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bonus: grantgo

mere hours before "bingo" was scheduled to shoot, brennan subbed in for grant. an american hero. (posted with both grant and brennan’s permission.)

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The fact that Everything Everywhere All at Once has the main character see that if she hadn’t gone to America with the man that would be her husband she would’ve lived a glamorous life of fame and fortune and her husband would’ve gone off and gotten very rich on his own rather than living together in an apartment over a laundromat struggling with finances every day and where so many movies would’ve framed that choice to go off together as a mistake, shown their alternative lives as some sort of “see? It wasn’t worth it” and had them “escape” to that “better” universe in the end, it instead all culminates in the line “Just so you know, in another life, I would’ve been really glad to just do laundry and taxes with you” changed my wholeass life

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I know they keep calling Stede running off to sea a mid-life crisis, but mid-life crisis always sounds a bit frivolous to me. Stede has obviously not been happy…most of his life? He’s a gay man who doesn’t know he’s gay because he’s never had anyone give a thought to what he wanted, so he doesn’t even consider it; he’s incredibly wealthy but he’s been told that he doesn’t deserve anything he has, material or not; he’s married to a woman he can’t really connect to and who is obviously unhappy with him. The only time he’s visibly happy is playing with his kids or reading.

His going to sea seems the one time he really does something completely because he wants to, and even then he’d intended on taking his family with him. He’s not really being frivolous or whim-prone; he just doesn’t fully know WHY he needs to get out because no one has ever asked what makes Stede happy and cared about the answer.

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you will live and you will say the wrong things and make mistakes and people will love you anyways.

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I'm just saying, if there's a curse that runs along your family line and you don't tell your kids about it, how the hell are they supposed to go on a quest to stop it?

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I got very loudly deadnamed and misgendered multiple times at the doctors office today. This new receptionist ignored the preferred name on my profile to deadname and misgender me loudly, louder than she talked about anyone else in the waiting room. My birth certificate says "F" nex to sex, my medical documentation reflects this, and I was still deadnamed and misgendered.

And the saving grace was a woman and her child. I wear cat-ears and the child too young to speak loved them, and kept pointing and looking at me. I'm assuming her mother kept saying "yeah, she's wearing cat-ears", "yeah, that woman has cute cat-ears", and the like. Her child was enamoured with them, and that woman didn't misgender me once. And each time my very obviously masculine deadname name came up, she looked upset at the receptionist, but not once did she give me a bad look.

It doesn't have to be much. You don't need to be a knight in shining armour, or in someones face. Simply a quiet refusal to play along with someone elses bullshit is enough. It was enough to turn a trying and tiring moment into something that put a smile on my face and joy back into my life. It wasn't a lot but it mattered to me.

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dude the dwarf fortress devs are awesome, tbh. its extremely refreshing to see normal people get rewarded for their efforts as a result of catering to niche audiences

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He's very easily peer pressured

(Edit: I meant by the goats)

Prints!

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you ever feel like you were born with something rotten inside you and if people get close enough they’re gonna find out

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thought about the Katara v Pakku fight too hard and made myself cry

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A brief moment of rationality from the bird place.

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Truly love the number of people I've met that have been like "Well I went to a Catholic school as a kid, which is to say I'm not Catholic" like damn Catholic schools really out here doing the exact opposite of missionary work.

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my dad was outside feeding the slugs cucumber slices earlier

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worst part about getting angry is how much it makes you want to be mean

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there is a huge difference between criticizing an institution and criticizing individual behavior. i can criticize the makeup industry without criticizing the 14 year old girl who uses concealer because she’s self-conscious about her acne; i can criticize the plastic surgery industry without vilifying the woman who decided to get a nose job after two decades of pointed comments and bullying. it is intellectually dishonest to respond to an institutional criticism as if it were a personal attack; on the flip side, it is cruel and unnecessary to leverage personal attacks in the name of institutional criticism

if i see one (1) more person respond to a perfectly reasonable beauty-industry-critical sentiment with “but i personally enjoy eyeshadow. why are you attacking people who like eyeshadow :(” or “exactly, all women who wear makeup are miserable and brainwashed” i am going to climb a tree and bite the top of it