#but that means i have to find a vintage ring and vintage [anything] hunting rapidly becomes a task of fractal complexity

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doing evil behaviors (looking up different methods of engagement ring sourcing to try to identify the most ethical one)

#as far as i can tell it's 'a vintage ring' followed closely by 'a vintage ring you have melted down into a different ring' #but that means i have to find a vintage ring and vintage [anything] hunting rapidly becomes a task of fractal complexity #that exhausts me until i give up #lab gems ... seem ... fine but i'm not sure how the labor conditions are for workers in them and not making a lot of research progress #'ethically sourced' gold seems nice but is hard to verify effectively and 'ethically sourced' silver might... not exist? unclear #now of course my girlfriend is a biosafety level 3 infectious diseases researcher who handwashes and adds and removes #gloves hundreds of times a day #and so this is going to be a not-actually-very-frequently-worn item #which only makes me feel more evil about it all. #we're‚ like‚ engaged in the sense that we have agreed we want to get married and my whole family knows we're planning on it #we're not engaged in the sense that their family doesn't know we're planning on it and we're not making it public or actually #planning a wedding. so. #acquiring a ring is like the least relevant part of this whole exercise and as mentioned will almost never even be used. so im fixating