#but all im seeing is this gatekeepy toxic bullshit!

[bassenji]

There's a HIGHLY concerning amount of videos by people who have detransitioned, and are speaking against gender-affirming care being, in their words, too accessible. They are frustrated about how nobody stopped them and that everyone was way too supportive and unquestioning, and they have caused 'irreversible damage' to themselves (oh yes, they love that Abigail Shrier book).

They often have this tone about how being trans was just a stupid, cringe phase in their lives. They frame it like they were misguided, too influenced by gender positivity, even though from how they were speaking about it, clearly that gender transition was what they needed at that time, and it made them happy, and it's ok if their identity shifted to something else now.

It's mind-boggling how a person that embraced being trans, even for a brief period of their life, can suddenly go and create so much damage to other trans people. Even if they tried and figured out this is not the right thing for them, there are so many people out there who need to try that path too. Bigots are using these detransitioners as a prime example of why gender-affirming care should be strictly gatekept.

And re: regret and so-called irreversible damage. I am saddened that these people's gender exploration ended in them adopting a close-minded, cis-centric worldview. Because even if their body did undergo changes, one should know that a woman with a deep voice and facial hair is still a woman. And a man with breasts is still a man.

#my gender identity has been changing recently (transmasc->nonbinary feminine leaning) and im trying to find more people who talk about it #but all im seeing is this gatekeepy toxic bullshit! #stop being ashamed of trying different genders! #everyone should be allowed to explore! #this logic is so flawed to me #its like saying dairy should be banned because you drank milk once and found out youre lactose intolerant