#and i don't say that because their hurt isnt real but because how they've chosen to react to it is. concerning. to say the least

[faelapis]

genuinely considering adding "don't follow if you're one of those people who use the term narcissist or NPD extremely loosely to basically mean anyone i see as mean, selfish or abusive in a way i can medicalize as a psychological disorder i can then think of as inherent to their very biology so i don't have to humanize them" to my about.

and no you're not exempt for this for being an abuse victim. in fact, that's a very bad way to comfort yourself. there's such an uncomfortable cocktail of ableism, othering and dehumanization in basically treating NPD as "the evil disorder" as a way to comfort / reassure yourself that whoever hurt you could never change anyway.

it's also shitty for the very simple reason that most people with NPD or other empathy-related issues are not abusers. its just that if someone does give in to their worst impulses, they're more likely to be diagnosed with NPD because they're unlikely to seek treatment on their own. for fucks sake guys. stop treating it the same way you treat scorpio in your astrology memes.

#vent / #not su related / #npd #narcissistic personality disorder #this is so prevalent lately and its. frustrating. to say the least #i tried to very gently and kindly bring this concern up with the very frustrating circlejerk that is r/narcissisticabuse #and i don't say that because their hurt isnt real but because how they've chosen to react to it is. concerning. to say the least #and btw since this seems to be necessary to say anything to these people - yes i've experienced parental abuse myself #honestly my pet theory at this point is that if you diagnose your abuser with this disorder its a good way to feel like you #definitely won't fall into the same patterns or the same self-centeredness because you're a Victim and they have the Bad disorder #and surrounding yourself with people who are only ever yes-men who validate you. which... i'm not saying it will lead to anything bad... #but it might. and it has. for some people. #just saying