#as someone whomst is gender fluid i use all pronouns and like

[inkskinned]

somebody else has probably def already said this but whenever ppl are like "oh no but they/them is PLURAL" im like. hi babe. we actually have a singular pronoun that gets conjugated in plurality: it's "you".

we say: "where were you? how are you? do you know my friend?"

this is not singular, which would be: "where was she? how is she? does she know my friend?"

the argument is that it's "confusing" bc what if you're trying to talk about one specific person out of a group? and i'm like... this is already the same logical problem we've always had in speech. we even run into this problem whenever there's more than 1 person with the same pronoun; where we end up saying something like "she said no, but she said yes." you probably just have to use their name or otherwise indicate whom you are speaking about.

okay but what if you're trying to say "i just met them" (singular) but it's unclear if you meant the plural "i just met them". good news. it's the same thing as "you" still. in the same way you might have to say "i just met y'all" or "i just met all of you" to mean a whole group rather than one person, you might say - "i just met them all" or "i just met all of them" or just use their fucking name if you need to.

we have complained for years that "you" can operate as a singular and plural word. you're way more used to it than you think you are, i promise. i know it takes time to get over the societal conditioning that does exist. i mess up my own fucking pronouns sometimes. it's okay. you learned how to use an iphone. you can learn this thing, too.

#got hatemail about my occasional they/them status #as someone whomst is gender fluid i use all pronouns and like #the rage about the they/them one is so fuckken funny bc im like . so sorry sir #i hadn't asked ur permission before making a change to myself that will literally never affect u as i don't interact with u #may i perform a jester dance or perhaps other kind of little jig to gain back your favor??