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I wanna be your boyfriend, I wanna be your boyfriend! I wanna go on walks with you, I wanna have long talks with you!

Some adrino cause why not. lyrics from I Wanna Be Your Boyfriend by Hot Freaks :)

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when is comes to asexuality and aromanticism you have to be okay with contradiction. one ace person will say asexuality is about not experiencing attraction, another will say it’s about not caring to act on attraction, another will say it’s not experiencing arousal. one aromantic will consider themself queer, one won’t. two people with seemingly identical experiences will use two different labels. aro people will be in romantic relationships, ace people will have sex. you get it.

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still thinkin’ about how the Harsh Heart names you Hero, while Soft names you Quiet.

Like– your role in the story vs your nature as a god

When you take the blade, you accepted the role narrator gave you and became ‘The Hero’ of the story. When you don’t, you reject that role and only present yourself to the princess as you are. ‘Quiet.’

And there’s the Stranger, who doesn’t give you a name at all. You two already know who you are and what you mean to each other, even more so now that you’re at the end of the game, there’s is no need to confine yourselves to words.

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There was no beauty in what we did to each other. And now there is no beauty in me.

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Finally finished an animation I've spent around 2 months on

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Caption: [A stitch with user @/sapphicyuji. The text on screen reads, " "you can't misgender cis people!", you have never had your gender questioned outside of your transness and it shows. sincerely, a trans poc".

I'm actually super glad we're having a conversation about this. The masculinization of black and brown women, because for years I felt like I endured this unique form of trauma until I realized other people went through the same thing too. And if there's one thing that I'd like to add to the conversation, there seems to be this misconception that this is something that starts at puberty. Like boys tell you you look like a man to hurt your feeling when that's so far from the case.

The first time I was purposefully misgendered was in kindergarten. I was constantly referred to by the masculine variant of my name, I was chased out of the women's restroom, and I had grown adults questioning what my biological sex was before I even knew what the difference was. And those behaviors persisted into adulthood because now if I present as anything less than 100% feminine, people will either compare me to men or animals.

And for myself and for many other brown and black women this is a life long act deliberately intended to humiliate, shame, and other us for the features we were naturally born with and I'm glad we're having a discussion on how harmful it actually is.]

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I dunno. What do you want to do?

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Going Beast mode

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we are so ableist about memory. people with good memory take for granted the fact that they can recall as much as they can, and use that to taunt, guilt and threaten people with memory issues. many neurotypes and mental illnesses cause memory lapses. traumatic brain injuries can cause memory lapses. brain cancer can cause memory lapses.

even if your memory is good, it's not right to guilt someone because they can't remember something. trust me, people with memory problems are desperately trying to remember: it's just that we literally can't. it is a very literal "i can't remember".

#'if it were important to you you would have remembered' #hey real quick question for you how do you feel about mentally/neurologically disabled people #*pulls out a gun* #answer quickly

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Can someone tell me where these feminine trans guys with massive tits who wear push-up bras and skimpy outfits that I keep seeing transphobes complain about are? I’d love to see massive tboy boobs.

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this post is for you. yes, you! you are so deserving of a good, happy, content life. you are so strong and resilient, and i am proud of you. you will make it through all this hardship and come out the other side doing better than ever.

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Over the years, I have noticed a troubling conflict in the way people speak about disorders and disabilities which are different from their own.

"You don't have tics, you have Munchausen's"

"You don't have DID, you have schizophrenia"

"You're not chronically ill, you're just a narcissist"

This sentiment that you cannot have xyz disorder, are lying or "insane", and must truly have this other disorder instead.

It is as if there are the Good Disorders; those which are Morally Correct to have; those which you are subjected to; those which make your life harder, and the Bad Disorders; those which are Morally Wrong to have; those which you deserve to have; those which make other peoples' lives harder. And so, there is this idea that those with the Bad Disorders attempt to trick others into believing they actually have the Good Disorders, and that this must be called out and these people shamed and exorcised so as to not taint the purity of those with the Good Disorders.

It is what is behind this common demand of "You must acknowledge you have The Bad Disorder and seperate yourself from those of us with The Good Disorder, or else you will further our oppression, harm us, steal our resources, and spread lies about our disorder."

And then I realized, it is that a lot of people believe that Good People have Good Disorders and Bad People have Bad Disorders.

Good People have disorders such as PTSD, anxiety, depression; Bad People have disorders such as personality disorders, bipolar, schizophrenia.

And so, Bad People cannot have Good Disorders. I feel that this also ties into ideas of what "victims of disability/abuse" look like, and the idea of the Good Victim; this idea that in order to be truly victimized, you must be entirely and wholly pure behaviorally, emotionally, physically, racially, and sexually, or else you are considered to be deceitful and deserving of abuse and disability. Those who are "truly" victims are those who are deemed to fully reject their abuse and disability, and who are also deemed to be wholly pure and good.

For those who are held up as Good Victims [of disability/abuse], it is said that they deserve support, justice, and healing. For those who are decided to be Bad Victims [of disability/abuse], it is said they deserve isolation, institionalization, violence, and perhaps even death.

Even within communities for specific disorders, there are the Good Symptoms and the Bad Symptoms, and it is a common sentiment that those with the Bad Symptoms must not truly have the disorder; to imply otherwise would risk the purity of the disorder (or, if it is a "Bad Disorder", it damages the possibility of the disorder someday moving into a Good Disorder status).

This entire structure relies on deeply ingrained ableist ideals and concepts of morality, purity, and dis/ability. It keeps us divided from each other and damages attempts at community.

Dismantling ableism requires supporting each other; when we perpetuate the idea that other disabled people are lying about their disability, that they are not who or what they claim to be, and that they require immediate curative interventions in order to not harm others, we reinforce ableist ideas and stereotypes about disabled people within our communities.

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i can never write a soulmates au cause i very quickly stop thinking about romance and start thinking about the sociological implications of a world where soulmates are a confirmed verifiable thing

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i’ve been ruminating not processing. i didn’t even know the difference.

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A bit of a controversial thing, but I really don’t think I would ever want / enjoy people treating the members of our system as entirely different individuals and completely different people to be honest. I’d like us to be RESPECTED as individuals, but I think going through life where people assume we are all 100% different people would be really difficult for how I live and how our system works.

If people were to ignore that we are all technically one system, I find that it would probably be very very hard for people to understand when one alter is trying to speak up for another or give the inherent respect that “This alter is not a different person scolding me, it is a part of a whole that is speaking up for another part that can not.”

I’m on the stance of “respect how systems want to be treated” because while I don’t think it is necessarily *healthy* to treat parts as 100% complete individuals, that is my opinion and it is not at all my place to rush people into my definition of healing nor rush their healing; but I personally would find it distressing

How our system works relies heavily on parts relying on each other to help one another and help communicate for one another, and with the idea of people externally seeing us as completely separate, it throws a wrench into the function.

I very much appreciate that our fiance / friends that know us as a system welcome parts when they are out, don’t tell them they are just a part and let them be themselves and exist as an individual - but when it comes to talking about issues, venting, navigating interpersonal conflict, establishing boundaries and just understanding our interactions internally and externally as a system - they also keep in mind that we are a unit - a whole; that sort of treatment is VERY important to our healing and creating understanding relationships

Again, I’m really not going to sit here and be like WOW YOU HAVE TO FOLLOW THIS WAY or anything cause god does policing the internet and a whole bunch of strangers sounds pretty exhausting, but this is just a few thoughts on it myself.

-Riku (Host)

#this is a lot like how we think about it!! #we're individuals but we're also not entirely separate #it's not as clear cut as a lot of people like to think it is #we are very different and also we're the same

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Okay @indigochromatic was joking with me about it cause I was talking about this post with them since I went "lol not about syscourse but totally true about syscourse" (screenshotting rather than reblogging casue the original post is not about syscourse and I don't want to curse OP with it)

But one of the largest reasons syscourse is dumb and I groan in confusion anytime either says "the other side denys facts and science" is cause yall are always treating academics like there is the Holy Truth to these sorts of answers and that if you find the most educated professor / researcher on the topic, that you will find The Fact and Truth According to Science about DID / plurality / syscourse

When in reality, most psychologist and researchers are literally five seconds away from strangling eachother over questions like "do we really have a consciousness / identity or does it just SEEM like we have a consciousness / identity" and "do we actually forget things or do we just think we forget things because we can't find them"

If they're over here trying to gnaw eachothers faces off over the debate if identity is real or if / how we forget things, do you guys REALLY think there is a "one holy truth" about DID / plurality out there in any significant way that yall can really be calling one another "unscientific" for taking a different perspective

And if you don't believe me, I invite yall to enjoy the rabbithole of researching modern research into consciousness / identity and forgetting / memory. It's genuinely a really fun rabbithole to get down and honestly a much more enjoyable one to discuss than "whether or not endogenics are real or not"