#also sorry if the video is really loud i'm wearing headphones and i genuinely cannot tell what volume is considered normal

[steakout-05]

ok so i was in the shower one time and my brain trailed off and i just started imagining what if the Enterprise got a distress signal that has been sent from the 21st century and when they look at it it's just stupid ancient meme shitpostery. like they think they've come across a really weird time-travelling anomaly and they put it on main viewer and they just get colossally rickrolled from 300 years in the past. it hasn't left my head for the past few days so now you must witness my vision

Data: Captain, it appears we are somehow receiving an unusual distress signal originating from the ancient year of 2024.

*Picard and Riker exchange looks*

Riker: 2024..? That's impossible.

Picard: Hm... Unusual indeed. Put it on main viewer.

Data: Aye sir.

and then the viewscreen activates and it's just this

#this post is so stupid #the thought of rickrolls still being a thing in the 24th century is extremely amusing to me #star trek tng #star trek #the next generation #star trek the next generation #captain picard #star trek shitposting #shitpost #high effort shitpost #totally not me putting like 3 hours of editing into a tumblr shitpost teehee #holyshit wait imagine deanna troi being able to sense shitpostery from another vessel #''captain i sense intense rickrolling from the other ship'' #BAHAHAHA that would be SO dumb #also sorry if the video is really loud i'm wearing headphones and i genuinely cannot tell what volume is considered normal #also also fun fact: i originally imagined this with the loss lines and data explaining that it's a symbol of ancient human shitpost culture #but that wasn't as funny as a rickroll just popping up on the viewscreen and immediately annoying picard #do you think q does this to the enterprise sometimes #waiting for the q episode where he just puts an unstoppable loop of this on their viewscreen for 10 hours and then leaves #rick astley #rickroll

[traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors]

tw for parental abuse, passive aggression,

so i'm having trouble determining if i'm a horrible person or if my dad is a little bit crappy. my mom is straight up abusive, so it's almost easier with her? btw i'm 17.

my dad was always the chill one, the one who stuck up for me, although he never fully stopped the abuse. i really cling to my relationship with my dad, bc he's like the parent I did get, you know?

he can get super passive aggressive tho. like just now, he was playing a video game and i was working in the same room. the volume on the tv was up pretty loud, and i was trying to focus, so i asked him if he could turn it down a tiny bit (that really would have been enough!) and instead he turned it off. he was smiling and stuff, saying he had to go anyway, and now he's off doing other stuff throughout the house.

he also makes music. recently he got a new keyboard, and he plays it off and on all day when he's not at work. it's frustrating bc he won't wear headphones, and almost never turns the volume down. we have a one story + basement house, and you can hear his singing and playing throughout the whole house.

and when he finishes a lot of times he'll be like, "sorry, i hope i wasn't bothering you" even though me and my sibling have mentioned quite a few times that you can hear it anywhere in the house. he still asks every single time.

and the video game thing where he completely stops doing something that you just asked him to do quietly or less obtrusively or something happens a lot. even my mom gets frustrated when he plays music while she's starting to go to sleep, bc he should know that she can hear it when she's not fully out yet.

i love the things my dad does, his hobbies and his gift giving and stuff, and i honestly hate to hurt his feelings, but i feel like if i have a single thing to ask of him he goes overboard and it makes me feel like a shitty person. am i?

Hi anon,

Regarding your dad being passive aggressive when for example turning the TV off when you just ask him to turn it down, it's possible that he doesn't intend to be passive aggressive with these actions. Perhaps he believes he's being courteous? Some people are very all or nothing when it comes to things, and asking him to be quieter may just not be something he can manage, so maybe he turns it off instead out of respect for you. But again he could also be giving off signs of being passive aggressive as well.

As someone whose dad is a musician, I'm having a hard time understanding the issue with him playing the keyboard. While I think it's fair to ask him to use headphones while playing, I'm wondering if there's any particular reason why the sound of him making music is bothersome. I would understand if maybe you have to study or you just like quiet, but it's not necessarily realistic to have silence in a house multiple people are living in. While I don't think you should feel kicked out of your home, if you have a local library or another quiet space you could go to, perhaps even outside depending on where you live, those could be good alternatives. You could even potentially invest in some headphones or earplugs for noise cancellation.

I think it's possible you may be experiencing symptoms of misophonia. Misophonia basically is the opposite of ASMR, where certain sounds like chewing, typing, clicking, sniffling, etc. cause an extreme adverse reaction, whether it be rage, disgust, discomfort, or something else.

Ultimately, if you trust you dad to have a genuine conversation with you, I think you should sit down with him and talk about what you notice (passive aggressive behavior, noise at inconvenient times of day) and what you would like different, and see if you can find some middle ground or compromise. But also considering that "he goes overboard" if you "have a single thing to ask of him" I'm not sure if that would work. The dynamic that you cannot ask anything of him without him overreacting (if I'm understanding what you mean correctly) does sound manipulative.

I don't think you're a shitty person and I don't think it should hurt his feelings to politely discuss things he does that bother you. Even if it would hurt his feelings, I don't think you should necessarily protect his feelings. Sometimes part of bringing something important up is hurt feelings, but that shouldn't dissuade you from bringing it up.

Hope I could help. We're here for you.

-Bun

#mod bun #trauma talks #abuse