH #also what in hell is an Avagadro’s number #chemistry mocks kill me now

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wikipedia Tell me about this man's personal life

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Being a little too cold: brrrr i’m a little too cold !!!

Being a little too warm: i am going to kill the next person who makes eye contact with me.

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wanted to do my photo project this semester on the notion of mobility aids being extensions of our bodies, the yarn was done by a friend

#that’s sick

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reblog to pick up a Tumblr mutual like a cat and give them a hug

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Alright, I’ve finally wrote an alright ending to my very short for fun story so now I can maybe start the thing I’ve been thinking about

#I say alright ending but I think maybe if someone read it they’d be disappointed #I was done with it #and it’s not like it’s going anywhere tbh #I can’t start anything without finishing all my other stuff

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So what I’ve learned from the past couple months of being really loud about being a bi woman on Tumblr is: A lot of young/new LGBT+ people on this site do not understand that some of the stuff they’re saying comes across to other LGBT+ people as offensive, aggressive, or threatening. And when they actually find out the history and context, a lot of them go, “Oh my god, I’m so sorry, I never meant to say that.”

Like, “queer is a slur”: I get the impression that people saying this are like… oh, how I might react if I heard someone refer to all gay men as “f*gs”. Like, “Oh wow, that’s a super loaded word with a bunch of negative freight behind it, are you really sure you want to put that word on people who are still very raw and would be alarmed, upset, or offended if they heard you call them it, no matter what you intended?”

So they’re really surprised when self-described queers respond with a LOT of hostility to what feels like a well-intentioned reminder that some people might not like it. 

That’s because there’s a history of “political lesbians”, like Sheila Jeffreys, who believe that no matter their sexual orientation, women should cut off all social contact with men, who are fundamentally evil, and only date the “correct” sex, which is other women. Political lesbians claim that relationships between women, especially ones that don’t contain lust, are fundamentally pure, good, and  unproblematic. They therefore regard most of the LGBT community with deep suspicion, because its members are either way too into sex, into the wrong kind of sex, into sex with men, are men themselves, or somehow challenge the very definitions of sex and gender. 

When “queer theory” arrived in the 1980s and 1990s as an organized attempt by many diverse LGBT+ people in academia to sit down and talk about the social oppressions they face, political lesbians like Jeffreys attacked it harshly, publishing articles like “The Queer Disappearance of Lesbians”, arguing that because queer theory said it was okay to be a man or stop being a man or want to have sex with a man, it was fundamentally evil and destructive. And this attitude has echoed through the years; many LGBT+ people have experience being harshly criticized by radical feminists because being anything but a cis “gold star lesbian” (another phrase that gives me war flashbacks) was considered patriarchal, oppressive, and basically evil.

And when those arguments happened, “queer” was a good umbrella to shelter under, even when people didn’t know the intricacies of academic queer theory; people who identified as “queer” were more likely to be accepting and understanding, and “queer” was often the only label or community bisexual and nonbinary people didn’t get chased out of. If someone didn’t disagree that people got to call themselves queer, but didn’t want to be called queer themselves, they could just say “I don’t like being called queer” and that was that. Being “queer” was to being LGBT as being a “feminist” was to being a woman; it was opt-in.

But this history isn’t evident when these interactions happen. We don’t sit down and say, “Okay, so forty years ago there was this woman named Sheila, and…” Instead we queers go POP! like pufferfish, instantly on the defensive, a red haze descending over our vision, and bellow, “DO NOT TELL ME WHAT WORDS I CANNOT USE,” because we cannot find a way to say, “This word is so vital and precious to me, I wouldn’t be alive in the same way if I lost it.” And then the people who just pointed out that this word has a history, JEEZ, way to overreact, go away very confused and off-put, because they were just trying to say.

But I’ve found that once this is explained, a lot of people go, “Oh wow, okay, I did NOT mean to insinuate that, I didn’t realize that I was also saying something with a lot of painful freight to it.”

And that? That gives me hope for the future.

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not to be gay but women? damn

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it’s actually against the law to be mean to me btw

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Reply to this post and I’ll tell you what I’d hypothetically get you for your birthday

#I’m boreddd #I also love buying people gifts #If nobody does this ignore this post lol

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There's only one real way to categorise disorders and it's when you google it and the first results fit into one or more of the following categories:

1. "Is your child-" "Does your child-" "How to cope with the burden of being a parent for-"

2. "How to get better: Step One: have a lot of money!" "How to get better: Step One: simply stop having it!"

3. "10 Ways To Spot Sickopaths With This Disorder So You Can Protect Yourself" "The Bad People Disease -by Dr. Eugene X."

#you look up autism and the top results are like #[some lady on Reddit or something] my son is autistic and it’s sooo hard for me. tomorrow im going to abandon him on the street. 😢 #and all the comments are like yes queen. do what you have to do. you don’t have to parent your child if they’re not what you want. #and you scroll down and it’s all ‘can you cure autism’ ‘do autistic people have empathy’ ‘can autistic people have children’

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my job in the leftist commune is babybel unwrapper and everyone wants to fuck me