Its okay if you might feel hollow and empty right now, soon the sun inside of you will shine again. Even if it seems like the rain might last forever.
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“People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own souls. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.”
~Carl G. Jung
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you know sometimes you guys have to get tired of your own bullshit and waiting for your manifestations. this is a fear based lack and victim mentality. if commanding your subconscious mind isn’t working for you, decide from now on that it will. you are god of your reality, what tf you say goes and any negative thought that isn’t in line with what you want has to get stepping. boss up and you’ll see results
EXACTLY like from now on, decide you get everything you want. stop whining and complaining how things never work out for you, and decide you are manifest everything you want quickly and easily. remember - your word is law, and you ARE the main character!
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𝐀𝐝𝐯𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐅𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐋𝐚𝐝𝐲 𝐍𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐂𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐠𝐞
𝐈𝐭'𝐬 𝐚 𝐍𝐄𝐖 𝐒𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫!
A new semester has begun for us, Young ladies! It is important as Divine feminine young ladies, to take pride in taking care of our wellbeing, Appearance, surroundings, Network, & meet like-minded individuals. No matter what program you end up taking!
I just entered my second year of Uni in September, so far it's been going by super fast! I won't lie to you, It's been a bit of a bumpy ride! Managing balancing my school work, running my blog page and extra-curricular activies. Thankfully, I am managing quite well and just finished writing all my midterms! I wanted to share with you girlies some of the few ways I've been able to fully embrace my femininity while in University+ the best ways to mingle with potential bachelors on your campus community.
𝟏. 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐬 𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑𝐘𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆!
Yes, I know! This is a bit superficial. But I need to give you the truth! We are all judged by our appearances first in life! so why not start by leaving a good impression! On your classmates, lecturers, and staff on campus. You don't want to be that person, rolling into class with the same PJ's worn last night. Unkept hair & nails.
People address you based on your appearance so always making sure you look well kept and put-together is a must.
My mother always taught me "you dress the way you want to be addressed!". If you look like a princess you'll be treated like one and if you look unkept.. people will treat you as such".
If you are like me and hate planing out outfits for the day of your classes. Try planning them a day, or two before your actual lecture. So you won't feel like you are pushing yourself. If you wear makeup. Try waking up an hour or two earlier. To pamper yourself & wear put on a light beat of makeup.
Since we wear masks on our campus my time is cut in half! only light concealer, light blush, and mascara (when I don't have lash extensions.)
Since my semester started in September people have just been treating me 100% better. I've had both men and women open doors for me. A random guy paying for my lunch, and had way better feedback from my professors during class time! Trust me you don't want to slack on your presentation! You are your brand and you must treat yourself in the highest regard.
𝟐.𝐌𝐞𝐞𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞-𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐚𝐦𝐩𝐮𝐬!
Network, Network, Network! Think about it you’ve paid thousands of dollars to attend the college/university you are enrolled in now. As a student, you have access to upcoming doctors, engineers, nurses, business owners, lawyers, etc. You mingle with some of the best people in academia in your city, people with MSC's Ph.D.'s and so much more! This is the PERFECT opportunity, for you to meet other leveled-up feminine women, future associates, bachelors, or even a future spouse 😍. Listen, you only have four years so make it count! Join clubs, societies, sororities (if available)& meet as many people as possible! You’ll never know who might come in handy after graduation.
Getting good grades and a high GPA is important. However, having good connections with people will take you further in life. It holds more weight than your degree alone. So make the best of it while you're still in there.
For the love of all things good! Stay away from Hook-up culture!
I do promote that you date in college. it’s an excellent way to practice how to properly vet the men who seek interest in you. Don't be fooled, some of these guys on your campus are simply looking for “a good time." It is up to you to fish out the serious men, from non-serious men. Find out what their goals are in life, where they see themselves in 5 years? Do they want a family in the future? ask as many vetting questions as you can before and during your date.
Make sure that guy takes you on a PROPER date! “Netflix and chill” IS NOT A DATE! Yes, I know your roommate might be doing it, your classmates are doing it and those hormones are flowing. But, you don't want to be given a bad label! Honestly... it’s not worth it. Need some game when it comes to dating? Check out this post here.
𝟑. 𝐌𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐚𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭/𝐝𝐨𝐫𝐦-𝐫𝐨𝐨𝐦 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐫𝐲!
You will be spending A LOT of time in your dorm room/apartment during the semester! Wouldn’t you want your room, to have a “homey” "Calm" welcoming appearance when you walk inside? Your room is a reflection of how you treat yourself both inwardly and outwardly. People will notice! If there is dirty laundry on the floor, dirty dishes & you haven't changed your bedsheets. Take this as a sign to change the way you live ASAP!
You might be living with someone else. So it's important to learn how to take care of your surroundings! Fill your room with nice things according to your aesthetic! Put flowers in your room, have a candle to add a bit of character or a diffuser turn a plain old dorm room/apartment into your version of what luxury is! If you're looking for some dorm room/apartment ideas check out my Pinterest board for some ideas.
𝟒. 𝐏𝐥𝐚𝐧 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐚 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐝𝐚𝐲!
Being in Uni/College can be stressful! Especially during midterm and exam season. I can remember myself pulling all-nighters, with a double espresso in my hand, reading old notes & memorizing the terms I needed for my exam. However, please don't overload yourself!
If you haven't already bought yourself a planner or use an Online one ASAP!
Planning your weekly, daily, monthly routines is essential for us college girlies! I'd recommend that you set out at least one day of the week, specifically for working out, self-care, hanging out with friends & Family, and doing extra-curricular. It is important to focus on your studies & pamper yourself. It is essential to reconnect yourself with your divine feminine energy. if you are more interested in "Ways to reconnect with your feminine energy check out my post by clicking here!
𝟓. 𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐁𝐮𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐬
Regardless, if you are working a part-time job, taking out a student loan, or getting an allowance from your parents. It is super important to be on top of your finances! Mastering this skill at your young age (18-23) is necessary! This will have an impact on your finances post-college. Like I mentioned above, a planner will become your best friend! Plan out how much you intend to spend on groceries, eating out, shopping, miscellaneous items, rent, etc.
Take a financial literacy class, invest the money you have, and watch it grow over time, start a 41k account, retirement saving account, life insurance stocks, crypto, Begin building up your credit score, etc. You might be on a tight budget now that you're in school. But once you graduate, you'll be making way more money! With the financial skills you’ve learned, you’ll be able to manage your money 100% better than if you didn't.
Have any lovely tips you’d like to share?
Are you currently in college right now?
Start a discussion in the comments bellow!!
Until next time my loves 💛
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Well, I'd like an advise or maybe an opinion.
(English isn't my native language but I hope It'll be understandable)
To be honest I could never understand romantic love or sexual attraction. When I was a kid, I used to think that when I'll grew up could understand and then fall in love as everyone does.
When a was a teenager I really tried to feel love. Always and everywhere I heard that I needed it, all TV shows, movies, music, books, even people, everything or almost everything always turned around romantic love, but I couldn't felt it myself. It was like if I were missing something, like I was incompetent, like something about me was so wrong because I simply couldn't, when according almost all people in the universe it's the most important thing. That feel love was what makes a human a human but I couldn't feel it and I was so angry against myself.
Several times I chose a boy I tried so bad feel something, anything. Tried to heard romantic songs and imagined that I felt in that way. Even after "Love is Love" become a popular phrase I tought that I needed get in love more than ever, with anyone while it were love. (Yes, I was silly)
Sexuality wasn't better, I couldn't understood why people, all my friends wanted sex I felt weird, like a child who wasn't mature enough but I had hope that one day I'll could feel it. I remember seen how all teenage series or books main characters wanted sex, how It was so important and people who don't feel in that way were weird or robots but it doesn't matter 'cause at the end they'll get "The right one" and they'll taste how incredible sex is.
"When I'll older, I'd feel all these beautiful things and... at the end I'll be normal" was something I tought a lot when I felt weird, strange and wrong against myself.
Last year I found Aromatic and Asexual Tag. I couldn't belive it but I wasn't sure how I feel aboult it. I'm so scared, too afraid that never I could feel love or have a sexual attraction.
I feel like I'm born without something so important, incomplete, boken.
Honestly, these types of messages are always so hard to respond to. I personally never felt bad about being aro or ace, when I used to be ace, and so it's hard for me to relate. The best I can do is to offer some of the reasons I feel okay as myself, an aro individual, and hope that something helps.
To start with, "normal" was a goal I could never reach. Ever since I was very young, other kids always identified me as the outsider. I'm neurodivergent, mentally ill, chronically ill, and agender. Normal kids could run in gym. Normal kids didn't feel weird and unsettled when they were called a girl or boy. Normal kids could nap around each other, and did not worry uncontrollably about having a cruel prank pulled on them if they slept. Normal kids would talk with other kids, and did not enthusiastically spend hours tiling patterns with shape blocks. I was not a normal kid, and I knew pretty quickly that I never could be.
When I first came across aromanticism and asexuality, my response was more or less "oh, neat! more terms in this community that I don't understand." It took another year before I truly took a look at them and had a dawning awareness that they fit me. I wasn't worried about not having romantic relationships or sex - neither seemed like my type of thing. Neither romance nor sex would, in fact, really be my thing up until I was 15.
I had an orchestra concert on my birthday that year. Of course, it always seemed to line up that way - I played in a concert every birthday from my 9th through my 18th. This one would end with my standpartner asking me out - and me saying no, I'm sorry, I'm not interested in people that way. She was very upset, but took my answer at face value. The problem was... she was from a very, very rich family. Every single person I talked to all night, and through the week would tell me I should have said yes - have I seen the clothes she wears? Have I not noticed that they were expensive? (I hadn't, actually.) It didn't matter if I didn't love her - she was rich and I should have said yes anyways.
I carried that with me. I kept talking with her, discovered our highly interconnected friend group, and realized that she was fast becoming my best friend. I introduced her to someone who she then dated, and got her out when I saw the red flags piling up. People kept talking about how I should give her a chance. So... I did. And the emotional labor kept piling up.
TW for discussions of unhealthy relationships, dubious consent in sexual encounters, and mentions of suicide baiting and suicide threats. Skip to bolded green text to avoid this content.
Looking back, there were red flags very early on. She asked only with her hands and took my surprise and physical reactions as consent. She and I were both living in abusive environments and highly depressed - but while I could and would try to bring myself back when I got too far, she wouldn't. She'd discuss how I was the only reason she stayed around - and how, if I left her, she might commit suicide. I soldiered on, dumping emotional labor in.
A boy with a crush on me suicide baited her in hopes of making the emotional ask on me so bad that I'd lean on him and break up with her. After the messy conclusion of that experience - so traumatic that I have PTSD flashbacks around it at times - she determined that she was too much of a wreak to talk to me. I told almost no one of what had happened to me - but I was blamed for her condition and not "helping" enough when it was over a month before she recovered emotionally.
End of TW.
I learned that society thinks romantic relationships are a beautiful thing we should all aim to have. I learned that they could be awful, and society would deem it my fault if it wasn't. Of course, some people had good relationships - but during the near year in which I dated someone who I thought was my best friend and dearest companion, I never felt like she did towards me. I never grew more comfortable with any romance. I just learned how to suffer more in silence and help others.
I like being aromantic. I like being queer. These communities have taught me that I am worth more, and deserve better than to force myself to perform romance for an unrelenting crowd. I've been encouraged to learn more deeply what brings me joy, and to let go of expectations that were never going to bring me joy. I learned that I could redefine what romance and sex and children meant in my life.
I can still support my friends in their romantic endeavors, even if I find it, in all honesty, confusing. I can have sex if I want to, and establish boundaries. Even if I don't want to be a parent, I can always help with child-rearing. I am allowed to be me.
And really? The saddest thing of all was when I couldn't be me, and I had to listen to society even when it meant harm to my well-being.
Not being aromantic.
- mod axel
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i got a tiktok from a dude (who has a rather large following) who makes anime related content and he made a vid abt the new twst anime, and proceeded to incorrectly describe it and basically dumb it down to “hot anime guys” :/ like yeah theyre hot but there’s more to twst yk
Yes, there's a lot of misinformation being spread by people first being introduced to the franchise, and a lot are taking it at face value as "Disney does hot anime boys". However, let's be mindful that it's likely many people's first impressions so there is likely little research done before they give their thoughts. I don't doubt that a lot of us current fans also had similar thoughts when we initially learned about Twisted Wonderland. What's happening now is the same thing, except this time we, the current fans, have the foresight to know that we shouldn't judge a book by its cover. These new people/potential fans don't have the luxury of that foresight.
It's frustrating that others are quick to judge something that we enjoy so much and that we know is capable of being deep and interesting. I get that. But when engaging with people who may not know any better, it's better to be civil and politely educate/correct them instead of being annoyed or otherwise inflammatory. We don't want to stoke animosity between the fandom and people outside of the fandom, or else we'll garner a reputation of being generally toxic.
Let's try to be open minded about this, and think of it as the potential to have more friends to share TWST theories, art, writing, and other fan content with!
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got these clowns today! but theyre quite dirty.. and theyre all porcelain! im gonna try to clean/restore them, if anyone has any advice for it id really appreciate it!
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Do you have any tips for writing a hook to begin a novel? Love your writing btw!
hey, anon! i'm not going to lie, i have puzzled over this one for ages, because i don't really have a 'how-to' type of answer for this one. at the end of my puzzling, i have arrived at the conclusion that writing a hook is quite a lot of instinct and a sprinkling of clever planning.
but it's difficult to give advice on how to do this in a step by step manner, so i'll just tell you what i do, and then you can take what you will and leave what you won't. without further ado:
it's all about ooh factor.
you want to start your novel in a way that makes it impossible for the right reader to put it down. (note: i say right reader, not any reader, because preference matters)
narrow the beginning of your book down to the thing that makes you go "ooooh" and start there. (note pt 2: if you think hard and can't find an "oooh" moment in your opening section, you might be starting your book in the wrong place)
i like to do this by jumping right in and telling the reader something very important right off the bat. often, in elenko style, the first line tells something that the protagonist won't know for quite a while. it really depends on what genre you're writing in as well, because different tone will call for a different writing style.
for your convenience, i have a list of the first paragraphs of (almost) all of my projects in one post. feel free to take a look and not the difference in tone based on genre and narrator voice!
i hope this was helpful!
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Can you please share your experience with the whole commanding your subconscious thing? Does it work? How much does it take?
Yes it works very well! I like using it a lot because it brings pretty instant results for me. You don’t have to command more than once but some people do it a few times to solidify it (in their conscious mind mostly). I like to affirm a little alongside it just to keep my confidence up. I was basically like “I don’t have to deal with this. It won’t turn into a problem. It will go away right now.”
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I have a question about gender identity. During the pandemic I realized I'm not cis, so I started looking for my gender identity and for a time I thought I was a trans woman, then a few months later, I decided that I'm agender, because I thought that gender is something secondary to me. Yet a few days ago my identity, once again, changed. I still don't really care that much about gender, but I also want to be a girl and wear a pretty dress. Is there any way to refer to that identity? Please help
maybe check out demigirl, girlflux, or genderfae
demigirl is simply being partly a girl, girlflux means moving between agender and girl, and genderfae means moving between genders that don't include masc genders.
Hope that helps feel free to send any follow up questions or DMing me for more help, also consider checking out @demigirl-culture-is, @girlflux-culture-is and @genderfae-culture-is
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««Is your equilibrium off? 🌏»»
~via Healers of the Light
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What do normal people do when they don’t feel well?
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You want proof of your desires? That’s okay, lots of people want proof. I’ll GIVE you proof. You desired it. That’s the proof. You can’t NOT get it now, how can you not get something that you already have? No, YOU desired it, now it’s YOURS. There’s your proof. Now relax about it, you can’t accidentally send a package back when you’ve already taken your item out and thrown the box away, like how could you accidentally do that? It’s yours and it’s there, just relax.
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when 911twt is right
(by experience, you won't get the answer you want and you' gonna joke or worst.)
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This has been on my mind to share so I will. This is for my young girls (18+ of course cause no one under 18 should be following me) but everyone can use this advice.
Girl, if you get a bad feeling or just wanna wait when it comes to a guy please trust that feeling. Last night, I remembered that I was talking to this guy and we were planning to get freaky, but our schedules were horrible. So I would have to drive 30+ minutes to meet a guy for the first time at his house late at night. That day I got a bad feeling so I suggested we waited another month so we could meet in public. Man, dude flipped his shit on me. Basically called me a tease and telling me I wasted his time.
I never been so happier to get that type of response because I knew the right thing. I was like 24-25 at the time and the man was 30 or older. So you mean to tell me this grown ass man doesn’t know patience or how to make a young woman feel comfortable? This is why I say men are trash. And the funny thing is he tried to message me months later 😂 babyyyyy I ignored that shit.
Anyways I want y’all to trust your gut and think about your safety first. This is not a kind world, so you gotta be careful. Hopefully this helps someone 💙 y’all be safe 😘
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To all the besties here pls check out scarleteen dot com for advice about sex, masturbation, and everything else related, for penis people and for vagina people as well (or if yall are just writing smut? Hehe) stay educated!
Thank you! 💜
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I say my affirmations out loud everyday and try to think positively which is kind of hard bc I kinda stress about controlling every single little thought so it's not as fun for me anymore, but I'm also having trouble living in the end. I know you're supposed to ignore the 3d but it's hard when I look in the mirror and clearly see my current face is not my desired one, and I have to live out my circumstances everyday that are not my dream life. Also when bad things happen it's hard for me to stay positive and be CERTAIN everything will fall into place. Into tips? I really want to be successful at this :(
you should work on your self concept and don't worry about controlling every single thought. remember that not all thoughts manifest, so it'll all be alright !
if you feel uncomfortable living in the end, i suggest simply knowing that your desire is coming to you asap. it works like a charm and can help you feel better !
when it comes to circumstances, remember that they don't matter at all because it's a logical concept. and there is no logic at all in manifestation.
you don't have to force yourself to be positive all the time, because that isn't healthy. a better way would to accept the 3d but know it'll change, aka being optimistic instead. everything is gonna be alright, have faith because anything is possible and you will get your desires !
sending you all the love and inner peace out there anon, stay strong ! love youuu
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Hey? I'm new in the community of manifestation and I'm still trying to learn and implement it. I am confused tho. What's the difference between law of attraction and assumption? If you could help me I'll be thankful.
The Law of Attraction deals with vibrations and frequencies to attract things that you want to you. It often has more limiting beliefs coming from the coaches and it’s kind of looked down upon by people because of the toxic positivity a lot of the coaches teach. They also place more emphasis on an outside power rather than your own internal power to get everything you want (like the universe). And it’s more about the “new crazy technique.” They say, if you want to attract a certain thing and it doesn’t come immediately, then it must “not be meant for you.” They also say that to manifest something, you must be in a high vibrational state (happy), otherwise it won’t come. They also look down upon sp manifestations. I’m not saying everyone who uses the law of attraction is like this, but that’s how many of the coaches present it to the people who’d like to learn. It’s a very personal decision whether you use any of the laws that are available to us to manifest, so don’t take this as me saying it’s necessarily bad to want to use the law of attraction, because it isn’t. There are just a lot of things in the overall consensus of the teachings that are holding a lot of people back, I think.
Then, the law of assumption uses your subconscious mind (the power that you have within you) to manifest literally anything you want. If you want it, then it’s meant for you to experience. You can shift realities, you can revise the past, you can manifest huge things instantly and out of nowhere, you can defy “logic” basically. You use your internal assumptions and dominant beliefs to create a new life around you, most often through affirmations. The people who teach it encourage you to remove those limiting beliefs you have and change them into something much more beneficial to you. They listen to lectures by Neville Goddard and read The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy. To manifest, you just have to assume it’s yours and persist in that belief.
Law of Attraction — if you want something, stay in a high-vibrational state, and you will get it.
Law of Assumption — what you assume will become your reality.
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