#also while we're at it: 'I would rather die than be incontinent' and 'kill me if I start needing to wear diapers'

[obstinatecondolement]

I hope that temporarily abled people in my generation are not going to be Like That wrt being too proud to acknowledge our physical limitations when we're all disabled because we were lucky enough to live long enough to get arthritis and macular degeneration and trouble balancing like my grandparents' generation are(/were, I guess, as I am down to the one living grandparent).

Like, can all of us who do not currently need to use mobility aids promise each other right now that we won't refuse to use them and endanger ourselves if and when we do need to use them? Being disabled is not shameful and internalised ableism is not anything to be proud of. And I promise you it is worse to fall and break your hip and then die six months later than it is to use a stick and have a shower seat.

#ableism cw #internalised ableism cw #death mention cw #also while we're at it: 'I would rather die than be incontinent' and 'kill me if I start needing to wear diapers' #are not cool things to say because guess what? #some people are incontinent and their lives are worthwhile and precious and they are not inherently undignified #or better off fucking dead??? #(which is a subtext I think we could be forgiven for hearing in 'kill me if I ever poop myself') #and y'know you probably would prefer to live if you did start to have those issues too #because most people do after they pass that fucking rubicon #like really and truly: having to carry a spare change of underwear is not worse than death lol