Be that woman who is always learning and overachieving.
Be that woman who uses SPF50 even in winter because she has done her research on skincare and the importance of taking care of her skin all-year round.
Be that woman who looks polished to the nines for any occasion, simply because every day is an occasion to celebrate her divine femininity.
Be that woman who wears her pearls, silky robes and perfume even at home and doesn’t need a special occasion to enjoy luxury.
Be that woman who chooses her own wellbeing, her own selfcare, her own mental health, above all (because nobody gets a medal for being a doormat and sacrificing their life for another).
Be that woman who takes great care of her skin, body and hair by educating herself and investing in the best products for her - even before she's 40, or 30, even before any skin conditions appear forcing her to take better care.
Be that woman who is so incredibly brave to step outside her comfort zone and continuously challenge herself to become a better person, a kinder person; to do more, to achieve more, to be more.
Be that woman who whenever she hits rock bottom, she mourns her losses, but next day is reborn from the ashes like a phoenix, ready to conquer the world again, because the only direction she is moving towards is forward.
I once read that the universe responds not to what we want but to the energy we project into it. Learning this changed my life because it effectively shifted my mindset from “I want, I want, I want” to “I am.” I was introduced to the law of attraction at a very young age and have grown in my journey tremendously. The way I practiced the law of attraction as a college student looked a lot different than it did when I was 15 and has again evolved now that I’m in my early 20s. At 24, I think I’ve finally found the flow that keeps my energy aligned with the things I want to manifest. Let’s get into it.
Step 1: Identify Limiting beliefs and dispel them!
Unless your goal is to do something inhumanely possible like breathing underwater or mastering teleportation, there isn’t anything 100% out of reach even though our brains and society will have us think so. Identify your limiting beliefs and write ways they could actually be overcome. If possible, go a step further and identify the origin of these limiting beliefs. The universe will always provide proof of your thoughts.
Step 2: Take a break from social media!
When we spend hours on social media, we’re constantly exposed to other people’s accomplishments, goals, milestones etc. It’s normal to experience feelings of inadequacy and jealousy and unfortunately, these emotions are a breeding ground for limiting beliefs and low vibration.
Step 3: Raise your vibration!
I raise my vibration by doing activities that I enjoy. For example, in my dream life, I own a home with a chef's kitchen and all of the ingredients and spices I could ask for. Cooking in my everyday life and experimenting with new ingredients constantly reminds me of the life I’m manifesting. I also keep a “happy list” for when I feel my vibration waning. This list includes small paragraphs of happy memories, accomplishments/times I achieved a goal etc. Sometimes we need a reminder of our own power.
Step 4: Start Scripting!
Scripting is your best friend when manifesting! Manifesting requires a high level of specificity and writing out your manifestations will offer clarity not only for you but the universe as well. Write using all five senses! What does it smell like where you are? Can you hear sounds around you? What emotions do you want to feel? Be as vivid as possible when scripting and do it often. If you’d like to align your manifestations with the full moon, script during these times and leave your writing under the moonlight. Write often and read your writings. I’d also recommend keeping a separate journal for your scripting for safekeeping and easy access.
Step 5: Create a vision board!
More than likely, when you first came to learn of the law of attraction you were told to make a vision board, and rightfully so. Seeing your goals every day is paramount to working towards your goals on a daily basis. It can be so easy to fall into the banality of everyday life that we forget to work towards the goals that are considered “out of reach".
I have a physical vision board on a poster-sized foam board as well as a digital vision board made on Canva! I made my first physical board in college and throughout college, I realized that I began to ignore my vision board and it no longer had an impact on me. Why? Because my goals changed dramatically and so my vision board was no longer relevant to me. To combat this, evaluate your vision board yearly. Is this still what you want? Don’t be afraid to peel pictures off and replace them as needed. It’s okay to change, it’s okay to grow!
“A lot of times I can tell that certain circumstances makes my executive dysfunction worse. And recognising these ‘triggers’ can help you become more aware of your behaviors. Knowing what contributes to your executive dysfunction will help you work towards creating strategies to overcome it.”
I just read this helpful post by @adhd-attention-deficit-dumbass and it inspired me to figure out what my triggers are.
My Executive Dysfunction Triggers
Staying in my pj’s all day
Not washing my face
Sitting in my comfy chair first thing in the morning or before doing anything productive
Watching tv first thing
Watching more than one episode of a show at a time gives me the feeling that I don’t have the power to stop myself, and then I end up watching tv for hours or all day. Taking breaks in between episodes reminds me that I can balance work and leisure
Choosing a fun task over a necessary one sends a message to myself that those tasks which are crucial to my well-being are not worth it, and encourage laziness
Waking up late makes me start my day feeling guilty and incompetent, whereas waking up on time gives me the confidence boost I need to start my day right
Hitting snooze over and over again makes me feel lazy and incompetent
Alternating between the same 2-3 outfits
Being away from home for more than a day (without structure) causes me to fall out of my routine
Not brushing my teeth makes me feel like I’m not worth effort and care, and brushing my teeth makes me feel refreshed
Not showering — same effect as not brushing my teeth, plus makes me feel grungy, and like I’m not a functioning adult
And finally — this one is a result, as well as a trigger for further regression — avoiding tasks. When I start avoiding, it snowballs until I’m able to interrupt it and get back on track
Reading this, I notice that one thing that really makes my executive dysfunction worse is the belief that I’m lazy. I knew this already, but man, is it blatantly obvious when I see it written. So I suppose a good strategy for this is 1) Work on mindset and 2) Try really hard to get tasks done so I can support the mindset that I’m not lazy.
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Recently (last week) i started reading self-development books by Japanese authors or/and about Japanese principles and i got mesmerized by some of them so here i am, recommending you my favorite books which i have read recently.
The life-changing Manga of Tidying up, by Marie Kondo
This book got a 5 stars from me. Marie Kondo combines cleaning and organizing with finding happiness. You’d think cleaning is something everyone knows, yet many people feel ovewhelmed by the idea of having to clean. I like that Marie Kondo explains where to start so you get a list of steps and tips how to go about it but the whole experience is personal because you keep things which “spark joy” for you in a way or another.
She is also teaching you how to enjoy cleaning. The book mentions and explains the visualization process of setting a goal and by doing this, she is teaching you a life long habit. The fact that she is focusing on your happiness rather than the cleaning makes this perfect because you can keep whatever you want and she is not promoting some minimalist mindset as in owning as little as possible.
Kintsugi: The Japanese art of Embracing the Imperfect and Loving your flaws by Tomás Navarro
Most books of this kind promote how to focus on the “good” emotions and the bright side of life but this book teaches that focusing on the negative traits of life, humans, experiences etc.
I genuinely thought the first chapter which was about pain and suffering was just some method to get rid of the topic from the start but this is the theme of the book, to look at the not so pleasing things and learn how to deal with them. If you feel overwhelmed by anger, frustration, sadness often, this book is great.
My favorite part was the chapter about depression which was the most wholesome thing i have read in a while. Teaching someone to accept their depression and how to handle it in a gentle and non judgemental way is the most heartwarming thing you can read.
The Power of Chowa: Finding Your Inner Strength Through the Japanese Concept of Balance and Harmony by Akemi Tanaka
I finished this one a few moments ago and i write this post because of this book.
The author is a combination of everything here. She talks about good and bad parts of life while tackling every major topic you can stumble upon in life. She tries to teach how to accept yourself, deal with your emotions and also look for the bright side of things. On the other hand, she is also talking discrimination in Japan while praising the positive traits of the culture. I think she is the first author who speaks up about discrimination against women in Japan from the books i have read so far who fit in this category of self-development.
Another thing which i liked enourmously was the exercises/suggestions she gave out for different situations. I actually messaged a couple of friends after so i try out one of her exercises on them.
Bonus points for explaining kanji in her chapters. I think this is one of those books that can teach anyone something new.
Today I got my home set up just how I like it: minimal, but cozy. After living with a partner, I am nervous to be single and live alone. But sitting here in my space, knowing it’s completely mine, seeing it look how I want it to look… it is making the transition a little easier.
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