#(for some lighter fare: danielle picking up henry in ever after and just carrying him tf away on her back alkdjfl;akdsfja;dlkfj)

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i don’t know exactly how to say this in a way that comes across clearly, but i am obsessed with the idea of depicting m/f relationships in a way where the hype isn’t all on the man’s love of the woman, and how swoonworthy it is and how powerful. (this has been on my mind an awful lot lately because lost loves to lean on this, especially in season six. it’s also something that often grates on me about the office’s depiction of jim and pam even though i’m very fond of jim and pam.) i really want to see women being active in the relationship too, rather than just being the object to be pursued or worshiped or cherished or whatever the heck! not in a way that depicts women going out of their way for men who don’t reciprocate, which i think is always the go-to assumption when you talk about this kind of portrayal of a relationship. but i love the idea of women being able to make romantic gestures and acts of great love toward their male love interests in a way that is, like, considered cool and iconic in the way that so many male characters’ romantic actions toward their ladies are cool and iconic. idk how to say it. like, something that goes beyond ‘is this woman being honored nobly enough by her man, which is the sum total of all romance?’ i want the women participating tooooooooo! WHY NOT!

#dollsome's deep thoughts #now i'm trying to think of examples of this from media #but i'm sleepy and can only think of a few moments: #jane coming back to rochester at the end of JE #and lorelai singing 'i will always love you' to luke #i'm sure there are way more (but not ENOUGH) i just need to keep pondering! #(for some lighter fare: danielle picking up henry in ever after and just carrying him tf away on her back alkdjfl;akdsfja;dlkfj) #(i'm just gonna keep adding things as they occur to me) #the 10 things i hate about you letter