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update (from the girl who had a crush on her tiktok friend) yeah he's agreed to meet me irl bc he lives near the place i work. my god. i might faint when i see him ngl. help? /pos

Aw, that’s great! Be sure to practice safety protocol for meeting strangers off the internet. What I like to do when meeting people is make sure I always have an excuse to leave if I need to. Also bring water at the very least, to help you not feint!

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I follow a guy on twitch and we eventually became friends, we joke flirt alot and they called me pretty boy like 4 times one stream /pos but I feel like it hasn't been long enough to fork an actual crush but I get butterflies and everything aaa

Whether or not it’s an “actual crush” is completely up to you!

Whether or not it’s joke flirting is also inevitably up to you! If you like them, feel free to make it not a joke!

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Met this cuuute guy at a work internship. He always wanted to talk to me and come close to me and aaAAAA blatantly flirted with me. We're texting now and it's so casual and I just want to hug him tight

That’s super cute! Unless it’s not an appropriate relationship due to difference in position where you work because then it’s super concerning!

Hopefully it’s the former though, congratulations!

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i have a massive crush on this guy. he's my friend on tiktok and we're really similar, same interests, we both cosplay counterpart characters. I can't watch one of his videos without having to pause and take a minute to breathe because he's really good-looking. he's that kind of person that makes me think "it isn't possible to be that attractive" but apparently it is. I don't know if I'll ever tell him because i don't want to ruin our friendship but aaaa. sorry i just needed to tell someone.

That’s sweet! It must be difficult not to tell him if that’s how you react to his videos. Glad you could get it off your chest!

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I like a guy I met online on tumble Recently.....i said he is like a brother to me which he was....until now he isn't....i can't like him in any other way them a brother.....yet I can't stop....he sees and treats me like a lil sis,,...what should I do...

Well, I can’t tell you how you should feel, but if you have conflicting feelings I recommend taking some time to process them!

Also, you say you met him recently. You might want to get to know him better before you decide if you like him or not, or even if you consider him to be like a brother. Creating a friendship with someone online can be very fulfilling, but sometimes it’s better to err on the side of caution with people at first.

I wish I could give advice other than “give it some time,” but sometimes that’s the best thing to do!

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are your dms still open?

Yes! I may not always be able to give the best advice, but generally, I’m more easily reached by message! I didn’t see this for 13 days!

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Uhm, you've probably received similar asks of this one. I'm F15, and I have this very close online friend M21. We started off decent, we talked since we met through a mutual online friend who I've known for years. We talked a lot after that on calls because we played video games and noticed that he had an a**hole personality (which he's actually known to be pretty much by everyone we knew) , to the mutual friend, not so much to me yet. He's somehow nicer to me at times and my other friend says it was probably because I'm a female. He does jokingly flirt with me and jokingly calls the fbi on himself because I'm a minor. I've established it was never serious since he's known for dark and oppresive jokes. Then when we got a little more close, there were times that he sounded so aggressive and insulted me over a game. That time I didn't mind and I didn't care, because he actually talked to me about his rough childhood. Lots of messed up stuff happened to him as a child that tainted him, probably traumas. Video games seemed like one of his coping mechanisms but it also harmed him in a way where he gets stressed and explodes to us, me and the mutual. He didn't have much friends so we became one of his closest online friends. As this progressed, since I also didn't have lots of friends and didn't experience relationships or true loves or that sort, I'm confused. I feel like I wanted to be there for him or the care for him, I always think of him, of ways to make him feel less alone and better. I would always message him, and he'd message back. At that point I was always asking how he was, he'd answer me normally, and soon he actually started to ask me how I was. We got in a much better terms and tried to avoid triggering him in video games, we talk every day and play. We'd even talk about dreams about each other but it was never romantic, it was almost like he sees me as a younger version of him, giving me advices, never assumes I have a thing for him and he does and jusy never tells incase he's wrong. But we wasn't and I have a thing with him but I don't know or I atleast don't think he think of me any way that I do to him. Sorry for this long ask, you don't have to answer me but I'll be grateful if you do. Thank for for creating this blog, I was able to rant this out. 😂✌️

Thanks for calling in!

I wish I had substantial advice to give, but I’m mostly a little bit concerned! As an individual in my early twenties, I am extremely uncomfortable around people your age and I can’t imagine thinking it’s ok to flirt with a 15 year old, even as a joke, because it isn’t funny!

But I have a few other things to say, the first of which is, to know that it’s not your responsibility to “make him feel less alone.” He’s an adult, and you’re in high school.

The second is that, you probably can’t stop having a crush on him, but if you think he’s socially isolated, it’s for the best to leave it as a friendship. (I’d recommend that to anyone of any age!) If you end up telling him you have feelings for him, there aren’t really any good outcomes. He’ll either choose to take advantage of it, or he’ll be uncomfortable and just become more socially isolated. It could risk your relationship with your mutual friend, too, either way.

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Is this blog still active?

Kind of, yes! I use my personal tumblr on a daily basis, but I almost never check this one. I’m a lot more likely to respond to a DM than an ask! I’m trying to get back in the swing of things, but as you can tell I can only really make content if someone is feeding into the machine! Thank you!

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Hi! I made this blog a very long time ago, and I still get asks. I have some things unanswered, because I was not feeling up to the task of addressing people’s concerns for several years! I intend to get to some of these questions, because I feel like some of them need to get addressed, even for future readers of the blog. Thank you for your patience!

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So, I have a close friend (online) I have a mad crush on. It's different from other small crushes I've had online, I genuinly care about this guy and I wanna make him happy and all that lol! The thing is if I told him about my feelings, I don't know if it would ruin our freindship or make things awkward... That's my biggest fear! I want to be truthful with him, but I also feel that he might not take it seriously? This crush has been killing me! It's been so long I can't hold it in!

My first suggestion is that if you do genuinely care about him, you should start by evaluating whether of not he wants to be in a relationship or if he’s ready to be in one. If he isn’t in a place to be dating right now, then be the friend he needs you to be for him!

My second piece of advice would be to write out how you feel some place that isn’t a screen. Typing out your feelings to someone can be intimidating, and if you write it instead of type it you also eliminate the chances that you’ll impulsively send the message.

You could also call him “babe” in a casual conversation to see how he redponds, but what do I know, I’m not a professional!

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I’m f17. My crush m40, married with kids. First time we met he was flirting with me so much(staring at me), kept coming near me, I know I look olderstared at me the whole time. I was never interested in older men. I couldn’t stop thinking about him then I saw him again, he slowed down with the staring, just a few looks and he came to me and(very cautiously) touched my shoulder and we talked a bit. I got a super big crush on him despite how frickin’ WRONG it is! Help.

I’m gonna break the positive facade I usually uphold on this blog and say that if a 40 year old man is doing anything that you can consider “flirting” then you need to distance yourself from him because that’s not ok behavior on his part.

Listen. I get it it, younger people sometimes develop attractions to people older than them, that happens. But I personally think that any 40 year old man that goes out of his way to make physical contact with you should be given another consideration about his character.

I’m not saying that is definitely the situation, I am saying it is the situation too often and if I were you I would stay away from him

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(Part 1) Hi me again, about this boy in my class. My problem with this whole situation is that I’ve had a crush on him for a few years now, and now when we are about to graduate and all go our separate ways, these things happen and leave me all confused. I’m just too shy to confront him about the school trip but I would love to hang out with him, play tennis or something. In a few weeks we have our graduation party and I’m just scared that I’ll never see him again afterwards.

“(Part 2) I can’t stop thinking about whether I should hug him at the end of the party nd tell him to text me if he ever wanted to do smth or just keep my mouth shut and try to forget him. And it’s not like he’s completely different when he is sober. He is just a bit more shy and reserved I guess, but still always cracking jokes and teasing me. It’s the first time I ever felt like this about a boy, so I guess I just don’t really know what to do and what is a realistic outcome and consequence”

I’m sorry that I never got around to answering this until now, 108 days later, after you have definitely graduated, but I hope that you maybe figured it out and are continuing how to deal with feelings as things about your life change!

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I (16) have A MAJOR crush on my teacher (26) he's so sweet n caring and overall so lovely. It doesn't hurt that he is heckin handsome as well. The select few friends I've told this to have all told me I'm basically borderline in love with the dude. He is now no longer my teacher and I don't see him much anymore but damn I still pretty much dream about him and his adorableness all the time. He's done so much for me personally and if anyone wants to hear more just comment and I'll answer 😅

Honestly that sounds tricky and I don’t have any advice for how to deal with that one!

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I am not ignoring the messages that have come in in the past month I just have not been able to have the Brain Juice to respond and also I can’t even give my own self crush advice so who even knows how qualified I am!!!!!!!!!!

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So, it’s a boy (18) in my class. We’ve been friends for 3 years now and we just went on a school trip. At night he got pretty drunk and suddenly hugged me several times and started to be very touchy. Later on I even had to take care of him. He then also said cute things like »Omg, how are u so good?«. Now I’m super confused and nervous around him because sober he isn’t like that with me and I don’t know if he remembers. Also I am very inexperienced and don’t know how to handle this. Help

I can’t say I have much experience in this either. From what I do know, people do tend to not quite be themselves when they drink, so maybe start off by bringing up to him what he said when he was drunk and try to gauge his reaction to that? I’m sorry that I can’t be more of a help with this one! Feel free to message me or send another ask if you want to give more details about it though!

#alcohol mention

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There’s this girl I’ve been talking to online for over a year now, but honestly it’s hard to tell if it is a crush. She is one of my best friends, and probably the one person that I’m the most open to, and when I get home I’m excited to talk to her. I know she does like girls as well, and I love her so much as a friend but idk where to go from here.

Hello and thank you so much for calling!

You have to be careful and look at if you actually like talking to her or if you just like having someone to talk to! If you can’t tell if it’s a crush, then you should maybe start looking at your behavior and think about whether or not you are trying to make yourself have a crush!

But if you do actually like her, maybe even just start off by talking about how much you appreciate her being in your life and what she means to you and things like that. I’d be happy to also help you out by sending the message!

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I really like this guy in my one of my English classes. He's hilarious, and super smart. He is really caring about his friends and I feel like we would be nice together. We have a lot of the same values and outlooks on life. But, he smokes w**d. I don't like it at all, but it is a big part of who he is. I want to ask him out so bad, but I don't think I can accept that part of him. Am I a bad person? Pls help

You have every right to be uncomfortable with drug use!

Also, I’d like to point out that while there isn’t anything inherently wrong with recreation use of marijuana, there’s absolutely something wrong with making it a part of your personality! Honestly if this guy treats taking drugs like a part of who he is, I think you would need to double check what you really think about him because that is not a red flag in terms of being romantically involved with someone.

#drug tw