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who am i to judge my past self so harshly she knew little of the world

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for those who are struggling with having and finding purpose: maybe, for now, your purpose is waking up in the morning and taking on the day ahead. maybe your purpose is continuing to live despite it all.

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concept: everything’s okay. you’re not bitter anymore, you stop criticising everything. people love you. you are at peace with yourself, no longer numb or in pain. good things are on the horizon. you’re doing the best you can and you’re happy with your progress.

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its true that crying wont solve things but we dont cry to solve. we cry to release

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My dear lgbt+ kids, 

Have you heard the word “Anhedonia” before?

Even if not, you likely felt it before: Sometimes things that should feel good simply do not feel good. 

Maybe it’s “talking to a friend” or “baking” or “singing along to your favorite song”. Whatever it is, it’s something that always manages to cheer you up and put a smile on your face. But in that moment, you’re not motivated to do these things that usually feel so good. You just feel like you can’t bring yourself to even try! 

Most people get that every once in a while. (And if you struggle with depression, schizophrenia or PTSD, you likely feel that way quite often.)

It’s a bad circle: Your low mood makes it difficult to do the very things that could lift you out of the low mood!  

We tend to tell ourselves it’s best to just wait it out and wait until the motivation comes back to us - but that actually makes the circle go on and on: You feel bad and don’t do things, then you feel bad because you’re not doing anything pleasurable, so you feel even worse, feel even less like doing anything… 

The best advice for that situation? “Do it anyway”. 

Yep, that’s very easy to say and very hard to do. It’s difficult to force yourself to do stuff. It’ll likely feel like a waste of time and energy at first - but it’s worth it in the long run. 

If you feel low and still do that thing, you’re breaking out of that circle. Even if you don’t get any happiness out of it right away, your mood will improve over time - the human brain wants to do things. It wants a sense of achievment, even if that achievment is “I sang my favorite song, even though I felt pretty miserable”. 

You’ll also often find that forcing yourself to start is the worst part - once you’re actually doing it, it doesn’t feel nearly as “ugh” anymore as your anhedonia convinced you it would.  

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom 

PS: And what if it doesn’t help? Well, even if you still feel like crap after baking cookies, you still get to eat cookies. If you still feel ugh after reading a book, you still ticked off a book on your to-read list. In a year it won’t matter anymore that you felt miserable while doing it - but it will matter that you continued to live instead of putting your life on hold. 

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You can always start again. Clean out your social media. Create a new account for your new taste in music. Study or work in a new city. Start socialising with new people. Choose a new signature scent and style and purge the outdated parts of yourself. If you don’t like where you’re at, but you don’t know what to do about it - try starting again.

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“Someone told me the other day that he felt bad for single people because they are lonely all the time. I told him that’s not true. I’m single and I don’t feel lonely. I take myself out to eat, I buy myself clothes. I have great times by myself. Once you know how to take care of yourself, company becomes an option and not a necessity.”

— Keanu Reeves

#WHAT A MAN #quotes

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20% is better than 0%.

Brushing your teeth at least once every day is better than none at all.

A few hours of sleep is better than none.

A few minutes outside for fresh air is better than none.

Writing a few paragraphs of the essay today is better than procrastinating till later.

Doing something is better than nothing (of course there is exception for some cases).

Do things at a pace which makes you comfortable whilst allowing you to make progress.

You can do this!

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08/21/19 // gentle reminder // ig

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i don’t know who needs to hear this but you don’t like him as much as you think you do & he doesn’t like you like you want him to

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when i was depressed those “reasons not to kill yourself” lists never helped.. maybe they do for some people but for me they actually made me feel worse. it was like….here’s a reminder that there are all these things other people find joy in that you can’t. with a sprinkle of guilt because “your family/friends will miss you.”

what i needed to hear, and so what i’ll tell any of you reading this who are in the same situation, was: a lot of people recover from mental illness and go on to live full lives. it’s quite likely that with treatment, a time will come when you won’t want to die anymore and you’ll find joy in everyday life. yes, you. stay alive for that possibility.

#yea i always thought they were a little dumb oof

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Honestly the best piece of advice I can give to younger girls trying to figure life out is to completely ignore men. I’m not being quirky or cute when I say that, I mean it seriously. Ignore men’s judgments of you, ignore their insincere compliments, ignore their half-assed romance. Focus on developing yourself. Practice your art, play sports, do theater, volunteer, spend time with your friends, but do not put substantial effort into pleasing men. They’ll be there for you to pursue when the time comes and if you want to. But nothing will waste your youth more than fighting for male acceptance.

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listen. cut off your hair. cut off all your damn hair. do you ever hear a man wondering if he’s too ugly to have short hair? no!!! there is no such thing as too ugly to have short hair. if you don’t want your hair, just cut off your hair. it feels so so so good. 

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instagram.com/lettershoppe

“Take the pressure off. There is nothing wrong with you. It’s ok to not be happy all the time.“

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i love it when things stop bothering you. like two months ago i was totally bitter about so many things and now im like “u know what i don’t even care” & that’s a beautiful feeling

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let love in. believe compliments. be vulnerable and soft-hearted. tell people you love that you love them. see beauty in everyday things. live life like you’re in a movie. don’t be afraid to begin again.