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[sysmemes]

(I did know a decent amount I think but . I forgor ❤️)

Anyways if you have any resources you found helpful for understanding ANPs and EPs I’d love to check them out 👀

On the same note as your last post on the ToSD, I feel like pwCDDs who "don't apply" to the theory, feel like they don't apply because "apparently normal" and "emotional" are charged words and can be heavy to use, in a way. Like, our trauma holders are EPs in the interpretation of what an emotional part is, but they don't feel like they are emotional, so we don't use EP for them. Same with our hosts, or alters who don't remember the trauma, or alters who function better than everyone else, or in general everyone else who fit into what an ANP is but don't feel like they are apparently normal.

I don't know, it seems obvious to say this lmao but I think a lot of people with a CDD don't want to use ToSD terminology, and it's fine to use a different terminology just like parts/people language, you do you. But they also don't research what the ToSD actually says, they just assume "oh emotional part means they act like a child and have a chronic nervous breakdown going on" or "oh apparently normal part means they are so well adjusted and can't have problems ever"

^^^

Lord knows I’m at fault of this too. I need to look more into the ToSD as well. It wasn’t until within the last year that I started looking into what EP and ANP actually meant due to a friend of mine explaining that I didn’t actually need to ID with those labels.

So much of these communities are determined to make everything a label, and lord knows I’ve struggled with that too.

#sysmemes and friends #thick book vs thin book meme #i feel like this isn’t rlly how this meme is used generally but oh well lmao

[sysmemes]

[ID: A painting of two men clasping hands, only one very muscular arm and the side of the torso is visible for each man. The man on the left has dark skin and is wearing a grey shirt. He is labeled “Buddhism Practices”. The man on the right has tan skin and is wearing a red shirt. He is labeled “DID Terminology”. Where their hands meet is labeled “Stolen by Tulpas”. End ID]

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It is everything ❤️

@sysmemes is this anything?

#sysmemes and friends #steve austin drinking several beers at once meme

[sysmemes]

I’m not good at explaining things but I think what OP of the reblog was trying to say is:

3 alters fusing makes them only 1 alter. fusion is final and can’t be undone. a fusion can’t unfuse into the beginning 3 alters, so listing 3 alters and then saying “here’s a fourth alters who’s a fusion of the first 3 alters” isn’t possible.

I don’t know if I agree with them or not but I hope that helps make more sense than what they said

Oh no I understand perfectly what they meant, though it was absolutely not clear from their original vaguepost that everyone was replying to.

I don’t know (and tbh don’t care) if it’s possible. I imagine frequent fusings and splittings could be possible. I imagine three alters usually confronting or blurring together could also appear the same as “these three fuse into one alter sometimes”. Far be it from me to say what is and isn’t possible with CDDs.

My problem is far less with whether or not they think it’s possible, my problem with them is that they immediately resorted to calling people cunts and being overly aggressive the second anyone disagreed with them, threatened to maul someone, and got pissy at people who didn’t understand their poorly worded vagepost. Also not a fan of them trying to use the disorder that literally everyone else in the conversation has as an excuse and saying I should be compassionate towards them while refusing to show a shred of compassion for anyone else. Also very telling that they are aware of themself enough to go “I’m not in my right mind right now” and instead of using that self awareness to do anything to make it better, they try to use it as a shield against criticism while doubling down on what they’ve said. Essentially, “I’m aware my behavior is unacceptable and caused by me not being at my best, but I stand fully by what I’ve said and done, you all just aren’t allowed to be mad at me!”

Genuinely, I hope they log off and take some time to get grounded. Ideally, I hope they stay logged off until they are responsible enough to handle social media. I do not wish them harm, I genuinely hope they get a handle on things. It would be great if they acknowledged their behavior was unacceptable, but I truly don’t expect them to. I’m sympathetic to how mental illness affects your behavior and emotions, but it does not absolve them of any responsibility for their actions and I do not feel obligated to respond super nicely to the things they were saying.

#ill edit with the correct pronouns if i can find them but i’m on mobile rn so it might take a hot sec #not a sysmeme #askbox #not mad at you anon to be clear!

[sysmemes]

“your honor im literally neurodivergent and a minor!” vibes tbh

#reblogs are off on that post so this gets its own post #drake meme #like the audacity to whine and say people should be more compassionate to you #while refusing to show any compassion towards anyone else 😭

[sysmemes]

I think it’s time for you to log off ❤️

"this is my alter (x) theyre a fusion of three of my other alters" thats not how that WORKS

#clownification meme

[sysmemes]

On the first day of syscourse my true love gave to me: anon hate in my inbox

On the second day of syscourse my true love gave to me: two headmates dating, and anon hate in my inbox

On the third day of syscourse my true love gave to me: three fantasy models, two headmates dating, and anon hate in my inbox

On the fourth day of syscourse my true love gave to me: four DNI beaches, three fantasy models, two headmates dating, and anon hate in my inbox

On the fifth day of syscourse my true love gave to me:

fiiiive origin labels

four DNI beaches, three fantasy models, two headmates dating, and anon hate in my inbox

On the sixth day of syscourse my true love gave to me: six fakes-a claiming,

fiiiive origin labels

Four DNI beaches, three fantasy models, two headmates dating, and anon hate in my inbox

On the seventh day of Christmas my true love gave to me: seven traum-a dumpings, six fakes-a claiming,

FIIIIVE ORIGIN LABELS

Four DNI beaches, three fantasy models, two headmates dating, and anon hate in my inbox

On the eighth day of syscourse my true love gave to me: eight par-agenics, seven traum-a dumpings, six fakes-a claiming,

FIIIIVE ORIGIN LABELS

Four DNI beaches, three fantasy models, two headmates dating, and anon hate in my inbox

On the ninth day of syscourse my true love gave to me: nine numbered alters, eight par-agenics, seven traum-a dumpings, six fakes-a claiming,

FIIIIVE ORIGIN LABELS

Four DNI beaches, three fantasy models, two headmates dating, and anon hate in my inbox

*pants for breath....*

Onnn...the tenth day of syscourse my true love gave to me: ten research papers, nine numbered alters, eight par-agenics, seven traum-a dumpings, six fakes-a claiming,

FIIIIVE ORIGIN LABELS

Four DNI beaches, three fantasy models, two headmates dating, and anon hate in my inbox

On the (why the fuck did I decide to do this Jesus Christ) eleventh day of syscourse my true love gave to me: eleven headmate sellers, ten research papers, nine numbered alters, eight par-agenics, seven traum-a dumpings, six fakes-a claiming,

five origin labels

Four DNI beaches, three fantasy models, two headmates dating, and anon hate in my inbox

On the twelfth day of syscourse my true love gave to me: *inhales* twelve ableist comments eleven headmate sellers ten research papers nine numbered alters eight par-agenics seven traum-a dumpings six fakes-a claiming five origin labels four DNI breaches three fantasy models two headmates dating *inhales*

And anon hate in my innnnnboooooxxxxx

#not a sysmeme #this is so fucking funny

[sysmemes]

wild 2 me the whole “anti endos fake claim trauma and say that certain traumas aren’t bad enough to cause DID!!!!!!!” shit bc outside of Certain Subreddits, i’ve just never seen an anti endo say anything close to that. I tend to hear more “actually it’s about how your trauma affected you, and possibly how much outside support you got when going through the trauma”. like. all this “trauma fakeclaiming anti endos!!!!!” seems a lot like it’s just fearmongering based on Reddit Assholes but hey. what do I know. maybe i just effectively curate my online experience 🤷

#not a sysmeme #if i’m not making sense it’s bc i’m in A Flare Up shhhhh

[sysmemes]

[Text: This user does not feel comfortable being referred to as plural.]

Like/Reblog if you save or use!

#yeah i dislike plural and multiple #sometimes even system #(for me not for anyone else ofc) #think comfort with «system» changes from alter to alter bc Ofc It Does #but i think plural and multiple are universally disliked among my parts #not a sysmeme #userbox #sysbox

[sysmemes]

Final Fusion Misinformation

You might have seen people saying something like this before: "studies find that final fusion only works 12.8% of the time." When I was pursuing final fusion, people in the community threw this 12.8% at me to try and discourage me from my desired recovery. After all, what's the point of pooling all of my time & energy into pursuing final fusion if it has such a low success rate?

Although I don't know where exactly this "low success rate" idea came from, most people I know explain that The Plural Association introduced it to them. This would make sense, because this nonprofit frequently states that final fusion has a 12.8% success rate on their webpage & resources. Here's some examples:

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Now, here's the thing:

This is at best a misquote & at worst purposeful misinformation.

The study that is linked here does not say that final fusion is only successful 12.8% of the time, or that only 12.8% of DID patients achieve final fusion.

In this study, a handful of DID clinicians are interviewed about their patients. It says that 39 patients terminated their therapy. 25.6% of those patients said that they reached a successful resolution in their therapy, they no longer needed it. 12.8% of those no longer needed therapy after full fusion, 12.8% no longer needed therapy but didn't fully fuse.

This is not a success rate. This does not say how many patients achieved final fusion. This is just a reason behind why some people left their therapy. The percentage is the same for people who did and did not achieve final fusion.

Here's the exact quote from the study:

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I have no idea how anyone can take a look at this and misconstrue the 12.8% to be about how successful final fusion is. It's possible it was just a misunderstanding, but I have trouble trusting that as The Plural Association has cited this study multiple times, including writing a whole article on it, yet continues to misconstrue final fusion as only being successful in 12.8% patients when that's just, blatantly, wrong.

Please reblog & spread this! Final fusion is horrifically stigmatized and fully fused systems are subjected to frequent harassment & misinformation about their recovery choices. It's not okay, and we should hold nonprofits like The Plural Association to better standards.

#final fusion #not a sysmeme

[sysmemes]

people are so , so mean to people with eating disorders . for no reason . it is sickening .

do not pick and choose what disorder you support .

#not a sysmeme

[sysmemes]

i love hearing about how successful disordered systems are and how they’re succeeding in life and how wonderful things are for them and how hopeful they are…

but apart of me wishes more people would give voices to those of us who can’t have that success, those of us with physical disabilities on top of our osddid, those of us who can’t go to college or can’t work or have to rely on others to survive. i want to hear more about the systems who got approved on disability and food stamps and are making it work the best they can despite everything going wrong and everyone failing them.

i can’t work, and never will be able to again because my physical disability has increased so much, and the stress is causing disruption in my system - and seeing those w osddid who are successful may be comforting for some but for me i’m desperate to see stories of those Like Me who are making it work and showing hope and showing things’ll be okay even despite these struggles.

we lost food stamps recently, but we found a clinic for the uninsured and they’re going to help me see a neurologist! it’s scary but i hope once they help me we can get back on food stamps again, and i can start trying for disability!

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#i am *positive* I didn't send this in #but holy *shit* the similarities #anyways anon u are super not alone #i hope ur neurologist visit goes well (or went well? idk how long the queue is for syscourse-confessions) #not a sysmeme

[sysmemes]

I really like to do crafts, esp. fiber arts. I don't have the photos on me, but I've made some pretty cool stuff! Recently made a friendship bracelet on a loom I made myself, and I'm getting started on a birthday present for my partner!

Syscourse Break!

Guess I'm just doing One a Week rather than every Wednesday at this point...

Hi folks!! Pos here :) I hope you're having a great week! Here's a fun question for this Friday.

What's some things you like to do outside of syscourse that you're proud of and would like to share? Let's remind everyone we're people out here!

Please no syscourse on this post! Let's all try to take a nice break!

#should get around to actually setting it up #ik once I get started i'll work on it endlessly #but getting started can be the hardest part sometimes #well. second hardest. #hardest is the end when I have to do the 'finishing it' steps #at least for some projects

[sysmemes]

"average person has 3 alters" factoid actualy just statistical error. average person has 0 alters. Polyfrag Georg, who lives in cave & has over 10,000, is an outlier adn should not have been counted

[sysmemes]

I’m guessing by your blog that you aren’t referring to Hamas killing the most Jews in one day since the holocaust, and are instead trying to call the Israeli government (or just Israelis in general?) nazis. My point was that goyim need to stop calling people/groups/etc nazis when they aren’t nazis (or facists or hate groups). In this case, you are being just as disgusting as the people I am criticizing! Criticize the Israeli government for all the horrific shit they’re doing, I sure do. But what you are doing is the exact thing I am criticizing! The exact thing you are criticizing, even! You are watering down what the nazis did and what their goals are/were in order to fit your own agenda! Get a fucking clue! Saying Jews / Israelis / the Israeli government are nazis or the new nazis is a really common antisemitic talking point on the left and I am so tired of it!

Nazis aren't an abstract boogeyman to some of us

[ID: a white man dressed in black holding a sign. The sign says "Stop comparing anti-endos to facists and Nazis holy fucking shit. End ID]

#the jews are fucking *exhausted* #missed the point meme #antisemitism tw #blocking them + anyone else who tries to argue this #and also anyone who tries to get me to debate israel/palestine #the amount of antisemitism i have faced *irl* in the past couple weeks #and the antisemitic shit I’ve heard happen to people in my community #(including someone trying to kill my fucking rabbi!!!) #is a little *too* much for me to have the patience for antisemitic leftists

[sysmemes]

I do not want to put Jewish trauma on display to prove a fucking syscourse point. I don’t want to explain how being part of a people targeted by actual facist hate groups feels. How it feels to know there is a group who wants you and your people exterminated, who nearly succeeded, and who still keep trying, and who are getting bolder and bolder and bolder. What it does to you and what it does to your community. How it affects daily life. Especially not now. I shouldn’t have to, just to get some children on the internet to stop calling everything “nazis” or “facists” or “hate groups”. So I won’t.

But you need to fucking listen to me.

It is so clear to me that facists and hate groups aren’t real to you. They get to be a fun little hypothetical for you. You don’t have to grapple with the fucking weight of what it means to be an actual target. You have the freedom to pick these terms up and play with them like toys to prove a point on the internet and never have to worry about being fucking murdered or having your community torn apart by a real facist hate group. I almost envy you, but I never want to be the type of person to treat this horror like a fucking game or a gotcha.

Words have meanings. A group of people on the internet telling you that you aren’t ✨ UwU Valid ✨ doesn’t make them a “literal facist hate group”. Grow up.

#syscourse #not a sysmeme #nazi tw #facism tw #‘you’ in this case being anyone referring to anti endos as facists or a hate group #or comparing them to nazis #but also to people making those comparisons or using those terms for *any* petty internet bullshit discourse #fuck off and fuck you

[sysmemes]

I am so fucking tired.

Nazis aren't an abstract boogeyman to some of us

[ID: a white man dressed in black holding a sign. The sign says "Stop comparing anti-endos to facists and Nazis holy fucking shit. End ID]

#man holding sign meme

[sysmemes]

Me with my pumpkin waffles <333 it only took like 3 months

did you get those waffles you wanted

no I forgor :(((((

unless I make them from scratch I probably won't be getting any for another like 2 months smh. I might have a mix at home tho . . .

#not a sysmeme