#dealingwithchrisitans

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A Moment in the Life of a Daughter-in-law... with “Christian,” in-laws; or THE Mother, the wife, the decision maker...DEAL WITH IT!

Gotta love these "Christians," especially the ones who are "family." Greed, Jealous, and Judgmental , and all because they didn't get to do what they wanted to do with MY KIDS. MINE. The ones who came from my body...Then, saying I need to "grow up," and answer a phone call, that I never got. In fact I was told the matter of whether or not MY CHILDREN were going on a trip, an hour away, on a school night in the pouring rain was closed, b/c their dad had already said no.

I have a screen shot of said "Christian," and their true colors...name, and all. Ugly comments, things like: how I change my kids' minds about where they want to spend the weekend, etc. And how: "Deanna needs to remember whose house she is living in..."

 I live in a house with my husband (married July 19, 2013). It is not like I am a visitor, or girlfriend, or just some random person. I am well aware of who owns the house, and have offered more than once to pay rent, rent to own, etc. and I am always told: "No, you need to get out ASAP."

 I thought one of the main characteristics of a true Christian was to love one another, help out your neighbor, or in this case FAMILY. So you go to church and praise the lord, even donate money for missionaries to go and live in other countries in other people's homes, but you have an EXTRA house...and a son, "your son's wife," **b/c you never call me daughter, and your grandchildren who need a place to live. My husband works, and the bills get paid, but we are not in the position to buy a house, and rental property is not cheap. This is the first year I have not been at home raising my children, as now they are both in school. I am trying to get started on a career...this does not happen overnight. And here at Christmas... The time of your Savior's birth, the Lord who was born in a barn b/c no one in Bethlehem had any room for a man, his wife, and her baby *wasn't Joseph's son..j/s. - You make ugly comments, and remind how it is YOURS. Trust me...we are aware. We have also contacted HUD, and have been waiting for months for them to contact us. 

This house sat here for years with no one living here, and yeah, we have been here for 5 years. But the sale didn't seem so urgent until we moved in. I have said Thank you, countless times...perhaps you didn't hear me b/c my hair is blue, or my make up is bright, or I am simply a disgrace in your eyes. But really, thanks for kicking me when I am down. Thank you for bad-mouthing me to your son/MY husband. 

So again I say it: Thank you for allowing me to live with my husband and children in YOUR house. I appreciate having a roof over my head, and my children a home everyday. 

As far as telling me to "grow up," I will be 35 next month. I have a degree w/ a double major. I have a plan to get certified in medical billing and coding. I just wanted those 1st 5 years with my children, that so many mother don't get, and I was lucky enough to enjoy. I do the laundry, dishes, cook *not every night, but most of the time, keep the house running,  and take care of my kids. Maybe I don't have it together as far as my professional life is concerned, but I do have a plan. I also made the very grown up decision to marry your son, since the ultimatum was: my husband and children (one of them was still in utero) could live here...but not me, unless we got legally married. Which we did, and I love my husband, and had always planned to marry him when I could afford to have the wedding i wanted, with my family and friends, and YOU there to witness it. We have been together since May 2000. 

But I digress, I feel like I am a late bloomer perhaps, but am in fact: a grown up. And check who carries what phone, bc I did not receive a phone call. And if you did call there was a good chance I  was taking care of my children...baths, dinner, homework, and some play time... and just didnt hear the phone...I don't have time to constantly monitor my landline. The cell I carry only runs on wifi, and therefore doesn't receive calls. And furthermore I dont actually carry that phone, it is for indulging my social media fix, and taking pictures. So yeah, I am angry... And this is just one of the reasons. Merry CHRISTmas. ****The 7 virtues of being a Christian: Charity

Charity, in Christian thought, the highest form of love, signifying the reciprocal love between God and man that is made manifest in unselfish love of one’s fellow men. St. Paul’s classical description of charity is found in the New Testament (I Cor. 13). Perhaps a review of Corinthians is needed...just a thought. I am not trying to take advantage of anyone. But we can't just become successful and have money out of the blue, especially with debt, children, living in 2018 and having a fam vs. your view of raising one in the late 80's and early 90's...HUGE DIFFERENCE in pay vs price of everything. SO yeah...we are trying, and you could also practice another of the 7 virtues of being a Christian: PATIENCE.

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