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#anyway because i love oversharing on tumblr dot com: feeling very sex repulsed on this day
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trying to determine which parts of my relationship with sex are asexuality, which are trauma, and which are autism is like trying to have a conversation with three people talking loudly and all at once
#just to be clear: asexuality as a result of trauma or neurodivergency is still asexuality. full stop no debate.
#anyway because i love oversharing on tumblr dot com: feeling very sex repulsed on this day
#i was joking with some guy about fighting each other (specifically said ''you ever fight a girl over 200 lbs? id break your ribs'')
#and like three different people said something like ''well that would probably turn him on''
#and. listen. i get it. that was a joke response to my joke threat
#but what i felt in that moment and still feel now requires nothing short of academic study to understand
#first of all: how dare they make me feel embarrassed in a social setting when i was doing so well.
#secondly: why the fuck would me making a threat make them instantly think of sex
#thirdly: how fucked up is my body image that i hear that and immediately think they're all out of their minds
#i like fat women. i am personally attracted to fat women. not (usually) sexually but i do think they are very nice to look at
#so why is it so hard for me to accept that someone else could find me attractive as well !
#i think about being in a situation where a relationship and/or sex is a real possibility and i flinch like its going to hurt me
#but why???? where is this aversion coming from !!!!! i am a hopeless romantic i daydream about romance all the time
#so whats the deal here. is it subconscious bc of my asexuality and i associate romance with sex?
#is it because of my autism where i associate romance with touch and am afraid i am too unempathetic to have a chance?
#or (most likely) is it just because im so fucking scared of trusting someone that even the thought makes me nauseous
#did this all crop up from a throwaway sex joke? yes
#but people don't make sex jokes to me. people don't even pretend to allude to me being cute
#this same group of people said a few weeks ago ''at least you're pretty''
#which. is not the case!!!!!!! people do not say those things to me because they don't want to even slightly entertain that idea !!!!!!!
#and i am extremely tired of having my life upended because of this
#i have always been treated like i was ugly and teased about it and i FINALLY have managed to be okay with not being attractive
#and now that im okay with it: NOW is when the pretty jokes start. im fucking angry about it actually
#i can't be both. i cannot think of myself in terms that abstract. i am one or the other
#and this leads me to believe that people think i COULD be pretty. but the catalyst is that i am fat and therefore cannot be attractive
#which just makes me more angry!!!!!!!!!!!
#how can i be completely indifferent to sex and attraction without seeming juvenile. i don't care so so much
#but every time that sort of thing happens i feel like im 13 again and the hot jock is talking to me
#i need to be put down. something's wrong with this one (me)
#i realize i can't stop people from making sex or appearance jokes but god i wish i fucking could
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