#black youtubers for hair tips are a godsend!

[stargirlfics]

Hi, first of all I love your writing.

Second: I was wondering if I could get help/advice? You see I'm moving in with my boyfriend next Monday, he was married before but his wife died giving birth to their baby girl who is 4 years old now. I have obviously meet the little girl and we get along well but now that I am moving in I'm not going to be "daddy's girlfriend who plays with me" like I know I'm never gonna take her mom's place but I have to act like one, I love her but problem is I am white and have only taken care of my little siblings (alwo white), the little girl is black just like her mommy and I know our skin and hair have different needs, I bought a big doll and have been practicing hairstyles that I found on youtube that are for her hair type (I am not very good at it ir but I promise I'm trying) , I just don't know what I should do like the special care of her hair or like is there something I should know before moving in? Also, I know she is struggling with accepting herself, she told my boyfriend's mom that as his dad is white and is dating a white girl maybe she isn't as pretty as she thought because her daddy isn't with someone who looks like her, that seriously broke my heart and I wanna make sure she knows she's beautiful and loved, but like I don't really know how to make her understand that, I don't even acept myself so I don't know how to teach self-love to others, love my boyfriend and I love his daughter as if she was my own and I really wanna be the best umm mommy or step mommy that I can, but I'm kinda nervous because I don't wanna ruin it.

I know you and majority of your readers are black, so girls: any advice/tip you could give me for this little girl so she can be and grow a happy girl?

Thank you!!

Hey thank you!

I think to start I want to say that your concern and care about making sure your bf’s daughter is happy and know she’s loved is a sign that your heart is already in the right place and the nervousness you feel does come from fear of ruining things or letting her down like you said but those are only fears, trust that the research you’ve done and will do and the fact that you already love her and treat her as your own will guide you in the right direction!

As for any tips I think making sure that she has visual and physical examples of toys or dolls and media and things that represent her and look like her will help and also making sure she has black friends too as she grows up bc as someone who grew up primary surrounded by white people for a long time it can be lonely and makes you feel out of place you know and I think just trying to do your best to remind her that she is pretty and loved and wonderful as she is so she starts to hear that all the time you know and when she expresses doubts about herself bc of what she looks like it’s important both you and your bf sit down with her and talk that out, let her explain in her way how she feels and what may be making her think that and do your best to reassure her

I definitely understand not being sure how to teach that to someone else when you yourself struggle with accepting yourself and practicing self love but I try to think of self love as a very long process involving mostly baby steps, it just starts with reminding and reminding and reminding your brain or another person of their worth and beauty as a person so that when their thoughts start to go negative they already have that foundation of love from parental figures or friends or what have you to fall back on and remember at those moments

I also think it’s important to know that even with that foundation you set for her, the world in general is a place that isn’t kind or welcoming to black girls in particular and it will be a battle as she grows up when she encounters experiences being in the world whether it’s about her hair to her skin to her beauty to any outright racism and micro aggressions that get internalized even from within the community and from outside as well, and just being there for her is key so she’s able to navigate those experiences knowing in the back of her mind that she’s loved and has been filled up with love since childhood which is a super vital period of time

I truly think through loving her and instilling her with as much confidence and care as possible and seeing that take hold it can also have the same affect on yourself and your own struggles with self acceptance, I really believe in loving households having that power even if it’s hard to always do that or know what to do and if it’s right, you try your best and make it a point every day to give her the care she deserves and that love and care is a collaboration between you and your man and those two positive forces can do a lot for her!

I wish you all the luck building this family! 💓💓💓

#advice #black youtubers for hair tips are a godsend!

[szns-cc]

Hi!! I’ve been playing sims for more than a year now and I decided that I want to start learning how to create my own cc (clothes,hairs,shoes,etc) and your one of my favorite cc creators 😭 and I wanted to know do you have any tips on creating cc or videos to watch for beginners?

One of my biggest tips are definitely make sure your textures are as high quality as you can get them and try to stay original/different especially when it comes to making certain things, Like if five creators made a white crop top with 2 swatches, Make a black crop top with 10 swatches. Always try to stand out! . 

I really don’t watch youtube videos on making cc because I learn better by reading instructions but I did use some things from this hair tutorial recently and am now applying it to different cc items. I suggest any problems you have try asking your favorite creators for any help and using this forum which is a godsend for me lol , I use it still as well when I get lost creating something I never created before.

Here are some links to tutorials to get you started!

accessories 

clothes

resources for shoes

Its really all a bunch of trial and error and if you ever need any help, Just slide me a dm I’m always open to giving a new creator advice 😊❣

[curlyhairedbombshells]

Ok well I'm 18 and I have really curly hair 3a-b I have no idea what I'm doing. It gets matted and terrible and I don't know what to do with it. I've thought about going to a salon who specialize in but haven't because I'm super pale(dads black) and don't know how that would go. If you have any tricks or tips or anything like that could you please help me. Please I have no idea what I'm doing and my mom didn't know so I was never taught how to have good looking "black girl hair"

Youtube is your best bet. There is so much information available there with specifics based on hair type. Just type in 3a-b hair routines and you’ll get a bunch of video with information to help you! I lived on youtube when I first went natural and it helped so much! 

Most Black salons, (which is what I'm assuming you meant by salons that specialize in curly hair) can handle any type of hair. Black women have all textures from naturally straight/relaxed straight to 4c kinky curly and experienced stylists will have worked with them all. If you don’t want to figure your hair out yourself, I promise you can find a salon that will help and they won't look at you funny because you’re light skinned. 

Tips and Tricks

My texture is a bit tighter than yours, 3c to 4a in some spots, but these tips should still help.

- Aloe vera gel mix with your conditioner to detangle. This cut my detangling time down to less than an hour. It’s a godsend!

- detangle with a paddle brush or wide-tooth comb starting at the ends and working your way up.

- moisturize with products who FIRST ingredient is water.

- deep condition at least once a week

- minimal use of bleaches/dyes/heat

- regular trims (6-8 weeks unless you’re growing it out)

- Add a leave-in conditioner to your routine, a cream for styling and a spray for daily moisture.

- seal with oil. (I use olive but use whatever your hair likes)

Like I said earlier, youtube can help with specifics! Good luck and feel free to reach out with any more questions. 

Any other tips for her, guys? Or YouTubers with 3a-b hair you’d recommend?