How to become a bad bitch & completely revamp your reality.
Law of assumption:
Before I start giving you guys my tips, I wanted to let you all know that I follow the law of assumption. Meaning a lot of my advice is going to be surrounding this law, which basically states that your thoughts and assumptions about yourself and your reality, manifest.
Leading us into TIP #1:
Accepting your truth as the creator of your reality.
It may feel like things are permanent and impossible to change right now, but that’s only because you’ve deemed them to be that way. It’s very easy to fall into the “victim mentality.” This way you can spend the rest of your time on this earth blaming the world for the way your life is, instead of taking both, responsibility and control over your reality.
Whether you believe it or not, YOU ARE THE ONE WITH THE POWER, except you’ve been giving it all away to your outer world by caving in and falling victim to whatever your shitty circumstances may be at the moment. And that is where you’ve gone wrong.
Your circumstances do not define you, you define your circumstances.
If there’s something that you want to change, you CAN change it; right now even. The only reason you’re having difficulty with this, is because you’re limiting yourself. So stop doing that and realize that there are no limits.
Everything you see in the outer world today was once only a thought. Anything you can imagine or create in your inner world, CAN and WILL reflect into your outer world if you deem it important enough.
The reason I say that is because whether you want something or not isn’t always relevant; if you dwell on it enough, and put a lot of your energy and focus onto that subject, it will manifest. This is why if you have an assumption like, for example, “all guys/girls are the same,” you will begin seeing a pattern in the type of man (or woman) you attract. Even if you find someone you think is perfect, if you still have that same underlying assumption patiently waiting to manifest when you least expect it, it sure as fuck will. You’ll then see that same perfect person slowly but surely turn out to be just like everyone else, because that’s what you decided they were gonna do.
However, don’t freak; you can change this by changing your assumptions, which I’ll dive deeper into a little later.
Moving onto TIP #2:
Getting out of your slump.
Taking breaks to reevaluate yourself and your life, and to work on your￼ mental health is perfectly okay, until you use that as an excuse to completely give up. Sometimes shit can be hard, losing motivation is normal; which is exactly why you cannot rely on it to be the only time you choose to put in effort.
I know just how hard juggling both your depleting mental health and your mess of a life can be, which is why I’m not asking you to disregard your needs or to act like nothing is wrong. I’m asking for you to do the exact opposite, I’m asking you to take care of yourself.
Again, I know that it can be extremely hard, but at some point you are going to have to get out of bed and show your mind and body the love that it deserves. No step is too little, baby steps matter too; what’s important is that you try. Whether your accomplishment of the day is brushing your teeth, or reaching out to a close friend you’ve unintentionally isolated from, self care is self care & I’m proud of you.
Things you can do to feel better and be more active in your life:
Develop a routine— this builds self discipline and can help you feel more organized.
Make daily “To-Do” lists— this especially helps those who feel as if they’re being unproductive or wasting their days away because at least now you’re getting the things on your list done. And even if the things on your list are things you may view as small, they still count. They don’t have to be chores or something boring either, in fact, I recommend you putting things down that you like. Something productive and fun like drawing, maybe reading a book or finishing that show you ghosted last month.
Declutter your space— I believe that messy physical environments are most likely a result of a messy mental and emotional environment. Doing things like cleaning your room or not letting the trash pile up, shows that you aren’t going to give in to the laziness and that you are willing to make a change.
Declutter your space pt. 2— meditating and journaling can help you release the things casting shadows over the space inside your heart and mind, therefore giving you a safer, more calm and peaceful mental environment.
Find new interests/Break bad habits— get a hobby, indulge in things that bring you enjoyment and raise your vibrations. distance and detach yourself from people who keep you feeling low, and stressed out & change the music you listen to to songs that have a more positive message to them.
There are obviously way more things you can do, but I chose to list only the ones I feel are the most important so that this wasn’t too too long.
The last thing on the list is complimenting yourself— the way you talk to and about yourself is literally everything…which I’ll explain next, but no seriously, talk kindly to yourself. stop indulging in self deprecating jokes, and don’t surround yourself with people that do. building confidence and falling in love with who you are is definitely one of the best things you can do for yourself, and simply giving yourself a compliment each day is a nice start to making that happen.
Which brings us to TIP #3:
Developing a healthy relationship with yourself.
Realizing your worth: quit settling. be picky, have high standards bitch that’s okay!!! you shouldn’t have to lower your bar for a bum EVER, when there are people out there that WILL meet your requirements & give you the treatment that you deserve.
Setting boundaries: set boundaries with yourself and others, make it clear what you will and will not be tolerating. stop condoning behavior that the version of yourself you dream about wouldn’t.
Creating a good self concept: self concept is your belief system surrounding, you guessed it, yourself. think about who you want to be, what you want to attract, and start thinking from the perspective of that person because you are that person tf?!
What you think about yourself WILL manifest, in ways that you might not even notice you’re the one causing. Even saying something like “I have bad luck” is going to make bad things happen to you, at what you feel to be random times, but it’s not random; you manifested it.
Having a good self concept is essential. It’s not an option. I know a lot of people in this community say it is, but I’m telling you right now, it’s not. You shouldn’t want to hate yourself goofball. Stop making shit harder than it has to be and develop a healthy relationship with yourself right tf now.
Affirming accordingly / keeping your thoughts in check.
This is VERY important okay? You MUST keep your mf thoughts in check because your reality is a direct reflection of your subconscious mind, and it will always be that way. You can’t affirm for a day or two and then fall back into that self hating rabbit hole and expect to see changes weirdo.
Stop over complicating affirmations. You’re constantly affirming just like you’re constantly manifesting, the only difference now is that you’re aware of it. For example: you ask your mom for McDonald’s, she says no, you accept that as true and go “damn, guess I’m not getting McDonald’s today.” And then boom, no McDonald’s for you. But if you were to have persisted in the assumption that you were getting McDonald’s that day, and she did say yes, then guess who tf is getting McDonald’s?! Yeah exactly. I’ve done this multiple times so I’m speaking from experience.
Some people like to loop their affs robotically, if that works for you…do that. If rampaging and ranting to yourself in your head, or outloud in the mirror works for you, then do that. If saying your affirmations as complaints works for you, THEN DO THAT!!!!!! you make the rules babe I really don’t gaf how you do it, just affirm for your shit and persist in that new mindset. For me, I recommend saying blanket affs mostly, affs that cover everything like:
Manifestation is so easy for me.
Everything always goes my way.
I have everything I want and more.
My life is perfect etc etc…
& then whenever you think of a specific desire you have, like clear skin for example, affirming for your clear skin:
“I love having clear skin” “my skin is flawless” and so on.
Remember that you can’t just do this for a week or two, and then when you get your desire you drop all of the work you were doing to fix your mindset and then slip again. NO. This is your new story, your new reality; you MUST persist in that shit always, just like you already do with the old story that doesn’t serve you.
So if you’re manifesting clear skin and you see a pimple the next day, you don’t go “man this ain’t even working. fuck this, I’m never getting clear skin” because that’s literally the opposite of what you’ve been affirming, and it’s a belief you already had impressed into your subconscious so further affirming for it just overwrites that affirming for clear skin you did the day before.
You are god. Anything you could possibly imagine can be yours if you really wanted it to be. Absolutely nothing is off limits. Period.
TIP #5, the fifth and final tip:
Carry yourself with confidence and know it’s done.
This means you do not react when something doesn’t go your way, that’s impossible. Just adapt the new mindset that everything always works out in your favor, because then the 3D has no choice but to conform to that fact.
You want to go to that party tonight but your parents said no? So? You are going to that party. Don’t sneak out or put yourself in a possibly dangerous situation, just know that you are going despite what they said. Mentally make them tell you yes, affirm that they did and go get ready bae.
You want that promotion but your boss is an asshole? No he’s not, he’s nice and he respects you. You’re literally his favorite employee, which is why you are getting that promotion.
Don’t stress out about outer circumstances cause all that shit is temporary, it’s literally just a reflection of your old story. Write a new one, be confident in your power, and know that shit is done; everything you want is already yours.
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𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘱𝘵 + 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘧𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘢𝘧𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴
I recognise my own worth and value.
I have healthy self esteem.
I love and accept every single part of myself.
I am the golden child.
I am literal perfection in every way.
My confidence is to die for, I am the main character.
I never settle for anything less than what I deserve and I deserve only the best.
I am the it girl/guy/etc.
I am addicting.
I am alluring, enticing and charming.
I am divine.
I am naturally talented at all that I do.
I am immune to negativity and self doubt.
I priotise myself.
I always feel confident and capable.
I am authentically myself at my rawest form.
I am so effortlessly myself that other people feel super comfortable to be themselves around me.
I have perfect self concept.
I never seek the validation of others for fulfillment because I am already fulfilled within.
I am worthy of every blessing coming my way.
I am extremely blessed and I have a lot to offer to the world.
I have so much love for myself that this love overflows to everyone around me.
I shine with the brilliance of royalty.
I am the gem that will change the world.
I embody my higher self in everything that I do.
I take actions daily that awaken my personal power.
I speak my truth boldly without any hesitation.
I take care of my needs and well-being before anything else.
I honour and respect my values and boundaries.
I am confident in what I have to offer the world.
I am worthy of respect and admiration.
Every word and action of mine is precious to this world.
I believe I am the most gorgeous person alive.
I am so fucking in love with the absolute god/goddess I truly am.
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What boosts your self-esteem?
Venus in the 1st house
Appreciation from others for who you are (not only appearance but personality) raises your self-esteem. Also, you feel good when you set goals and reach them quickly and straightforwardly. Satisfaction with your physical appearance boosts your self-esteem.
Venus in the 2nd house
Having enough money to allow yourself everything you want raises your self-esteem. Financial security boosts your self-confidence. Also, your self-esteem is good when you feel protected and safe. When you don’t need to worry about stressful things.
Venus in the 3rd house
Talking to others and others listening to you raises your self-esteem. You like it when you can express your honest opinion and people appreciate that. Also, expression of your communication talents, learning, and sharing new information boost your self-esteem. And when you have activities with your friends!
Venus in the 4th house
The feeling of being loved and protected by your close ones raises your self-esteem. Also, when you have people who you care about. Having support (your loved ones) boosts your self-esteem. You feel good when your emotions and feelings are sorted out and you don’t need to worry about something.
Venus in the 5th house
Expression of your creative talents and others appreciating and loving what you are doing raises your self-esteem. Also, you feel good when people laugh at your jokes. A specific thing but winning games whether it be computer games or anything else helps to raise your self-esteem. Also, winning at anything as well! Being the best is a theme.
Venus in the 6th house
Working hard raises your self-esteem! Doing your work in the best way possible and getting appreciation for that boosts your self-confidence. Also, when your health is good and you follow all the hygiene procedures that help you to feel better physically, your self-esteem is on a good level. Also, helping someone boosts your self-confidence.
Venus in the 7th house
Being in a relationship that feeds your self-confidence raises your self-esteem. You feel good when someone loves you and shows that. Also, when your life is balanced, harmonious, and without critical stress. You feel good when you enjoy aesthetically beautiful things whether it be a good wine or a beautiful place.
Venus in the 8th house
Helping someone to heal their past traumas raises your self-esteem. Also, your traumas as well. You feel good when you can use your intuitive talents to help someone. You have self-confidence when you have a close and intimate bond with someone. Also, trusting your special one and them trusting you raises your self-esteem.
Venus in the 9th house
Knowing something and teaching that others raise your self-esteem. You have self-confidence when others ask you for advice. Also, you feel good when you can share your opinions and philosophies. You like to help others to expand their horizons and teach them new interesting information.
Venus in the 10th house
Your self-esteem is good when others think well of you. Your self-confidence depends on your public image so be careful with that! Also, working for your purpose and getting respect for that boosts your self-esteem. You feel good when you have ambitions and goals and when you are capable of reaching them.
Venus in the 11th house
Being your authentic self and showing your creative ideas and dreams raises your self-esteem. You have self-confidence when you are appreciated for your uniqueness even if it is only one person who accepts you for who you are. Also, you feel good when you can be unpredictable without limitations and restrictions.
Venus in the 12th house
Being helpful to someone raises your self-esteem. You feel needed and loved when you can help your loved ones to overcome obstacles. Also, you feel good when you create something whether it be music or some kind of art. You have self-confidence when you can use your compassionate and intuitive talents (especially for healing the traumas of your loved ones).
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