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friendsgwssanalysis · 3 years

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S7E22: “The One with Chandler’s Dad”

In our analysis, we chose the 90′s show ‘Friends’ as we figured it would have a great deal of the norms from that time. As it is a comedy, we thought this show would do a good job of demonstrating how sexuality, gender, and race were at the time it was created. This comedic series was created in the 90′s and was based in Manhattan. The ongoing theme of this series is the relationship between the six main characters. Noticeably, every episode is a different event in which the characters must overcome or embrace experiences such as love, marriage, children, divorce, breakups, and much more. The creator of this show is David Crane, who before, created the show ‘Dream On’ also based in Manhattan and dealt a great deal with sexuality.

In season 7, episode 22 of Friends, named “The One With Chandler’s Dad”, the main character Chandler Bing (played by Matthew Perry) is proposed to the idea of inviting his transgender dad to his wedding. Alongside this ordeal, Joey Tribbiani (played by Matt LeBlanc) is having trouble with his masculinity. To top this episode off, stereotypes are being thrown at Rachel Green (played by Jennifer Aniston) throughout the majority of this episode. Through this show, it is known that the cast is predominantly white with failure to incorporate even one person of color in the episode I chose. The characters are portrayed in almost an adolescent manner though they are all well grown and adults.

Throughout this show, and in this episode, in particular, the concept of gender identity isn't very broad and is in some ways discriminatory. With that said, this show, unlike many from this time, does incorporate different types of genders, which weren't represented in that time very often. For instance, In season 7, episode 22 of Friends, Chander is faced with the dilemma of whether or not he should invite his transgender dad to his wedding, and is very clear to his fiance Monica Geller (Courtney Cox) that he is embarrassed and traumatized by the fact that his father is transgender and a drag queen. He describes his childhood to Monica and states that he has been disregarding his dad for years. Furthermore, when faced with seeing his dad perform, he is unable to watch and attempts to leave. However, this episode ends with Chandler inviting his father to his wedding. Although this episode ends with him inviting his father to his wedding, it demonstrates a taboo relationship and representation of transgender people in general, providing the notion that it is hard to accept a transgender person for who they are, and easier to disregard them. In contrast, Joey has a conversation with Phoebe Buffay (Lisa Kudrow) after he notices her significant other wearing her underwear, and goes on to state how he feels weird about it and thinks it’s an odd thing to do. Phoebe, in response to Joey, notes that she too is wearing her boyfriend’s underwear and feels as if he only feels this way because he is less secure in his masculinity, and if he were secure, perhaps he would be more open to the idea. Joey notes that he thinks it's “hot” that Phoebe is wearing men's underwear. This is important because it in some way demonstrates the double standards in the time this show aired. I’d say a good comparison to this is in regards to lesbian couples; in society, some men find it objectively more attractive when a woman is comfortable or open to homosexual activity and sexualize it for themselves, but are not so interested in the idea when it comes to men. Angela Munoz in her article named “Double Standards Surrounding Same-Sex Relationships Disproportionately Harm Young Males”, she notes that “there is a heavy double-standard in society as a whole, and as I have also personally witnessed in school, over same-sex relationships – where female-female relationships are far more accepted and tolerated as opposed to male-male relationships.” As the episode progresses, he tries wearing women’s underwear and finds that it is much more comfortable. However, he still feels weird wearing it and out of place wearing it. In response to this feeling he is having, he tries to hit on a woman to feel more secure within himself and his masculinity. Lastly, in this episode, Rachel is upset with Ross Geller (played by Davis Schwimmer) because he allowed all of his friends but her drive his car. The writers of Benson and Bingham - Accident Injury Lawyers; LCC., they delve into the stereotype of women being inferior drivers, stating “no doubt the announcement also stirred up its share of stand-up comedy jokes trafficking in the old stereotype that women are inferior drivers”, introducing a statistic showing that man is, in fact, worse drivers than women. “The stereotype is not just old – the available data suggest that men are the greater menaces on the road. Men incur traffic citations at 3.4 times the rate of women, and they are involved in triple the number of driving under the influence arrests”. With that said, as this episode goes on, Rachel proves this statistic as when pulled over, for driving without a valid license, she is not ticketed whereas when Ross is driving- and speeding- he is given a speeding ticket. Nonetheless, Rachel uses her good looks to get out of the ticket but flirting with the officer.

This show, as discussed before, was created in a time when gender and sexual orientation was much more taboo and glorified in a comedic manner. Concerning politics today, I think shows like this created an issue regarding the LGBTQ+ community as it was used to laugh and get views on television, and much less, to create an environment where these types of situations are taken seriously. Alongside the LGBTQ+ severity, this episode does little to nothing for displaying diversity over television. As stated before, the main characters appear to be white, none being, and members of any diverse occupational groups. The lack of inclusivity for people of color was and still is a huge issue in the world of broadcasting today.

This has been my analysis for season 7, episode 22 of the comedic television series “Friends”. I hope you enjoyed!

WORKS CITED

Angela Munoz “Double Standards Surrounding Same-Sex Relationships Disproportionately Harm Young Males”, The Viking Post, March 1, 2019. https://movalvikingpost.com/2421/opinion/double-standards-surrounding-same-sex-relationships-disproportionately-harm-young-males/

“Friends- season seven, episode 22- HBO Max, https://play.hbomax.com/episode/urn:hbo:episode:GXdbTjQxLeJuAuwEAACkx?utm_id=sa%7c71700000067030777%7c58700005868654303%7cp53631644808&gclid=CjwKCAiAkan9BRAqEiwAP9X6UQh72CIZ0MyCtLy80DAP8V6O9HaqBAJ16V385lZNm_Tddh-bF7c_ABoCMncQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Benson and Bingham - Accident Injury Lawyers; LCC. “Examining the “Women Can’t Drive” Stereotype” March 25, 2019. https://www.bensonbingham.com/examining-the-women-can-t-drive-stereotype/

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steamishot · 4 years

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I wrote the following draft on Friday, but I need to start off by saying that LA is mourning right now. It was an especially eerie day yesterday. I’m not much of a sports fan, but I grew up watching the Lakers during Kobe’s era. My dad’s best friend was a huge Lakers fan, and he got my dad into it, and my dad got our family into it. My dad would place bets at the local Cambodian noodle shop during basketball season and it was always a fun time following along. In a sense, I and many LA natives grew up with Kobe. Kobe has such a huge impact on our city (at the very least). I remember going to those Vietnamese barber shops in Chinatown, and seeing little Asian boys get their hair cut. “How do you want your cut?” the barber would ask? “Like Kobe” the kids would answer.

I heard the news after going to a yoga session at the park. My friend Steph, who also attended the yoga session with me, texted me a little right after I got home with the news. I was with my brother and SIL at the time, and we were stunned (not my SIL, she didn’t know who Kobe was), waiting for the news to unravel. My dad got home five minutes later, and I thought we would be the one to tell him the news. However, his friend Andy already texted him about it. We spent the rest of that morning waiting for more updates, learning about Kobe’s life, sitting around in shock. Til now, I still feel quite sad about the tragedy. But the best we can do is thank his contribution; legends never die.

Turned 28 last week and feel old-ish haha. Recap of the last few weeks

Sis in law threw a surprise bday party for my brother’s 30th at their apartment. Some drama has been going on between them and my parents, and a lot of it can be attributed to generational differences. My SIL is young, and in biological terms, her brain isn’t fully developed yet. She had that rich girl growing up in Cambodia lifestyle, and was pretty financially comfortable, although sheltered, when she was living in SF. My brother is kinda her bitch now, and he backs her on everything. SIL has pretty expensive taste, has a financial safety net from her parents, talks ambitiously, but we haven’t seen her progress much yet. Like Katy Perry’s song “You change your mind like a girl changes clothes” – that’s descriptive of her/my brothers plans. At one point, they decided to take over her uncles business in SF. She “moved” up there, then like two weeks later, told my brother to fly up there and help her move back down. It even gave me a headache.

Celebrated Mike’s 30th bday with a bunch of people in DTF. It was a bunch of fun and the food was surprisingly good. Mike made a little speech, saying he loves everyone who was at the table. We joked about how popular he is.

Went hiking with my aunt, sis in law, the kids, and friends.

Had a birthday dinner at pasta sisters with my immediate family (including bro and sis in law). My sis in law is a generous person, and also quite materialistic. She’s fancy for her age. This is advantageous because she got me a pair of lululemon pants as a birthday gift. I rarely receive expensive presents, so I felt pretty happy about it. I’ve also been wanting a nice expensive pair of yoga pants but thought it may be too frivolous. After trying it on, I understood what the type was about. In the back of my mind, I remembered in an episode of the patriot act, Hasan mentioned that a bunch of oil is used to make synthetics, the type of material used in lulus. Update: I wore it for the first time over the weekend to a yoga class, and it felt very comfortable, although the difference is not significant enough where I would buy my own.

My coworker decorated my office space and went out of her way to get me a specific cake from Glendale. I was never really that close or comfortable with this coworker, although we are the closest in age (3 years older than me). I felt that our lifestyles didn’t really align and that we didn’t have much in common. She was on the drill team in high school, very pretty and put together, fit body, into going to festivals/partying and drinking, not very academically inclined. Our conversations barely made it past surface level topics. However, I was really touched that she went all the way to Glendale to get a cake for me, just because she knew I liked this cake specifically and that I don’t really like sweets. For everyone’s birthdays, we normally just pick something up from Ralphs across the street. After this incident, I felt myself opening my heart to her more, and made an effort to connect with her. I find that it’s easier to connect once you actively choose to “like” a person, thus, to throw away judgment and allow human to human bonding.

Went to NOLA with G, S, and L. When people ask how my trip went, I would say, “it’s really different out there.” And it really is to me. I’m not at all familiar with that area of the country. I think the charm of NOLA lies in anachronism, and on the dysfunctionality of the city. People like the freedom of the city, the friendliness of the town, and how everyone can seemingly enjoy their lives despite any hardships that come their way. Some people on the internet refer to NOLA as Neverland, or an adult Disneyland. From what I’ve read, people there are very laid-back, prioritize fun, and it might be a frustrating place if you’re a go-getter. It seems like a good place for extroverts. I, personally, think one visit is enough. I think if you don’t gamble, drink, or party, the things you can do there are limited.

Besides that, I found the topic of voodoo interesting, although I felt like the voodoo shops we visited were largely touristy- it was hard to get an authentic feel of the locals/community’s beliefs and practices of voodoo. Luckily, one of my coworkers’ family is from Louisiana, and my student worker is from Belize. The day I returned from my trip, I got to chat with them a little and learn about their culture/religion. My coworker mentioned that her grandmother would always keep her hair in a jar and burn it every so often, to prevent anyone from getting her hair strands and practicing voodoo on her. She personally flushes her hair down the toilet. My student worker talked about their need to sweep their house every day from preventing dust buildup (I believe to keep spirits away).

Celebrated CNY with family.

Matt started on his first nights rotation last Wednesday night. It was a difficult transition because he had to work from 6am until noon or so for his day shift, then be on a 12 hour night shift that same night. He had a terrible first couple days adjusting, but now is better. It just sucks that we are now on completely different time zones. I’m unable to chat with him after work because he’s on shift. He goes home and falls asleep around 6am PST, during the time that I’m still asleep. I asked him to send me a card for my birthday. Although I received it days late, I was still grateful for his gift. He wrote me a very sweet message that filled up the card. Good news is, there will be 4 interns on the rotation that he will be on when I’m in town in February. That means that he’ll have less patients, be less exhausted, and have more time for me!

I watched Awkwafina’s Nora from Queens pilot over the weekend. In the show, she plays a “loser” 27 year old who can’t hold down a job and smokes weed every day, and still lives at home with her dad and grandma. The show is supposed to be representative of her life (before her fame). I couldn’t help but feel like I’m getting too old to still be living at home, and although I’ll need to spend money on rent when I move out, it’ll be a valuable investment.

Lastly, this past year seems to be the year of friendship confrontations for me. Growing up, I was very loner-ish and introverted. The hardest thing for me to do was socialize and “be normal”. I found it difficult to relate to people and to build connections with them. When I did start making friends, I was so behind on social skills that I had difficulty deepening friendships. One thing I am grateful for in my last relationship, is that it taught me how to handle conflict with someone else. Before that, I was never confrontational to anyone outside of my family. As I’m growing up, “finding myself” more, and developing my values and what I stand for/look for in companionship, I become stronger as an individual. I’m proud that I can be more honest with my friends, and be more verbal if someone/something bothers me. I look back on a few friendships that dissipated, and it’s usually due to something petty or fixable, if both parties let their ego down and communicated. But oh well, not all friendships/relationships are worth being salvaged.

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