#also what are the fucking polygender people supposed to do

[problemnyatic]

so does putting "men dni" in your shit actually reduce the number of shitheads you get or does it just filter out the dudes who actually care about boundaries in the first place

#also what are the fucking polygender people supposed to do #do you just not want to have to deal with complicated genders?? or does my being a woman sufficiently ''invalidate'' my masculinity enough #because if that's how it is go fuck yourself all the way to hell #do you think men are just born nasty? or universally raised to be no exceptions? what do you think about trans men #look. you're allowed to curate your online experience however you want. I can't stop you #but the ways in which you do so say a lot about how you think about others #i understand that a lot of men get real fuckin nasty in asks and dms and whatever. I'm compassionate to that. #but do those kinds of men even give a shit about dnis??? #have you never been sexually harassed by a woman? i sure fucking have #I just don't fucking get it #i'm extremely nonbinary and deeply frustrated #thanks for letting me know i'm either inherently nasty to you or that pieces of me ''don't count'' for you to hate me. how fucking kind. #problemnyatic discourse #problemnyatic thoughts

[latefrequencies]

ok so if i'm going to be honest.....this is silly as hell but one of the big reasons i feel a little conflicted abt what to call myself, identity-wise, whether i'm gay or mspec or whether that matters? is because i've become rly rly attached to the gay man pride flag because it's one of the few things i can use to indicate both my (partial) gender and orientation at the same time and that doesn't just suggest attachment to a community (like i like the rainbow flag and everything but it doesn't communicate much other than that i'm part of the LGBT community or potentially that i'm a straight ally, which i'm not but i'm thinknig from the perspective of putting pins on my jacket or wearing bracelets with pride flags on them as easy ways to quickly communicate things to people, and i've seen straight allies who wear rainbow stuff and as a person who often gets read as female and is very visibly and publicly in a relationship with a person who usually gets read as male, it would be easy for people to draw the conclusion that that was the case for me, and i don't want them thinking that bc it's not true. granted they shouldn't be thinking that at all for bi erasure reasons but in my case i don't want them getting the idea that i'm opposite-gender-attracted bc I'm Not)

idk pride flags mean things to me in a way that they probably shouldn't but i'm just really into symbolism and the idea of things being created that very specifically mean a specific thing, and if you're in on it then you're in on it and if you're not in on it then that information maybe isn't for you but if you do know then that's a cool thing. polyromantic is the only mspec term that would apply to me (technically i could call myself bi but i don't want to for the reason that most people interpret it as involving attraction to at least one gender that the person in question doesn't identify as, and that's simply not the case for me.) but it's also hard for me to communciate that bc i can't say polysexual bc i'm asexual, and polyromantic sounds too much like polyamorous, a thing i (afaik) am not and that i don't want to take time explaining. i can't call myself "poly" bc that literally means polyamorous and i know people on the internet write polysexual/polyromantic as "ply" but that's also an odd thing to describe yourself as out loud.

that said i do kinda like the "poly" part of it bc i'm also polygender, like that's the word i identify with (as well as genderfluid bc that's how the polygenderedness sometimes works but also i'm sometimes more than one gender at once so yeah polygender). so it's like "yeah i'm [word]gender and [word]romantic". it gives the impression of sameness in a way that a lot of word combinations wouldn't. and i'm not going to get into it but a lot of gay male culture really really alienates me so

idk. maybe i'm going to fuck around and identify as ply. i have identified as almost every identity under the sun (within my life experience of course, no stealing from other people's cultures or anything like that but you know what i mean) during my 13-ish years as an at-least-partially-out LGBT person, so this isn't my first rodeo so to speak and i know that labels only have to last as long as they need to, so hell. ply it is for the time being i suppose

#this has been a self related post