#and like i love Carol (2015) Dir. Todd Haynes but I don't ship Carol and Therese!

[mrgaretcarter]

I need a pretty significant degree of commonality (both subjective and objective) between characters to ship them and I think that's why it's so hard to find f/f ships that draw me in. It's like people making media want to create the polarity that would usually be there through gender by making these women so starkly different that I just become unable to connect.

#like theres always gotta be either super different personalities or an age gap #or a power imbalance or really different experiences values and circumstances and thats just not what im about #and this isnt to say i would like that type of media to disappear because i know a lot of people enjoy that contrast #im just saying i wish that wasnt sooo much of what we have #like nearly all of it #im saying this because i saw a gifset of portrait of a lady on fire which i love #and is one of the rare instances of wlw media where the romance itself really moved me #and i remembered the céline sciamma quote about how it was important to her to have them be #as equal as she could possibly make them down to the heights #and how thats probably why i was able to connect with it so much #and like i love Carol (2015) Dir. Todd Haynes but I don't ship Carol and Therese! #anyway this is my periodic complaint about the lack of f/f friends to lovers #but like real ones not like headcanon ones although even then for most this would still apply! #ramblings #i could say a lot about how this doesnt plague m/m nearly as much and how it all circles back to misogyny but ill spare myself #but heres the thing ill still go ahead and check out anything with lesbians in it and support it and enjoy it in different ways #so this is not an excuse as to why im not contributing to wlw because i AM out there constantly searching #lest anyone think im doing a thing i hate which is people making up excuses not to care about women