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Fanart of Falin Touden from Dungeon Meshi. I just finished reading it recently, incredible series.

(Psst I have prints of this available)

#mmffhhg…

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Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

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before the poll, a quick definition of terms:

"mutual" - you found this post from a mutual (on their blog or your dash) "following" - you found this post from someone you're following, but who isn't following you "random" - you found this by scrolling through someone's blog, who you don't follow. this includes people following you "For You" - you found this on the For You page "recommended" - you found this in a "Check out these blogs" popup, or a "recommended" post when looking at a different post "other" - you found this post some other way. comment how? "reblog ✅" - you're going to reblog, queue, or schedule this post "reblog ❌" - you're NOT going to reblog, queue, or schedule this post

with that out of the way:

#mutual #i think? we’re mutuals i think

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If your BSD fave uses stim toys which one(s) do you think they would use?

#ranpo is probably a big fan of dammit dolls #idk if those count as stim toys. idc #i think his stims are more violent so he doesnt usually use toys since they almost always end up broken

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I love those posts that are positive reminders/affirmations linking with fandoms.

The issues is that when I make them they come out like THIS:

I can not be truested with editing software

#ATOP THE ‘i will not split’ ONE #SAVED . USING THIS FOREVER

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wait i think i dreamt a new artstyle wtf

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me updating tumblr on the minutiae of my life bc no one else gives a damn

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I’ve said it before but god do I love casual intimacy. Their hand on my thigh as we sit together, holding my hand as we walk or wrapping their arm around my waist and keeping me close to their side!! I’m a sucker for that shit it’s so great

#hand on my thigh drives me WILD goooooodlord #and hand around my waist #goodfucking god

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#need him WHAT NO STOP I DIDNT SAY THAT #mia.txt

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why is tumblr giving me sponsored danganronpa crackships? whos sponsoring this? i hate this site

#danganronpa #onyx.txt

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sundays amirite ???

#bro at&t is that ttrpg or whatever i dont think bo burnham made it up #wait sorry i just look at the pic. tree in da bath🛁

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happy birthday chuuya neither me or mia are allowed to give commentary on this

#onyx.txt

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now then, who wants to fight against gravity?

04.29 happy birthday chuuya 💕

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insert super funny hilarious line here .m too tired to make proper conversation but i wanna bother u whats up

YAAYYY HI OLLIE image so true HRUUUUU HAI HAI

#take 10 psychic damage #mia.txt #ollie 🎈

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I'm getting so pissed with people who are saying Gwen isnt trans. Like they're trying to explain why her dad has a trans patch on his jacket and why she has a trans flag in her room, by saying she supports trans people... wtf???? Literally what ally has a TRANS FLAG, IN THEIR ROOM, BECAUSE THEY SUPPORT TRANS PEOPLE??? That's some shit closeted me would tell my parents when they saw me drawing rainbows. People that are saying this shit are literally just transphobic and dont want her to be trans. Gwen is trans and fuck everyone that argues against that.