sololosabelaluna

[sololosabelaluna]

a lesser woman would’ve lost hope, a greater woman wouldn’t beg, but i looked to the sky and said PLEASE

#yeah..

[sololosabelaluna]

In another life, I would’ve enjoyed watching 1980s Top of the Pops reruns on a Friday night with you.

#we don't need to be doing this #it is literally Not necessary #jesus. #all of us strangers

[sololosabelaluna]

Do you ever think about “I found you. I found you” “I don’t want you to see my like this. In there” “you’re not in there you’re not in there you’re here. With me” and how that hits so hard and it’s still gonna hit so hard when you come back to this movie in like 10 years. Just one of those instant classics

#i Don't want to think about it actually #all of us strangers

[sololosabelaluna]

You promise me that you're gonna try with this Harry boy. I'd have liked him. I know it. He might need a bit of taking care of, mind you. He's got such a sad face [...] I hope you make each other a bit happier.

#the caption. #I'm going to walk into the ocean #all of us strangers

[sololosabelaluna]

i am so so curious to know what your thoughts on all of us strangers are! i went in really excited and left violently angry (but also have a lot of experiences that are too close to the content of the movie to have enjoyed it, looking back on it). if you loved it, i would love to know why, bc i respect your media opinions & would like to perhaps be wrong about my reaction lol

I really loved it, but I don’t think you’re wrong in your reaction. I think sometimes we have to interrogate if our negative feelings towards art are informed by sexism/racism/other prejudice but other than that, other than knee jerk biased reactions I don’t think our emotional response to art can ever be wrong. There are plenty of well constructed movies that just aren’t for me.

In any case, to me all of us strangers was such a beautiful and cathartic story. We meet Adam and he is so stunted and held back by his parents’ death and tbh by growing up gay in the 80s/90s. He misses that first moment of connection with Harry and for the rest of the movie he’s healing his child self through getting to visit with his dead parents, which then allows him to heal his adult self through this relationship with Harry. And that’s the journey to me.

So yes there’s a twist and they don’t get to be together but for me it’s all about that exchange “why did no one find me?” “I found you. I found you.” Adam goes from being the one who relies on Harry to take care of him to being the carer, to being able to laugh and smile despite what’s happened and offer Harry comfort and love. I feel like we leave the movie absolutely certain that Adam is now a person that is able to be open and find love and that Harry got to be truly loved and the center of someone’s universe before he left this world.

Like it’s truly a movie that uses magical realism to let its main character live out not one but two missed opportunities. And then it says, you can change someone’s life through intimacy even if you aren’t together forever. You can fundamentally change and save someone even if it’s sad, even if it’s not a traditionally “happy” ending. Also only gay people get to have this straight people wouldn’t understand

#yeah yeah #god this almost made me tear up again #also yes to the last sentence. I don't think straight people will ever get this 100 percent #all of us strangers

[sololosabelaluna]

ALL OF US STRANGERS (2023)

#..... #all of us strangers

[sololosabelaluna]

all of us strangers (2023), adam & harry / portrait of a boy with grief, wale ayinla / sonnet of the wreath of roses, federico garcia lorca / an oresteia, anne carson / dancing with ghosts, hania rani & patrick wilson / every poem is a child of love, marina tsvetaeva / meditation: my grief, the sun, sanna wani

#all of us strangers #that particular brand of loneliness that comes with being queer. this movie hit in a lot different places

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All of Us Strangers (2023) dir. Andrew Haigh

#all of us strangers

[sololosabelaluna]

All of Us Strangers (2023) dir. Andrew Haigh

#so fucking sad god #all of strangers #also paul mescal stop playing devastatingly (and s*****l) sad characters challenge!

[sololosabelaluna]

Paul Mescal & Andrew Scott in All of Us Strangers (2023)

#wanna d*e actually #all of us strangers

[sololosabelaluna]

"I'd always felt lonely, even before. This was a new feeling, like.. a terror, that I'd always be alone now. And then, as I got older, that feeling just solidified. Just a knot, here, all the time. And then losing them, it just got tangled up with all the other stuff about being gay, and just feeling like the future doesn't matter. Does that make sense?"

All of Us Strangers (2023) dir. Andrew Haigh

#I was scared about him the whole time #and then. #all of us strangers

[sololosabelaluna]

PAUL MESCAL & ANDREW SCOTT All of Us Strangers (2023) dir. Andrew Haigh — You're here. With me.

#all of us strangers #I really have so many thoughts but nothing coherent to say

[sololosabelaluna]

All of Us Strangers (2023)

#no. #all of us strangers

[sololosabelaluna]

ALL OF US STRANGERS (2023) dir. Andrew Haigh

"I’ve been thinking about you a whole heap today. Was thinking about watching crappy TV with you on a Friday night. Eating take-away on your sofa. Watching old episodes of Top of the Pops from before I was born."

#all of us strangers #just. yeah

[sololosabelaluna]

All Of Us Strangers (2023) dir. Andrew Haigh

It’s very different now. It’s all very different.

#this part... #god. #all the conversations with the parents. don't want to think about it #all of us strangers

[sololosabelaluna]

ANDREW SCOTT as Adam & PAUL MESCAL as Harry All of Us Strangers (2023) dir. Andrew Haigh

#don't want to think about it honestly #I need to find that one interview now that I watched the movie #all of us strangers

[sololosabelaluna]

All of Us Strangers (2023)

#all of us strangers