#* i obviously dont think being biologically related to someone means you will be closer efc

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wish i could tell people my brother died without having to dial it back to "oh not biological, his family just raised me" and lose all the sympathy they put into acknowledging the power of biological connection* vs lack of one

#his family said i was a sister to him and involved me in a lot of events after he died and it impacted me in a way i will never recover from #but i still dont feel taken seriously by people when i talk about it #like 'just get over your childhood friend' type vibes #* i obviously dont think being biologically related to someone means you will be closer efc #my grandparents died and were largely absent and i felt 1% of 1% of what losing him made me feel #idk #also sympathy may not be the right word here its hard to figure out how to phrase this lol