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[redbutch]

anyway i just think we should talk more about how pushy subs can get and how we collectively need to be more mindful of doms’ boundaries. personally i’m a switch and i almost always end up domming bc of how thoroughly bottom-y so much of the queer/t4t dating scene is. like once someone finds out i can dom it’s just expected of me and i’m fucking tired of it, i shouldn’t have to work so hard to make room for the concept that i might wanna sub sometimes too (which pretty much never gets followed up on), but that’s not even the part that bothers me the most

it bothers me that people don’t seem to realize it’s not only on the dom to assert their boundaries, it’s also on the sub to check in sometimes, to read body language, to read tone, to make an effort to cognitively empathize with the dom and what they’re going through bc domming can be really intense, psychologically and physically. i know so many people/posts romanticize the idea of being so deep in subspace that you can’t even think or talk and only the dom has to worry about anything and sure, that can happen w a lot of trust and consent and communication and be a good experience for both parties, but it’s so sinister to me that it seems to be the starting expectation so much of the time. it’s good in fantasy but in reality that is way too fucking much responsibility if you don’t already have well negotiated boundaries and deep trust. imo that expectation should never be the starting point

like sex and kink (can be) deeply intimate and intense things to share with other people and you should give a shit if you’re making someone uncomfortable!! subspace does not free you from the responsibility of how you’re treating the people you’re sharing those intimate dynamic/actions with!! subs should care about their doms’ boundaries and consent!! consent to be put in a dom position should never be assumed!! domming, just like subbing, should be something earned through trust!! i am so fucking tired

#and theres a diff between someone being unsure or inexperienced and not Knowing #and someone claiming to be a switch or a vers but then never actually being one #my ex did this a bit to me bc genuinely i wasnt sure and still am not sure what i am #but she told me she was a switch vers and then would say crazy shit to me out of nowhere like #asking me to hurt her or calling me her top to her friends when id never actually topped her bc i got injured last year and it took forever #- to recover #anyway. yeah ive noticed this in my own relationship and also just by observing #was someone who wasnt sure. my ex's assumptions effectively killed any and all desire to have sex lmao bc i had no idea what i wanted #and she wasnt helping me explore. #PLUS i mean i couldnt flex my foot withour severe pain for like 8 months

[redbutch]

why are YOU whining about getting edged?? don't you know how hard it is for me? all I wanna do is see you cum over and over until you go fucking braindead but instead I'm taking my time with you, treating you nice, making sure it's gonna be extra good for you. so why don't you thank me? say it. say "thank you for not letting me cum yet." good job. say it again.

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Reblog if you'd help a post op tgirl dilate and definitely would never ruin her brand new hole that looks so pretty and tempting and breedable an-

[redbutch]

Toxic Werewolf Yuri

Refed from a porn gif thats circulating and was so RoryxWolf I had to draw it immediately

[redbutch]

Leatherdykes by Lynn Welburn, found on Gay-MART

[redbutch]

thinking about being free use for a butch friend and feeling her warm hands pulling my shorts and boxers down so she can push her cock inside me, grab my hips to bend me over the couch, and fuck my masc cunt bare until she cums inside me, her pretty moans filling my ears as she breeds my butch pussy with her butch cock

op is nonbinary and this post is t4t. cis men, d*trans, orientation pl*y DNI or get blocked. age in your bio!!!!! 18+ IS NOT AN AGE AT LEAST PUT A DECADE RANGE

[redbutch]

is this anything

#its everything

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wolfgang eichler in secret's fetish photo anthology, vol. 2

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Never been able to cum without clit stimulation before. Thinking about what would happen if someone tied me down to a bed, set up a fucking machine, and told me I wouldn't be freed until I learned how to cum just from being pounded. How long it would take, how long I'd be stuck on the edge just desperate for any stimulation to my clit to push me over.

#bee posts #wlw nsft #lesbian nsft #butch nsft

[redbutch]

When you're ovulating and start looking up how painful/difficult the healing process is for nipple and VCH/HCH piercings 🥴

#bee posts #will NOT happen probably ajdjsjdjs i can barely suffer thru lobe healing #not being able to get off while healing also sounds insane

[redbutch]

Bought a knotted dildo a few weeks ago in a horny haze one evening, and god what I wouldn't give for someone to tie me down and try to shove every last inch into my cunt. I haven't been able to fit the knot at all, need someone more patient than I am to stretch me out so every inch by agonizing inch can fit inside me. Don't even look at my cock until it's all in and I'm begging for it- can't risk me clenching and making it harder to fit the knot, right? Don't let me cum until the knot is securely wedged up inside me. Use the vibe on me, after that, see how hard I can really bear down on the knot

#bee posts #wlw nsft #lesbian nsft #butch nsft #bee concepts #butch bottom #butch sub #sapphic nsft

[redbutch]

some of y'all have to get more normal about butches bottoming or subbing. they are gender neutral acts that don't make anyone less masculine or less butch. with the exception of the stone butch identity, topping or dominance is not a requirement to be butch. also, stone butches can be submissive. even if someone is a top, it doesn't mean they want to top you.

[redbutch]

I'm gonna slowly clean house and maybe start being more active on here, no promises tho bc my breakup is still fairly fresh + I got a recent PCOS diagnosis which explains why my sex drive has been on vacation for the past like 4 months

#bee posts #breakups are weird even when youre the one who ends things. not even gonna be thinking about dating for a while #i want to focus on friendships

[redbutch]

You know what maybe this is controversial but butches arent sexual rehabilitation centers for traumatized femmes. We aren’t just a way for you to have sex with someone you see as close to being a man in a non scary way. We have our own traumas and difficulties with sex and preferences on our bodies. Butches aren’t sex machines you insert “butches are so sexy crush me under your boot” tokens into. It’s presumptuous as all hell to flirt with a butch without ever taking into account their feelings and existence. I’ve seen people repeatedly messaging a stone butch about the head they wanna give her, which is distressing for her as a STONE butch. I’ve seen people assume butches would be into whatever (usually violent) kink they wanted to, leaving absolutely inappropriate comments on their selfies without thinking about why butches might be traumatized about people assuming we are violent or predators. People think every butch is going to a big burly leather daddy who ties you to the bed and beats you and doesn’t need to show any emotions but there’s just as many butches who don’t feel comfortable being dominant, playing around with kinks, or even topping, and for good reason. We aren’t your sex dolls to project your fantasies onto. We are people.

[redbutch]

if your first instinct when you see a butch is to talk about how you want to "suck their dick" or "have them prey on you" when you don't know them/have prior consent to do so, that is plain fetishization. so many butches (esp. those who are butch4butch) talk about how they don't feel safe around femmes they don't know because how common this kind of behavior is. i see femmes brag about sending horny anons and messages to butches, then are confused and surprised when they don't receive sexual attention in return and are told to back off. the fact that some femmes think this is okay is absolutely sickening and disgusting.

also, this kind of fetishization is so often directed at trans butches (esp. transfem) and butches of color by cis white femmes. if butches acted this way towards femmes, they would be called creepy and predatory so quickly. think about why you're able to get away with it. it's so clear that so many "femmes" believe that sexual attraction to butches is what makes you a femme, it doesn't. loving butches as people and supporting our community are integral to the femme identity, not fetishization.

#last weekend i broke up w my girlfriend #for a lot of reasons beyond this but also #she seemed very very keen on me being a sexually dominant top even tho i told her id never been w anyone else #to the degree that she was regularly calling me her top even tho i had literally never topped her #we only had sex twice and then i sprained both ankles and am still dealing w pain that is now chronic #and her continual pushing that i have sex w her and strap her down even tho i couldnt even flex my feet without pain #got very old very fast #people need to be more receptive to butches being inexperienced and subs and bottoms #make butches feel comfortable existing out of this box so many put us in

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I'm still alive + here lol just haven't been wanting to post recently since I got an influx of followers and still have to comb thru + block everybody who's ageless or a man

#bee posts #its exhausting to do it for a sideblog

[redbutch]

someone please tie me down onto the bed and edge me into oblivion with a vibrator. Whenever I’m close pull it away from my clit and tell me that sluts don’t get to come until you decide, edge me for hours until I’m sobbing and begging to cum. ask me random little questions and when I don’t give an answer slap my puffy clit and tell me I’m never gonna cum if I don’t learn some manners.